Is it all my fault? Or does it go both ways?

Question

Well i have a friend thats a girl an we both have feelings 4 each other so we kinda are together 4 about two in half months jus dating lets see we kiss we have sex anyways she has a x-boyfriend that still has feelings 4 her i told her to tell him about me an her about a month ago well she didnt so last nite i took upon myself an did it 4 her in a nice way ok now shes pist that i did it an says she cant trust with stuff an that it wuznt my place to tell him see she doesnt want to lose the guy as a friend an what i told him broke his heart I feel really bad now an im so sorry that ive never even been this sorry in my life i want to be with her an i can totally see a future with her but she said we need to start over so i said ok.... QUESTION: should i have not said ok bkuz i think if she cared at all she would have said somthing when i told her to or am i to blame 4 all of it bkuz i told him instead of her? HELP ME PLZ

Answer 1

Basically she has a twisted relationship with him, inwhich she can't be within, intimatly, but she still loves him enough to be with him. This is dangerous for you, becuase you can't be honest, because she can't be honest with him. So they have a dysfunctional relationship and because of this, so do you with her, its just the way it works. So its on you, she isn't worth you, I've been here before, trust her purpose isn't as strong with you, as it still is with him. So this isn't so much a reflection of your bad choice in actions as in woman, sorry buddy.....