My wife had cancer back in 1999, surgery, chemo radiation, more surgery. Fought depression, booze and pills. I hung in there for my daughter 4 at the time 12 now. Wife continually acuses me of all manner of untrue stuff, takes a huge list of pills then just told me that back a few years she "got physical" with some one else. I am trying to hang in there but really can't see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore.
Should I go?
2007-11-15 09:48:19 · 6 answers · asked by manx l 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your wife had a near death situation. She suffered cancer, substance abuse, not knowing what the next day will bring.
Under these circumstances, people do things that they normally would not - such as have an affair.
I'm not saying it is right behavior, but there are plausible reasons in her own mind due to her circumstances.
Discuss this with her. Is she sorry for the past? If so, then I'd advise for you to forgive her. Let it stay in the past where it belongs, and the two of you move on with your life together.
Now, she has to deal with her addiction. The pills are making her say all sorts of irrational things. Talk to her doctor who's prescribing these pills. See if she can come off some of them and start thinking straight. If so, then there is definetely a light at the end of the tunnel.
2007-11-15 10:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Marguerite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. There is no need to be in a relationship if you are unhappy. Yes you have a little girl, but you can always be there for her. In my opinion, I think you should pray about it, and do what is right in your heart. Your daughter should see you happy. Should you go?, If it will make you happier not being acused all the time, then I say YES, but remember, always be in your daughter's life every minute that you can.
2007-11-15 18:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by ♥cute_neeka♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a nutshell, stay if you possibly can. Talk to a counselor, to your wife's doctor(s), to your clergyperson. As a last resort, talk to a lawyer about your chances of getting custody of your daughter if you do leave. But keep in mind that your wife's accusations are probably a symptom of her illness and that the affair she told you about may be made up or may be an example of the fact that depressed people sometimes symbolically throw themselves away.
2007-11-15 18:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by aida 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember your daughter and stay there to help her. If you are having such problems in the family situation, then your daughter must be having problems, too. And you don't want to leave her with only her mother to care for her.
Your wife and you need counseling -- together or go solo if she won't go -- to make a better home for your kid.
You also need to ask yourself if you believe that she was unfaithful to you or may be just saying that to twist you more.
2007-11-15 17:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by petrof_skinsky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask God for guidance. Think about your daughter. Im sorry you are going through this.
2007-11-15 17:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by GIOVAN R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to me i am here on yahoo im dogjoe.
2007-11-15 22:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋