My girlfriends older sister is getting married in aug 08 and she is very competitive, should i propose to my girl now or wait till after her sister wedding? should i also ask for her family's blessing? or not worry. i already have the ring but aug seems so far away, what should i do? do you think it should matter if i ask or not just cuz im a lesbian?and if it does matter should i ask just mom, just dad or should i sit all three of her family members down and ask?
2007-11-15 11:48:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I just dont want to feel like im stealing her sister thunder
2007-11-15 11:53:22 · update #1
I want to propose cuz we love each other, Her sister just happens to be engaged right now and thats why i dont know weather to wait or not cuz i dont want to seem like im stealing any ones thunder at all. and her parents are getting used to it her dad more than her mom and her sister is pretty cool with it
2007-11-15 11:56:41 · update #2
If both you and your girlfriend are ready for that type of commitment, then you can ask. But don't do it out of competitiveness with her sister. It should be when you are both ready, mentally, emotionally, and financially. And if her parents don't know that you two are together, then they should know before you ask and also try to get their blessing. You may or may not get it, depending on how they feel about it. At least you tried. If they won't give it to you, then you and your girlfriend need to talk and decide if you two still want to regardless. This will affect her relationship with her family, so you need to make sure your girlfriend understands and accepts that.
2007-11-15 11:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by randmthots 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What better time than Christmas Eve with the family around the tree, or even at a dinner. My son proposed to my daughter-in law at a family dinner on Christmas Eve I would do it now I have a younger sister who is very competitive I got married on May 5 all of a sudden a few years later she married on May 4th it reminds me of the Jones' by doing it around a holiday the sister won't think your the one competing with her. Good Luck!!
2007-11-15 20:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by dpiscat62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go ahead and propose now, but dont start planning your event until either after the sisters is over. or schedule it for after the sisters (a few months after!!) This way... everyones happy!! you're not stealing from the sisters big day, you get to pledge your love, and your honey gets to plan her big day without her naggy sister in her ear going "You're stealing my thunder!"... chick, we're not even in the same storm!
2007-11-15 23:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by loki_only1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask now- her sister does not have the monopoly on happiness from now until August- that's absurd. Don't publicly announce it at any event in her honor (shower, engagement party, etc) but outside of that, you're fine.
You should never wait for happiness. Life is unpredictable, you never know what awaits you. Seize the chance while you have it!
2007-11-15 23:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask the parents for formal permission and specify when you ask that you are unsure of when to do it b/c you don't want your girl's sister to feel like people are trying to steal the spotlight.. if you go by what they family advises it will help to win their trust/approval and then if she finds out later that you waited and is mad you can blame them and tell her that you only followed their advice b/c their approval/acceptence is so important to your relationship with her..
2007-11-15 20:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by hitchnj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah go and ask her, if her sister gets angry then she's selfish!!! she should be happy for you guys not angry. propose when the moment is right, if that moment just happens to be before her sister's wedding, well too bad so sad. one thing you need to do is, do things that make you happy!!! don't postpone your happiness for ANYONE ELSE!!! you can propose just have your wedding after her sister's, and yeah ask for her parents blessing
2007-11-15 22:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you proposing just because your girlfriend's sister is getting married. that seems like a bad idea. how is her family for accepting her as a lesbian? i would ask them if they are supportive.
2007-11-15 19:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the parents know and approve of your lesbian relationship with their daughter , I would let them enjoy their older daughters wedding before springing this on them now.
2007-11-15 20:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id wait - its her sisters time right now. dont take the spotlight away from her. aug will come quick enough! good luck
2007-11-15 19:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do it when it feels right.forget the competiveness.do it bc u love one another and are committed to each other.good luck and congrats
2007-11-15 19:58:04 · answer #10 · answered by mindygrl2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋