My mom insists that it is all my sister-in-law's responsibility to make sure that my niece and nephew get to see her(my mom) on a regular basis. I think it should mostly be my brother's and mom's responsibility. She complains about the kids never coming over to her house, but then she gets a dog when she knows that my brother, sister-in-law, and nephew are all allergic to dogs. This is a frequent cause of disagreement` between my mom and me. I'd like an objective opinion. Am i crazy?
2007-11-15 12:59:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As a daughter-in-law who is always blamed for everything by my mother-in-law, I want to thank you for standing up for your sister-in-laws... And no, you're not crazy... Why doesn't she go visit them and leave the pooch at home!
2007-11-15 13:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by KaseyT33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How calls the shots at your brother house him or his wife? Most of the time mom runs the kids and what they do and don't do in that case I would agree with your mom, but no she should not get a dog if she knows they are allergic.
2007-11-15 21:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by bittywrap 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother sounds like a child.
She's just as responsible for initiating contact with HER grandchildren as your sister in law is in making the kids available.
And what does your mother think she's going to achieve by getting a dog when your sister in law is allergic to it?? She's almost making it impossible for your sister in law to come over with the kids anyway!
She needs an attitude adjustment and I think you're right. This is your family and I think you SHOULD be involved in such conversations.
2007-11-15 22:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy. That is not right that she got a dog knowing they cant be around a dog and complains they dont come over. Them children belong to your brother and sister in law so how come its her fault? Your mom should go over there to visit too it is on her as well. Sounds like shes acting childish and like she doesnt like your sister in law.
2007-11-15 21:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy and you are correct in your views. If your Mom wants to see the kids then she needs an attitude adjustment especially since she went and got a dog that people are allergic to. What was she thinking?
2007-11-15 21:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by April First 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is psycho hon, sorry.
I mean really.
She lays all this on her daughter in law while her son is free from ANY responsibility?
Cant your mom go see the kids and leave the dog at home?
Then her knowing they are all allergic to dogs, gets one?
I think she is trying to KEEP them away.
2007-11-15 22:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say your brother deals with his side ofthe family and your sis in law deals with her side of the family. It is not fair to leave it up to her when she doesnt even really know your mom and your brother knows her all to well. your brother has to be the one to make the desicion to go to your moms house. and now that the dogs are there thye should meet her somewhere , like take her out ot dinner or a park. also mom doesnt have to wait to see the kids, she should have her kids stay the night at her house(depending on the age) or take the kids out to get a lil closer to them. and your sis in law needs to take care of her side of the family, Does your mom think it is her sons respondsibility to make sure her side of the family sees thier kids? no thats silly. so you see i think you are right, it is your brothers deed. good luck.
2007-11-15 21:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
on offense but it sounds like your mom need to stop being a baby and go to her sons house to see her grandkids. Its just as much her responsibility as it is her daughter-n-laws! Now that she got a dog they will never come to her house.
2007-11-15 21:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your moms responsibility to make it known when the times would be best to have the grandkids over.Then,it is up to the parens of the children to decide when and how they get to see her.It is not just one person's responsibility,it is everyone involved.
2007-11-15 21:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by sacred_hart_99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, stay out of it!
secondly, your mom just wants someone to blame, and the "in law" is her best option. cuz who wants to blame their own flesh and blood, right?!
tell mom to talk to her son, or better yet, talk to the daughter in law directly. it's her issue with them, you should not be a part of it. and by the way, getting a dog that she KNOWS they are allergic to is just plan rude of her.
2007-11-15 21:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋