Ok so we've been dating for three years and I genuinely love her. She always looked good. ALWAYS until she had our baby. Now she still hasn't lost like the ten pounds she put on. It's been 6 months. That is long enough to lose your preggers fat right? How do I tell her she's to fat? I'm beginning to be less attracted to her sexually and I don't want this to turn into a problem.
2007-11-15 11:48:33 · 14 answers · asked by Denorex Guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really loved her, you wouldn't care about how much she weighs. 10 pounds isn't a lot of weight and you should be supportive of her body image and not make her feel bad because she gained some weight. You have set such high standards for her that I don't think your relationship will work because you aren't willing to accept the fact that she's only human and she doesn't need to lose weight to be beautiful. Think about the reason you liked her in the first place. If it's over her looks, than you seriously need to rethink your thoughts.
2007-11-17 18:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by music_literature_freak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ten pounds concerns you so much, perhaps the problem is not with her body, but with you. If you love her, you'll accept her regardless. I'm willing to bet that you've gained weight over the three years and she has been tolerant of you. I think you need to give her a break. It's not like she gained the weight sitting on the couch and eating chips all day. She had your child. Perhaps you should appreciate her for the wonderful life she brought into the world instead of downing her.
However, if you want to be kind about it, you could ask her to go on walks and bike rides with you. Buy more healthy food for the household. You shouldn't ask your partner to do anything that you aren't willing to do right along with her.
BTW, don't you think that if you've been together three years and had a child, that you should be doing more than just dating? Just something to think about.
2007-11-15 11:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She merely gave start a month in the past. Do you comprehend it takes an entire 2 years for a womans physique to return to primary? you're an inconciderate jerk. She merely had a ******* toddler and should not be forced to artwork out. and you allowed her to not get an abortion? you're ******* impolite. If i became your gf i could have slapped you by ability of now. I wouldnt dare use the Lords call like that the two for the reason which you for sure dont practice faith okay. i won't have faith what I fairly have merely examine. i'm hoping your lady pal DOESNT lose the load and you bypass away for the reason which you do not deserve her. Scum bag **word its not the excuse of a lazy extensive retard its fact. I fairly have had a number of pregnancies with my husband considered one of which became decrease than a 365 days aside. The common practitioner informed ME HIMSELF it takes 2 years on your physique to heal. Plus you cant even have intercourse till 6+ weeks after being pregnant so relax the **** out you pig.
2016-09-29 08:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by mccowen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a loser mate, she's obviously putting priority on her newborn right now and as a mother she will mostly put herself last from now on, and it will take longer than 6 months to lose her pregnancy fat, she's not a celebrity with a nanny and personal chef's and trainers! The only problem here is your attitude, my goodness ten pounds, grow up sunshine!!
Did you honestly think anyone is going to give you suggestions on how to tell your missus she's fat?! You are clearly a retard.
2007-11-15 11:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sammikins 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all why should you? You helped her gain that weight, you can surely help her lose it. Dont be a jerk and make your wife feels as if she is not worth looking at because any pregnant, or mother is beautiful. accept her for who she is, help her, guide her. Its not right for you to decide that she is too fat and loose intrest into her because that is YOUR child's mother. You should be very ashamed of yourself, and I'm not tryna put you down but c'mon with a newborn times are ruff. She feels as if she has to please you, and cook, and clean and take care of your child. Cut her some slack. Be a man and talk things out with her in a NICE and GENEROUS way. Make your decisions wisely!
2007-11-15 11:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Taffy =] 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say she needs to cut the fat and ditch you. I can't believe she stayed with you for this long.
It's already a problem and you are the problem. You are so wrapped up in appearances it is pathetic. This woman just gave you a child. Get over yourself.
2007-11-15 11:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by mamabee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not very nice.. its only ten pounds and so what if she hasnt lost it yet she's probably under alot of stress and shes probably tired from taking care of the baby. give her time but dont be so harsh over 10 pounds
2007-11-15 11:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok well first off...she just had a baby...u try pushing something out of ur man parts and see how u feel after...ten pounds it not a lot...leave it alone...she will loose it when she gets time....maybe u should have thought about this b 4 u took it out of ur pants...
2007-11-15 11:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are insensitive and that she deserves better than a guy who only cares about weight and not love. Also tell her to take the kid because your kid shouldn't have to deal with a dad with such low standards of women.
2007-11-15 11:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you love her...attraction is the last thing that should be on your mind buddy. Dont never tell her she is too fat! NEVER! I think your relationship with her is more "LUST" then "LOVE" and if its not.....then you will be perfectly fine with her the way she is...point blank!
2007-11-15 11:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋