would you send your child to a child molester?

Question

My sons school keeps sending home these order forms for school, you know stuff to sell, well I'm NOT sending my son out there,,, when I don't know whats waiting for him behined the door, in my neighborhood, all that is required of these sicko's is a small sticker on a window of their choice., to let everyone know they are a SICKO. the school says my son will not be able to attend certain things because I'm refusing to let him go inside a strangers home.
my family and our freinds will buy from him,, but the school says it's not enough money for him. what should I do? I can't change schools, it's not an option, and I work, so i can't go door to door and hold his hand.

my son is only 12 years old, and disabled.
with autism,, how can they do this to him, i do my best

Answer 1

What kind of question is this, no way!

Answer 2

I live in a small town. There are 4 registered sex offenders within a few blocks of where I live. They do not have to put a sticker on their windows. I only know about them because I looked it up on the internet.

My daughter (17) is in band and has to sell stuff every year. Even she is not allowed to go door to door. She isn't even allowed to walk down our street. If she leaves the house, she drives her car and does not stop for anyone she doesn't personally know.

We sell stuff to relatives and people we know and trust. If that isn't good enough for the school then they can just figure out some other way to raise the money. I will not put my daughter's well being at risk for anyone.

School officials often have their heads stuck so far in the sand that the only thing left showing is their ***.

I've recently had to ask the school to put my daughter on homebound for 12 weeks due to health problems. The pricipal fought me tooth and nail. I brought him 2 letters from the doctor stating my daughter needed to be homebound.

He actually called the doctor and even threatened to go to her office to talk to her. He did not like the fact that he would have to pay a teacher $15 an hour for 3 hours a week to have a teacher tooter my daughter while she is out of school. My daughter's doctor was furious. As a result my daughter is not allowed to be on the school campus at all or attend any school functions. Not even those open to the public. Per doctor's orders! The doctor said the environment was too stressful and would make my daughter's condition worse.

School is supposed to be the best years of your life, not the worst!

I know there are some good schools out there somewhere, but the one my daughter and your son attends arent the ones.

When schools put money ahead of the well being of their students, then they are no longer educators. It's money grubbing politics.

If you or your son has to buy his way into participating in things, it just isn't worth it. It sends the wrong message to your son and all the other students in that school.

It's shameful that in America the schools have forgotten that the reason they are there is to give our children an education. These kids are not put there to raise funds for the school.

I realize that funding for schools is sometime tight, with budget cuts, etc. and believe me, I have footed the bill for many things I felt the school should have been responsible for. I have volunteer my time to help raise funds by working school functions such as the Fall Carnival, football games, band day etc. I never even got a thank you in return. But when my daughter needed help, they acted like I had stuck a gun to their head and robbed them. I will never volunteer to help at a school function again.

I know this probably hasn't helped you any, but I honestly feel the school have become so mired in politics and fund raising and such that they have forgotten the real reason the school is there in the first place.

Good luck. I hope you and your son do okay.

Answer 3

I would go to the school board and file a complaint against the school in question. Is he going to school for an education or to make the school money. I would also contact the State and Federal gov. that funds the schools. Something is wrong with this whole picture.
When my daughter was 13 she was approached by a sicko in the neighbor hood. I called the police and tried to file a complaint against the man. Due to the fact the man did nothing wrong at the time the police could do nothing. I warned them that this man was a sicko but I could not prove it. I recently saw him in the sex offenders file, he had molested a child.
Because of this it is up to you as a parent to watch out and protect your child. Do you work 7 days a week, set aside a couple of hours your days off and take your child door to door.
Either way if the school said to me what you say they said to you then I would be climbing some ladders and heads would roll

Answer 4

How old is your son?
This doesn't sound right. You need to talk to the principal about the pressure you are getting about selling this stuff. Most fundraisers do have an estimated amount that they would like each child to sell. If it is for a special kind of trip that they are trying to fund for the children it is quite possible that if your son doesn't raise enough that he won't be able to go, if that is the case then raise as much as you can and then try to supplement the rest yourself by ordering what is needed. You can always give these items away to friends as gifts.

Answer 5

My son's school sells everything under the sun, too. We opt out. But honey, we BUY out. They say "every family needs to sell $150 or write a check for $150." We write the check.

Do we have the money? Sometimes. Sometimes it's a stretch. Our school is good about telling us what they expect far enough in advance that it's not a stunner. We'd rather make a tax-deductible contribution (assuming your school is church-affiliated/has 501c3 status) than sell wrapping paper and cookie dough to our neighbors.

Instead of playing the hysteria card - and really, you *sound* hysterical - simply state calmly that while you understand the financial realities of running the school and fully support the educators, your family prefers to make a cash contribution in lieu of direct participation.

It's more dignified than accusing your kiddo's school of sending him into the laps of pedophiles. If you go for calm, I'll bet bunches of parents will be whipping out their checkbooks. If you keep up with the ranting, no one is going to take you seriously.

Now take a deep breath and get ready to make a contribution. This way you and your kid can hold your heads high.

Answer 6

Pass the school sale items out to family members to sell at their jobs. This is what we did for my child and now do for the grandchildren. It is a safe way to sell the items and most work environments haven't a problem with this. Even if you work in a store, clear it with the manager and put up a small sign. For office workers send a memo to all personnel and put up a memo at your desk as a reminder, for bosses this is easier as all your employees will want to support the bosses child, so they look good in his/her eyes. I love buying from co-workers when it is for a school, even when I don't use the product. Like candy, I am not a candy person. I will know someone who is, and it is a gift that doesn't cost much and it's the thought that counts. Sometimes I donate back the sale item to the person selling that way they can raise more money for the child's school.

Answer 7

Hmmm....most schools have gotten away from the cold call door-to-door selling for fundraising for this very reason. Even most Girl Scouts set up cookie stands at Wal-Marts and other store entrances or just take orders from family and friends these days.

I have felt mild pressure from school or organizations about some of these fundraisers in the past, but most are content to take whatever you do and let it go, while offering prizes and incentives of course to kids who do the most. The worst was a frozen cookie-dough sale! I wasn't working at the time, and my husband's workplace has a firm no soliciting policy, plus we were new to the community, so we were very limited on who we knew to ask. We really couldn't order it on behalf of out-of-town relatives because we didn't have the freezer space to store it until we could deliver it--it was a horrible idea!

Is this by chance a private school? Can't imagine them needing the money that bad otherwise.

Answer 8

You are certainly right in wanting to protect, and look out for your son. The school has no right, to tell you something like that. You and your family is buying, and it is not good enough. Well, screw that. I would certainly go take it to a higher authority someone is over that school. I would let your feelings be known. I am sure, that there are other Parents, who feel the same way you do.

Besides, when one school is selling something so are some of the other schools. It is hard, to get folks, to buy especially this time of the year. Not, to mention Gas prices, and higher fuel and heating cost. Unless, you are in that one percent who is wealthy.

Answer 9

This is really not fair! It's good to involve a child in making money and all, but if you as his parent think that it is not safe for him to do such activity, they have no right to force him to do it and deprive him from certain activities because he didn't.

I was going to suggest that you go with him - but never mind about that... you hold his hand and go to school with him - and make a BIG problem about how they are mistreating your son and not caring about his safety and best interest. Also, say that they are discriminating! No one has the right to discriminate among kids at school!

Don't be silent about this – speak up to them and give them a hard time.

You can also report the school to the Board of Education.

Answer 10

A school would never recommend children enter a stranger's home. It's a door-knock! They just knock on the door, get a donation and leave... they are advised that they ARE NOT allowed to enter a person's house. School's aren't stupid you know!

Let him go with a friend, or go with him and wait at the gate. It'd be once around the block, probably half an hour out of your life on a weekend. You are making it so dramatic when it just isn't!

Answer 11

that is absolutly ridiculous that the school would even encourage that! when we have things like that at our school on the note is that they do not encourage door to door for safety reasons, they can not discourage ytour child from participating in acivity because he does not get enough money for these things, i don't even think that is legal.
If you pay your school fees then they can't do a damn thing. you just keep your child safe, as a mother it is your responsiblity, would i send my kids out door knocking? HELL NO. any peodophiles in this town if they are found out are run out of town. big hoohaa not tolerated.
you are absolutly doing the right thing by not sending your son out there and if the school discriminates you may have a case