Someone please hear me out?

Question

Im just hating my life more and more each day.I have a lil mentally chlg.bro who i have been taking care of all my life.And i already have his responsibility now i even have to do house work.My sis is 19 has her own life so she's always out and dont do anything in the house.My family dont understands me either.Im already occupied with my bro and on top of that i have to look after the hous,i NEVER get time for myself.Not just that my life is really tough,i'v been going through depression.

There's this couple in my school that i see in the hallway and when i see them hugging and etc my heart starts beating fast it feels like its paining.Im not desperate for guys but i have always been lonely in life but now i dont even care if i dont ever get married.

Today in school my friend kept on asking me what's wrong?what happened?What am i suppose to tell them?Dont say that i need to talk to someone because i have tried that but no one cares or understands.And its not even about when im older i can move out or anything because believe it or not....God juzz wants me to be with my bro all the time that he didnt gave me any brains to do anything in life.

I tried working once but they fired me cuz i wasnt able to do the job.Trust me its more than what i told you here.Situations in my life have forced me to just stay home and dont go out cuz if i do something,than bad always happens i feel life punishes me whenever im trying to do something and just wants me to be servant of my bro.And i pray everday but when im sad I ask God what did i do wrong that that im going through this and when i do....tears come out of eyes that i cant stop.

Also no one likes to be around me or even talk to me.The few friends i have there not even my real friends they sometimes make fun of me.And not just them alot of people have mocked me and since im sensitive it hurts me more.I cant help but to just cry : (

Btw i'll be 17 in 5 months.

Answer 1

wow you are an awesome person you must be the greatest person in your brothers life. i know it must be hard for you at age 17 to do what you are doing. you must be a real loving person to sacrifice what you are for your brother. most people i know could not do what you do. and it is a shame that the people around you can't see this. I'm shore God will see to it that the love you show your brother will be returned but you have to be patient. God bless you and your brother.

Answer 2

My first question to you is this: If you did not want to hear "talk to someone" why did you post here??? You do not live in a vacuum so the answers to your troubles may be revealed while doing just that...talking to someone. If you keep this crap locked up in your head, you will stay there with your brother and watch your life pass you by.
Next..you are 17 years old.....these feelings are rather common for someone your age...this is the time in life where you strive to find your own identity...this is your JOB.
Since you dont know where you are headed in terms of who you are...who would NOT feel unsettled??? This is the time for you to be exploring your own values and seeing what happens. It is difficult to do this when you have the responsibility of caring for your brother, the house and all. Where are your parents? Have you considered that perhaps they have fed you some wrong information in order to keep you at home to care for your brother? They may have not done this on purpose or maybe they did, I dont know..I'd like to give them the benefit of the doubt.
Just because you were fired from one job does not mean that you can not hold another one. Find one that you can actually DO..set yourself up for success rather than failure. Sweetie, you have your whole life ahead of you. You will have many chances to be successful WHEN you believe you CAN be...and YOU CAN!!!!!!!!!!
I also dont believe that God wants you to sacrifice your life for your brother....there IS a middle ground where you can do both, if this is what you choose. Now is a good time to focus on YOUR dreams...what would YOU like to do with your life? Take small steps toward reaching your goals, even if that means writing in a journal, EVERYDAY, that you are a beautiful child of a loving God. Small steps are all that are required to heal the hurt you so clearly feel.
Finally, DO talk with someone. There ARE people who DO care....if you have not yet found one, keep looking, you WILL. HUGS

Answer 3

What you're doing is a good thing. At this present time you don't understand. God is only using you for his glory. I know you need some my time, and the only thing I can say is to pray,and ask God to let his will be done for your life. I'll also pray for you and that your family eyes and ears will be opened to see and hear what you're going through. In our hard times it's a test, 1. you must past the test and if you don't the same problem will come back just a different way. 2. Hard times come to strengthen us. It's very hard, but you must continue to do what you're doing because I know it's out of love. God will bless you More than you'll ever know. Even though you may feel lonely I can testify that you are not along. God has someone so very special for you. When this person comes into your life he'll truly appreciate you for who and what you are. The Spirit of God is all around you. Pray and ask God for a friend who'll love, honor and respect what you're doing. This friend should be a God fearing person. Everyday we go through a spiritual warfare, you're going to hurt because you're human. PRAY.....You can't control your feelings but you can your actions. I think I can read between the lines of the heart ache and pain you're going through and the only thing I'll say is to pray and ask God to show you what it is that you should do in regard to the situations that upsets you so much that you're afraid to go out for some quality time. I'LL BE IN PRAYER WITH YOU>>>I at times go through depression, but I believe the word of God--it's only a season. What ever he wants to give to us, show us it's in his timing. Stand with your feet planted. God has ordered your steps. When the tears want go away it's just God giving you strenght, this you must believe. God loves you so much. It's not to many people that will but their life on hold to take care of someone in need. You have a heart like David.

Answer 4

The first thing you have to do is learn to love your self, because if you can't love your self how do you expect others to love you. You are a loving person or you would not be taking care of your brother. At your age dom't worry about finding a boy friend , there is some one for every body. I'm sure you can feel the love that your little brother gives you, to be loved and return love is the most important thing that we can do in life. You have your whole life ahead of you to get a job and hold it. You can be the smartest person in the world, but if you have no love in your life ,you have nothing. Your life is fuller than you think, just learn to love your self

Answer 5

You do so have brains. Don't say that. You just haven't found found the right thing for you yet. I admire you for taking such good care of your brother. How many parents would love to have a daughter as responsible as you.

Is there a church near you anywhere that you can go to, with your brother if need be? Many churches, especially large ones often have many teen activities. I'm sure they would love to have you as well as your brother. You could make some new friends and they would probably love to help you with out sometimes.

Give it a try. Talk to someone from a church in your area. I'll keep you in my prayers. Keep your head up kiddo.

Answer 6

What about trying to work in a group home somewhere that you may be able to get your brother involved and work..if you question if this is your path go down the road a little further. Your life moves ahead no matter what, things change constantly. Maybe God has dropped you in the desert and he will meet you at the shore, you just have to walk there....

Answer 7

You have been given quite a heavy burden for one so young. Being 16 is hard enough without the being charged with your brother's care. I am very impressed by you.

Have you ever heard this song by the Hollies?

The road is long
With many a winding turn
That leads us to who knows where
Who knows where?
But I'm strong
Strong enough to carry him
He ain't heavy, he's my brother


So on we go

His welfare is of my concern
No burden is he to bear
We'll get there


For I know
He would not encumber me
He ain't heavy, he's my brother

If I'm laden at all
I'm laden with sadness
That everyone heart
Isn't filled with the gladness
Of love for one another

It's a long, long road
From which there is no return
While we're on the way to there
Why not share?


And the load
Doesn't weigh me down at all
He ain't heavy he's my brother

He's my brother
He ain't heavy, he's my brother

Few people know the origin of this song. During the Korean war civilians were being displaced by the constantly shifting tide of battle. The premise of this song came from a American Missionary who wrote of it in his diary.

As people were hurrying away from danger with what few possession they could carry, the Missionary spotted a young boy very skinny laboring along with his baby brother on is shoulders. The Missionary stopped the boy to offer some advice and was forever inspired by the reply of the child.

The Missionary said, "Son, why don't you leave him with me? You have done enough. He is too heavy for you". The child looked up at him in shocked disbelief, as if the man had just said something completely stupid. He replied, "He ain't heavy, he's my brother". It was as if the child thought the very idea of abandoning his brother was so ridiculous he could not believe he had heard the words.

That is what you remind me of. You deserve to live, you deserve to be happy. Your task is difficult and the road is long. Do your best and never despair. You will have your moments. You will one day have your own life. It will be wonderful.

Most importantly, you will always know that when you were given a task to care for your brother, you stepped up. You are a hero in my eyes.

God bless you. He knows how heavy a burden you carry. That is why he made you so strong.

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Answer 8

I sometimes experience the same thing with other people ignoring me.

What I come up with is they have issuse that they are working thru also and they are caught up in there on life.

Don't take it personal if they won't listen just say a prayer and listen to gospel music or sermons and tell your problem to God and sitback watch what happens they will come around eventually.

Also be quiet and they will wonder why you are not talking to them and they want give you the cold shoulder all the time.

Good luck and remeber to keep on praying change will come!!

Answer 9

Maybe God is trying to teach you something here. You said that you are a servant to your brother, don't you do because you love your brother. "What is the rest of family doing that they aren't doing something around the house, or sharing the duty to your brother and looking after him?"Of course you have brains, and you can do anything if you try",just pray and keep on praying, then you will see a difference in your life. Don't bemoan the fact that you are doing such and such, but go about doing things with a pray in your heart and with unselfish love.

Answer 10

We all have hard times in life. Imagine what Jesus felt like. He was treated like dirt by the ones that are God's chosen. He was rejected by many people. The bible says that God understands every hurt and pain that we feel, because Jesus went through it all too. He can sympathesize with us when we go through difficult times.
I went through many years of depression, and even turned away from God for many years, it just made things worse. God hears every cry of yours, and counts every tear. Just cry out to Jesus. I am speaking from experience, God really will take your broken heart, and if you let him, start to put it back together again. God is the only one that we can really talk to, 24/7, He is there. You dont have to travel anywhere, you just open your mouth, and talk with Him. If you would like another human to talk to, you can contact me. I will try and help you on your faith journey. Just remember, that no matter what your feelings tell you, they are so unreliable, but Christ is not. You are never alone.