Yesterday i invited my girlfriend round to my house, my daughter was there aswell but she was in her bedroom on myspace. i had planed to break it to Cassy before i introduced them to each other. i had cooked tea (Chilli Con Carne) cleaned up the entire house, I DUSTED lol. then my girl friend was sitting in the lounge with me and looking at all the pictures on the wall, and on the mantle peice ect, of me and my daughter kye. she saw the one of me holding her was she was really young, like just born and she smiled and goes "cute sister. god wherent you a spunk." then she looked around and saw that almost all the photo's had the same girl in them, even the once of me and Ma boys. she goes "does your sister live with you?" i shook my head and said "i have a daughter" than my daughter walked into the kitchen and stated searching through the fridge for a drink. Cassy started shaking her head and looked really hurt, then angry, then she slaped me, and ran out of the house.
2007-11-15 09:50:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i called her later, to try and talk to her and she yelled my head of about me being 29, her being 23, and my daughter being ******* 17. i made a big mistake by correcting her and saying 15. then she hung up. how do i get her back? or make her less angry?
2007-11-15 09:52:06 · update #1
read my previous question if you need more info.
"my girlfriend and i are getting serious how do i tel her i have a teen daughter?"
2007-11-15 09:54:08 · update #2
well i dont have any other secrets for her to figure out, other than i am messy, and leave wet towls on the bathroom floor and bedroom floor. i dont use the washing hampers, i dont that thing where you smell your clothes to see if they are clean, and i eat alot of fast food, because i can only cook bolognaise, chili con carne, and toasted ham and cheese sangas.
2007-11-15 10:08:46 · update #3
Well as a woman give her time and let her cool down. When I first meet my husband 18 yrs ago, I came home one day and walked into our house and found a little girl sitting on his lap. then I happened to look over in the other direction and there was a lady standing. He then proceeded to let me know that this little girl was his daughter and the lady standing there was his wife, mind you we were not married but living together. I was upset with him for not telling me, but to this day I have 3 beautiful children one that I have helped raise since she was 5 and another girl 15 and my son 16. his ex and I talk and communicate about the children and we get along. I loved him so I took on this responsibilites of helping raise his daughter who I will always consider my own. we do not use the word step child in our home.
2007-11-15 10:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by tina3842 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to let her cool down before you try to talk to her. She sounds like she could be pretty hurt, especially if you guys were getting serious. I know a lot of people like to hear about children early in the relationship, and if you have been dating for a while she could be upset at the fact that you didn't tell her.
since there isn't a huge age gap, then maybe she could treat her like a little sister (but I don't know how that would work out)
If she can't get over the fact that you have a daughter, then she is not the right person for you, and definately not the right person for your daughter.
2007-11-15 09:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by I ♥ men in uniform 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I can't believe you didn't tell her but had her figure it out when your daughter came in. It may have been easier if you would have talked to her about having a kid that lives with you from a relationship a long time ago ect...... I can imagine that she is trying to get over the shock. Now, tough call but if she really cares about you, after she settles down you can discuss it. But I would be totally honest as if you are not and more comes out, things may not look to good.
2007-11-15 10:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go.You are only 6 yrs older than her for crying out loud.
She is 8 yrs older than your daughter though.You were very young when your daughter was born though.
Anyway, as much as it hurts, hurt heal and move on , wait until your daughter is grown, only 3 more yrs and you'll only be 32.
Besides with the little age difference between your daughter and that girl, there WOULD be PROBLEMS!
Talk about resentment from your daughter when the 23 yr old tries to tell her what to do!
Talk about the 23 yr old telling you its either your daughter or her make a choice!
If she would blow up over you having a daughter, be gratefull you didnt have twins.
2007-11-15 09:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i saw your previous question... you probably should have told her beforehand, thats why she is shocked. i'm sure you had reasons for not telling her, maybe you knew her reaction would be a bad one... give her soem time, a few days to cool off, then call her and explain why you didnt tell her anything. if she is a nice girl she will try to understand. it might be wierd for her to know she is only 8 years older than your daughter. but if she cant accept your daughter, cut her loose. its not worth choosing one over the other and making your daughter uncomfortable. good luck!
2007-11-15 09:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by Addie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know as a mom you're probable itching to tell her mothers and dads, yet i does not do it. i know you're in contact approximately the doorstep daughter and probable approximately her buddy and the infant, yet she needs to tell her mothers and dads on her very own. She does could desire to get prenatal care, nevertheless. possibly you need to objective chatting with the doorstep daughter or her buddy approximately it? At that age, she's have been given to be scared to death to tell her mothers and dads and that i does not tell them, considering that's something she needs to do through fact this is an extremely delicate problem, exceptionally for her being the pregnant one. i could point out something on your daughter, ask her if she is familiar with if her buddy has an OB yet? If no longer, ask her approximately asserting something, or if she minded in case you stated something? in the adventure that your daughter gets upset, i could communicate along with her buddy besides. merely top tell her you're no longer likely to tell her mothers and dads, yet she needs to and you in addition to could think of it particularly is time for her to get an Obstetrician to confirm what is going on in her being pregnant so some distance. good luck!
2016-10-02 10:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋