Dress code for Islamic Women?

Question

I'm a muslim girl that is in grade 8. My family is real religious (well my dad, my mom is not that religious but she haves to follow my dads orders). I don't wear islamic clothing at all, well I don't wear a hajab and I don't really want to. I wear clothing like a normal girl does, I don't cover up too much, just normal. My father moved away but his words are always in my head "If you don't wear muslim women clothing (like hajab, long skirt and long sleeved shirt etc..) then you will go to hell, you have to cover up". Thoes words keep haunting me alot, I don't know what to do. I love my God, he is like my bestest friend that is always with me but everytime I hear something bad and unfair about Islam rules, I feel like a got ripped off, like Islam is not real and it took me along time to love my god and I don't want to lose him. I belive Allah dosnt care what you wear or whatever, I belive that he cares inside the most. If you don't wear islamic women clothes, well you go to hell?

Please give me a short, easy to read answer. I'm in grade 8 (13 years old) so yeah.. I usally ask questions like this and people answer long answers and I don't read it at all.

I wear kinda modestly or something. I don't wear makeup at all or something that is too flashy that attracts men. It is just something normal. I sometimes cover my breasts, I want to but it dosn't cover that much. I'm a sporty person, I do some girly stuff but yeah.

Answer 1

Allah doesn't write books. Stupid laws are written by stupid people.
Allah, the creator of all that is!..and some...uh,
frustrated old men try and turn him into the fashion police?
Sounds like your smarter than that.
God/Allah is Love, and nothing besides.

Answer 2

I realise you are young and sometimes it takes time for such things to be fully understood.
All I can say to you is that it is very easy to slip into thinking that you have a good relationship with God and that even if you do something wrong He will understand because its you and you're good after all so who cares if you don't follow things to the letter?
The point is that God has written these rules expressly for your benefit. If it didn't matter much He would not have listed them.
Nobody knows who is going to hell or not so I think this comment from your dad was a little harsh. I suppose dressing modestly is also for your own good.
At the end of the day the choice is yours, read the relevant chapters, think about your life, make your decision.
Whichever decision you make I hope it makes you happy.

Answer 3

Yes your father's words are quite right.God has spoken in the Qur'an in surah 7 AlAraaf verse 26,surah 24 An Nuur verse 31 and surah 33 Al Ahzab verse 59 that muslim women should wear hijab because all parts of their bodies are aurat(can not be seen by non muhrim) including their hairs.
So you should cover up your bodies from your toes up to your hair,except your face and your arms..God spoke that it is for your safety and as the evidence that you are a good muslim woman.If you love God you should obey to God's instruction.
You can put off your hijab and you can wear cloth as you like if you are at home and no non muhrim guest.

Answer 4

Here is the website :http://submission.org/dress.html

I dont agree 100% with Rashad Khalifa website content, but I agree with his interpretation:


FIRST RULE : THE BEST GARMENT

[7:26] "O children of Adam, we have provided you with garments to cover your bodies, as well as for luxury. But the best garment is the garment of righteousness. These are some of GOD's signs, that they may take heed."

This is the BASIC rule of DRESS CODE in the Quran. This is the first rule in WOMEN DRESS CODE in Islam (Submission).

SECOND RULE : COVER YOUR BOSOMS

The second rule can be found in 24:31. Here God orders the women to cover their bosoms whenever they dress up. But before quoting 24:31 let us review some crucial words that are always mentioned with this topic, namely "Hijab" and "Khimar"

THE WORD "HIJAB" in the QURAN

"Hijab" is the term used by many Muslims women to describe their head cover that may or may not include covering their face except their eyes, and sometimes covering also one eye. The Arabic word "Hijab" can be translated into veil or yashmak. Other meanings for the word "Hijab" include, screen, cover(ing), mantle, curtain, drapes, partition, division, divider.

see the link for further info

Answer 5

Nobody has the right to Be judge. If you believe that we have that right, then wouldn't we all be living in caves and tents. Fear of uncontrollable people comes to mind. So what is so civil in society that can't even see the importance of itself?

Answer 6

Hi there,

If you want us to give short and easy response ,read answer below.

Do what Allah(swt) ask you to do , and stay away from the things that Allah(swt) have prohibited for you.

Easy to understand?

Wallahwaalam
peace
htw_guy

Answer 7

There no dress code actually.
As long as cover everything but your face and palm.

See how beautiful she is
http://www.qotrun.com/new_arrivals_kerudung.htm

Answer 8

If you believe that your god doesn't care what you wear, you should be fine. If you're belief makes you happy, no one should be able to change that.

Answer 9

Asalamu alaikum sister,
I think you must first know the importance of hijaab beofre wearing it. Why dont you watch a video on youtube on hijaab, since you'r enot very find of reading? Here are a few points:
Why does Islam degrade women by keeping them behind the veil?

Answer:

The status of women in Islam is often the target of attacks in the secular media. The ‘hijaab’ or the Islamic dress is cited by many as an example of the ‘subjugation’ of women under Islamic law. Before we analyze the reasoning behind the religiously mandated ‘hijaab’, let us first study the status of women in societies before the advent of Islam


1.
In the past women were degraded and used as objects of lust

The following examples from history amply illustrate the fact that the status of women in earlier civilizations was very low to the extent that they were denied basic human dignity:


Babylonian Civilization:
The women were degraded and were denied all rights under the Babylonian law. If a man murdered a woman, instead of him being punished, his wife was put to death.

Greek Civilization:
Greek Civilization is considered the most glorious of all ancient civilizations. Under this very ‘glorious’ system, women were deprived of all rights and were looked down upon. In Greek mythology, an ‘imaginary woman’ called ‘Pandora’ is the root cause of misfortune of human beings. The Greeks considered women to be subhuman and inferior to men. Though chastity of women was precious, and women were held in high esteem, the Greeks were later overwhelmed by ego and sexual perversions. Prostitution became a regular practice amongst all classes of Greek society.

Roman Civilization:
When Roman Civilization was at the zenith of its ‘glory’, a man even had the right to take the life of his wife. Prostitution and nudity were common amongst the Romans.

Egyptian Civilization:
The Egyptian considered women evil and as a sign of a devil.

Pre-Islamic Arabia:
Before Islam spread in Arabia, the Arabs looked down upon women and very often when a female child was born, she was buried alive.


2.
Islam uplifted women and gave them equality and expects them to maintain their status.

Islam uplifted the status of women and granted them their just rights 1400 years ago. Islam expects women to maintain their status.

Hijaab for men

People usually only discuss ‘hijaab’ in the context of women. However, in the Glorious Qur’an, Allah (swt) first mentions ‘hijaab’ for men before ‘hijaab’ for the women. The Qur’an mentions in Surah Noor:

"Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do."
[Al-Qur’an 24:30]

The moment a man looks at a woman and if any brazen or unashamed thought comes to his mind, he should lower his gaze.

Hijaab for women.

The next verse of Surah Noor, says:

" And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons..."
[Al-Qur’an 24:31]


3.
Six criteria for Hijaab.
According to Qur’an and Sunnah there are basically six criteria for observing hijaab:

Extent:

The first criterion is the extent of the body that should be covered. This is different for men and women. The extent of covering obligatory on the male is to cover the body at least from the navel to the knees. For women, the extent of covering obligatory is to cover the complete body except the face and the hands upto the wrist. If they wish to, they can cover even these parts of the body. Some scholars of Islam insist that the face and the hands are part of the obligatory extent of ‘hijaab’.

All the remaining five criteria are the same for men and women.

The clothes worn should be loose and should not reveal the figure.

The clothes worn should not be transparent such that one can see through them.

The clothes worn should not be so glamorous as to attract the opposite sex.

The clothes worn should not resemble that of the opposite sex.

The clothes worn should not resemble that of the unbelievers i.e. they should not wear clothes that are specifically identities or symbols of the unbelievers’ religions.


4.
Hijaab includes conduct and behaviour among other things

Complete ‘hijaab’, besides the six criteria of clothing, also includes the moral conduct, behaviour, attitude and intention of the individual. A person only fulfilling the criteria of ‘hijaab’ of the clothes is observing ‘hijaab’ in a limited sense. ‘Hijaab’ of the clothes should be accompanied by ‘hijaab’ of the eyes, ‘hijaab’ of the heart, ‘hijaab’ of thought and ‘hijaab’ of intention. It also includes the way a person walks, the way a person talks, the way he behaves, etc.

5.
Hijaab prevents molestation
The reason why Hijaab is prescribed for women is mentioned in the Qur’an in the following verses of Surah Al-Ahzab:

"O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad); that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
[Al-Qur’an 33:59]

The Qur’an says that Hijaab has been prescribed for the women so that they are recognized as modest women and this will also prevent them from being molested.


6.
Example of twin sisters

Suppose two sisters who are twins, and who are equally beautiful, walk down the street. One of them is attired in the Islamic hijaab i.e. the complete body is covered, except for the face and the hands up to the wrists. The other sister is wearing western clothes, a mini skirt or shorts. Just around the corner there is a hooligan or ruffian who is waiting for a catch, to tease a girl. Whom will he tease? The girl wearing the Islamic Hijaab or the girl wearing the skirt or the mini? Naturally he will tease the girl wearing the skirt or the mini. Such dresses are an indirect invitation to the opposite sex for teasing and molestation. The Qur’an rightly says that hijaab prevents women from being molested.

7.
Capital punishment for the rapists

Under the Islamic shariah, a man convicted of having raped a woman, is given capital punishment. Many are astonished at this ‘harsh’ sentence. Some even say that Islam is a ruthless, barbaric religion! I have asked a simple question to hundreds of non-Muslim men. Suppose, God forbid, someone rapes your wife, your mother or your sister. You are made the judge and the rapist is brought in front of you. What punishment would you give him? All of them said they would put him to death. Some went to the extent of saying they would torture him to death. To them I ask, if someone rapes your wife or your mother you want to put him to death. But if the same crime is committed on somebody else’s wife or daughter you say capital punishment is barbaric. Why should there be double standards?

8.
Western society falsely claims to have uplifted women

Western talk of women’s liberalization is nothing but a disguised form of exploitation of her body, degradation of her soul, and deprivation of her honour. Western society claims to have ‘uplifted’ women. On the contrary it has actually degraded them to the status of concubines, mistresses and society butterflies who are mere tools in the hands of pleasure seekers and sex marketeers, hidden behind the colourful screen of ‘art’ and ‘culture’.

9.
USA has one of the highest rates of rape

United States of America is supposed to be one of the most advanced countries of the world. It also has one of the highest rates of rape in any country in the world. According to a FBI report, in the year 1990, every day on an average 1756 cases of rape were committed in U.S.A alone. Later another report said that on an average everyday 1900 cases of rapes are committed in USA. The year was not mentioned. May be it was 1992 or 1993. May be the Americans got ‘bolder’ in the following years.

Consider a scenario where the Islamic hijaab is followed in America. Whenever a man looks at a woman and any brazen or unashamed thought comes to his mind, he lowers his gaze. Every woman wears the Islamic hijaab, that is the complete body is covered except the face and the hands upto the wrist. After this if any man commits rape he is given capital punishment. I ask you, in such a scenario, will the rate of rape in America increase, will it remain the same, or will it decrease?


10.
Implementation of Islamic Shariah will reduce the rate of rapes
Naturally as soon as Islamic Shariah is implemented positive results will be inevitable. If Islamic Shariah is implemented in any part of the world, whether it is America or Europe, society will breathe easier. Hijaab does not degrade a woman but uplifts a woman and protects her modesty and chastity.


Yes, its imprtant to wear hijab for those who reach puberty.Remeber, there are many Muslim women who convert to islam only because of hijaab. It gives respect, modesty and dignity. If people say bad things about islam why should you feel insecure??

IF SOMEONE SAID SOEMTHING BAD ABOUT YOUR PARENTS, WOULD YOU DOUBT YOUR PARENTS OR BE SO ANGRY WITH THAT PERSON??
IS ALLAH SO INSIGNIFICANT FOR US, THEN??

Allah says "... your desires will lead you far way from the path of Allah.."

THINK ABOUT IT, FRIEND. THIS LIFE IS VERY SHORT. BUT THE HEREAFTER IS FOREVER. DONT MAKE A MISTAKE WHICH WILL CAUSE YOU ALOT IN YOUR AFTER LIFE. AFTER ALL, ALLAH WOULD WANT ONLY GOOD FOR US, WOULDNT HE??