My BF and I have been dating for about a month. Everything has been going great except for the fact that although his Ex has tried every possible thing to get us to break up he STILL chooses to associate himself his ex and her family members. I've asked him, repeatedly to stop talking to them but for some reason he won't do it. The reason why I've asked him to do this is because all of them have disrespected me. It's really frustrating because he won't see my side of things and never really tries to stand up for me. All that he ever says is "That's dumb for them to do that..." But he never takes any action.
What should I do?
2007-11-15 12:38:22 · 7 answers · asked by Mya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
-I've tried ignoring it but there's something new everyday.
-He's known ex's family for many years
- Ex's family members have written very nasty things about me and he just simply ignores it
2007-11-15 12:44:34 · update #1
-I'm not trying to filter his friends at all, it's just that I don't feel that it's right for them to disrespect me the way that they do
- I had no problems with the ex whatsoever before she started causing drama
2007-11-15 12:46:55 · update #2
I went through a similar experience myself with my current BF. If his ex's behaviour is really upsetting you, and your BF isn't willing to stand up and put her in her place then I think you need to give him an ultimatum - he should put you as his priority now, not her and her family. Tell him, if wants to remain friends with them that's ok, but he must stand up for you and not let them make you feel the way you do.
If he still doesn't listen then I think you find yourself a new man. Hope thats a little help! x
2007-11-15 12:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by ::El:: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are the Rebound girl. He is not over his ex or he wouldn't be acting like this. I say you need to breakup with him ASAP until he is ready for a relationship again without all the baggage!! I know this is hard, but it is the best thing to do. Best Wishes!
2007-11-15 12:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by QTpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok honestly he's probably not listening because youve only been together for a month and youre already trying to filter his friends...
does he have a history of friendship with this ex? she may be a b***h to you, but they most likely have a history together that is deeper than your current relationship, sorry.
it sounds to me like you need to decide if its worth the relationship if he continues doing this and go from there...also can you deal with the ex and her bull and his continued association?
2007-11-15 12:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ambino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it was me i would tell him that if he really likes you he needs to stop doing that and if he doesnt u should find a new boyfriend because its a bad sign when they cant take ur side or even see your side
2007-11-15 12:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he should stand up for you around them
but you have no right to tell him who he can talk to and be friends with.
talk to him and try to compromise
2007-11-15 12:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by ohhhgoodness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it.
Or of course dump him.
2007-11-15 12:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like your pretty unhappy.
dump him.
2007-11-15 12:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋