We have been together for 2 years
I cheated on him so i am planning to leave him because i dont deserve him.. I care for him so much and i dont want to hurt his feelings...i dont want to tell him the truth of why i am breaking up with him..i want to tell him thats its not working or something else but i dont want to tell him i cheated it would hurt him so much..and i know how it feels..I know him he wont let me go no matter what i do or say... but its not right i dont want to be with him after what i did to him.. What should i do to break it off nicely
2007-11-15 10:14:55 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really cared about him....you wouldn't have cheated on him in the first place and there is no possible excuse to say that you do.....Im a guy....I would be in peices if my girlfriend cheated on me and i would never beleive she loved me again....Tell him the truth....He's going to be living in the shadow of a lie for the rest of his life if you dont....2 years is a pretty long time....do whatever.....I hate heartless B*tches like you...not trying to be mean...but it really does take a pathetic coward to cheat on her boyfriend or visa versa.....the least you could have done was break up with him first.....
2007-11-15 10:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the only reason you want to break up with him because you cheated on him and feel you don't deserve him, or are there other issues in your relationship as well? If this is your only issue, you may want to confess and ask his forgiveness and try to work things out. But if you truly want to break it off because you two are not right together, be honest and tell him why. It may hurt him more but if you are serious about wanting to break up, it would most likely keep him from trying to hold on to you if he knows you cheated. If you give him some lame, made up excuse, he'll still be hurt but he may want to try to convince you to stay in the relationship. Be honest. It will hurt him, but he will be hurt no matter what you tell him and it's more likely he will accept the break-up and maybe even welcome the break-up if he knows you cheated.
2007-11-15 10:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by g8orgrrrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe him the truth - if you lie to him you're just going to start lying to yourself.
Tell him that you're really ashamed of what you did, and wish you could take it back. Tell him you don't expect or deserve to be forgiven, and assure him that it was because of YOUR issues, and was in no way his fault.
Tell him that you need some time alone to do some soul-searching and therapy so you can figure out WHY you did such a thing.
You're already a cheater; don't be a coward as well. If you couldn't give him fidelity, at least give him truth.
2007-11-15 10:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go ahead and tell him waht you did. I know it seems like the wrong thing for you to do. There is no use trying to spare his feelings, it's too late for that. Tell him you don't deserve him, that's why you are breraking up. You feel guilty, but why? You made the choice to lay with another man, where was your guilt then. Trust me, it is better he find it out from you and despise you for a little while, than to learn from someone else and hate you forever. How could you do this to him? Bad girl
2007-11-15 10:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by chuckachoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell him the truth and he'll give you a second chance. If you think he's such a great guy you should tell him the truth. If he finds out some other way he won't even want to be your friend knowing you were so untruthful.
2007-11-15 10:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by Tap456 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it....stop feeling guilty and breaking up with him to punish yourself. Sure, it was wrong you cheated on him if you love him, but what are you going to accomplish by telling him and breaking up with him. If you feel the need to confess then do it and let him decide if he wants to try and work things out.
2007-11-15 10:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him you went off with someone else, it will make YOU feel better, but it won't make him feel good. Are you just trying to boost your ego so that you can feel self-righteous?
Then you can spend the rest of your life with a clear conscience. IF you really love him you will keep quiet and NOT hurt him, but know that you you are guilty of cheating. Its you that deseves to suffer, not him, so never ever tell him, just behave better.
2007-11-15 10:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by xyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he's going to be confused , Really Confused if you don't tell him why. If you do break up definately have support for him. It sounds like he loves you a lot. My 16-year-old nephew just killed himself over his girlfriend breaking up with him. She is still suffering, writing to his Myspace page every day. She really loved him too and was going to tell him she really didn't want to break up with him a couple hours after she did but it was too late. He had good friends and a good family but didn't reach out to anyone. He just reacted. He took his dad's hunting rifle and blew his head off. Be careful honey. Human life is precious.
2007-11-15 10:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by julie b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you dont see a future together.
But dont give us that line how your doing this for him, thats the biggest line of BS I've read all week. Because what you are saying makes you a cheater AND a liar. Youre breaking up with him for you, not for him.
2007-11-15 10:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah....You need to break up with him because no one wants to be cheated on. You can just pick a fight with him and then he won't be so sad when ya'll break up and later on when ya'll are just friends tell him the truth. He will respect you a whole lot and know that you really care about him.
2007-11-15 10:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by Sexybrowneyes7553 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋