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I teach second grade and I don't understand Jane*. I know young children need attention. All the other children typically do positive things to get mine (ie: they'll clean the sink, pick a piece of trash off the floor, draw me a picture, tell me about their new dog, etc).

Anyhow, this student always engages in disruptive/disrespectful behavior to get my attention (ie:sarcasm, rocking in her chair, or she'll become extremely clingy. Like oneday, she kept following me around the classroom.

Everytime I turned around I would step on her b/c she was following so close behind me. I gave her a hug, then said to sit down, but she kept getting back up following me and pulling on my arms.

BTW: I've attempted to arrange a conference w/her Mom five times. Mom NEVER shows up.

2007-11-15 11:46:42 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Grade-Schooler

3 answers

She needs a mom more than she needs a teacher and obviously she has chosen you. Your best bet is to reward good behavior and ignore as much of the bad as possible. In the meantime, is there a school social worker or psychologist who could try and get through to her mother?

2007-11-15 13:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by EC Expert 6 · 0 0

there is the heart of the issue right there.....mom never shows up.

If the child has learnt that negative behavior gets attention, then it will take a lot to undo this, as this is this child's way of getting attention from others. I work somewhat in this area, though not with children, and I have found that ignoring the negative, that is the behavior, not the child, over a short period of time they lose the attention for the bad behavior, but in its place you have to reward the child with positive words when something is done correctly. On top of that a discussion with the child, and what is acceptable/ not acceptable behavior would be re enforced as soon as possible, possibly goal setting with the child to focus attention on other aspects. IE give the child some responsibilities with in the classroom environment to make her feel worth while and welcome. Good luck

2007-11-15 11:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by jasmine d 7 · 0 0

There are problems at home if the mom won't even make the effort to take to you. its very sad and she probably doesnt get the attention and love she needs. As a teacher its your calling to perhaps bring futher investgation into it (such as CPS) If you dont feel that its that bad maybe she needs testing for ADD. But some steps need to be taken to help this child.

2007-11-16 10:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by gryffindoregirl 3 · 0 0

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