I want to tell my parents...but i dont?

Question

that i cut myself, but they wouldnt understand. only 2 people know that i do it. i just feel like i got it all wrong and im a loser and one big dissapointment after another. my mom forgets about me and i get blamed for everything. if i told them they would just think i did it for attention. for ex. last night i popped my toe out at tae kwon do, but mom called me a liar and didnt believe me.....until she saw it. she was really mean, and my dad, well it seems like he puts me second to other peoples kids. i hate myself sometimes. one day my mom said something about cutting and she said if i ever cut she would sent me away to a mental hospital, i just need someone to talk to. i believe in Jesus in everything, but sometimes i feel like...idk. you probably just think im a brat because like all my other relatives and my friends call me rich and stuff and think i have no problems, they dont know anything

Answer 1

Clover, I give this advice a lot because it really does work. It would really be nice if you could find a youth group and become a part of it. God has brought life and help to many who have cut themselves and been bound by depression. I know you need the attention of your parents, I do understand this. Pray clover, ask God to send you real Christian friends who understand this and friends that can help you. He cares very much about your pain and will not push Himself on you. He eagerly waits for you to call out to Him yourself and ask Him to help. I am praying for this very thing. You are precious in the sight of God and He loves you, never forget that. We have so much in this country we take it for granite, look at all the gifts and blessings in your life. Karate lessons? Why in this world are you so depressed that you would allow the devil a place in your life? Use your blessings to reach others. If you are this disciplined that you can take karate and have parents who can afford this, you have the discipline it takes to be an overcomer. NOW BE THAT OVERCOMER IN JESUS NAME! Many children in third world countries have nothing but dirt floors and many have no parents because of aids. Both of my children have been to other countries; my daughter was radically changed because of the poverty she saw.
(((You are too blessed to be depressed.))) Look up kid, life is awesome, now use it to reach out to others who need people like you. Please find a youth group. You don't have to stop at the first one, look around and ask God to help you find the right one.


† Intercessor Prayer Warrior †

Answer 2

Try finding some friends who are religious and you can start attending activity's with them and maybe even church. I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ L.D.S. we have a youth program where the young women between 12 and 18 get together one night a week and have fun activity's, once a month the young women and the young men of the same age get together for something, and about once a month on a Friday or Saturday night we have a dance with several other churches of our same faith.
The reason I am telling you this is because I think you need to get around people who will not judge you and people who respect you for who you are not for what they think you should be. Yes church standards are to be met like no over reveling clothing, and you are at all times chaperoned but it is a very spiritual uplifting way to have fun and feel free of the pressures. I am sure something like this would help you, you also have adults who are given the position of young women advisers by the leaders in the church who you could trust and talk to about your problems. I hope you look into this. I would suggest just calling a local church and asking the Bishop on Sunday about their youth program if you don't have any (Mormon) friends. I bet there are some that you already know even if you didn't realize they were Mormon. Best of Luck and God Bless you.

Answer 3

I can tell you are probably a wonderful person and at some point have lost your parents trust. You must try to earn it back. YOU ARE CERTAINLY NOT A LOSER. you need to talk to a counserlor at school or something like that about the cutting. Your self asteem should be higher. Is Tae Kwon Do helping with your self esteem? I wish I had taken it when I was younger. I envy you for even being able to do that. I was abused as a child and one way I built up my self esteem was to go volunteer and help others it really makes you think about all the great and wonderful things that you have and it helps you realize your worth. I teach middleschool now and I see troubled kids every day, but they are nothing we can not handle if you get help and you help others.

I hope everything turns out fine for you take care

Answer 4

Clover,
First you are not a loser. You really are special to your parents. They may not say it or show it, but you are. Parents have problems that can distract them, too. But Jesus loves you. He came to this earth so any one accepting Him can have a wonderful life in Heaven one day. He will never leave you or turn His back on you. If you don't know Him, ask Him to come into your heart and be your Lord.
See if you can find a good Christian youth group. Talk to a pastor if you know one, or at least a school counselor.
All people have problems. And at times they seem too big for us, that is when we can pray to Father God in the name of Jesus. Just talk to Him as you have here. He will listen, and He does answer.
Again, you are not a brat, YOU are Special. Jesus came to earth for you. And if only you would ask Him to be Lord, He would have done it for you!!
E mail me if you like.
I will be praying for you and your family.

†Prayer Warrior At Your Request†

Answer 5

I am sorry that your parents arent very supportive. You definitely need someone to talk to whether its a counselor at school or an older friend. Have you sat your parents down and tell them exactly how you feel? I know you feel like they dont care, but I am pretty sure they do. They just dont seem to show it enough or dont know how to show it. You shouldnt hate yourself - I am sure you are a fantastic friend and big sister to your younger brother. You mean more to people than you realize. You should really sit down with your parents and have a heart to heart. Believe me that everyone has problems but you just have to learn to deal with them and in time you will. Just try and focus on things that make you happy. I hope this helps!!

Answer 6

Look Miss Clover, there seems to be a problem in your family for sure.You did not say how old you are ,either. I am sorry your home life is like that.You need to STOP cutting yourself.,!! And, promise you will not do it again,please.You do not want to go to a mental place.You,need to change your mod ( method of operation)Talk to the Pastor of your Church. Read more books, take up painting, with oil paints on canvas,if your are rich you can afford great hobbies.Start a coin collection there is alot of old coins in circulation, now.God Bless You/I will pray for you,I think you are a fabulous person !!

Answer 7

first know that you are not alone- but also realize that you do need help. If you don't think telling your parents is going to help your situation right now, then don't. You've got enough on your plate without having to deal with their immaturity. But please talk with someone that can help you. Either a school counselor, a pastor that you trust, your doctor, or in some cities there are even outreach programs that you can go to, usually at no cost. Google search it to see if there is one in your area. When the time is right, and you are the road to recovery, then you can choose to tell your parents if you want- but it sounds like if you tell them now, they will only make things worse.
It sucks, there are a lot of people in your position- that feel like the one person they want help from, is the one person that they can't get from. And sometimes subconciously we do things like this to ourselves in an outreach for their help. It doesn't mean that you are a brat looking for attention- but it might be an outcry for help. That you are unhappy, and that you want your parents to show their love for you more, and make you feel like you matter- some part of you might be hoping by doing this, that they will finally wake up and see what they are doing to you- also with cutting, sometimes you do it just to remind yourself to feel something- this is in the cases of serious depression usually- where you are so numb, the idea of inflicting pain on yourself waked you up, and reminds you that you are alive, and you can feel something- both need to be treated. No matter what the cause, their is an underlining reason as to why you are doing this, and without adressing that issue, you won't be able to be helped. PLEASE please seek PROFESSIONAL help. you need to work through things, so that you can learn to love yourself again, and if it's a chemical inbalance (which is very common) that is causing a serious depression, than you will need to medical attention. Good luck sweetheart- even if doesn't feel like it- you are worth more than diamonds, and i can say that without even knowing you! You are a daughter of God and He loves you, and He cares about you. Turn to Him for help too- don't let this beat you. you are strong enough, and you are worth the fight, because it will be a fight, it will be tough- but you, and your life and what you can offer the world is worth every minute, every tear, every sleepless night- and soon, worth every smile, every laugh and every big hug and kiss, and every good memory will make in your life- don't let this control you any longer!:)

Answer 8

Dear Clover,

i think you can tell from everyone's answers that you are cared about and you are someone very worthwhile to be cared about.

First let me say that i'm sorry that you feel so terrible. Your feelings are real and it sounds like you are going through some very deep pains.

It sounds like you need someone to care about you. First and foremost remember that Jesus cares about you and Jesus loves you. But i know that people were created to as relational beings and so it sounds like you need some friends who will care deeply for you and share your pains (and Joys-- Clover i know some days it is hard to believe this but there are also many happy days ahead for you!) Jesus is the friend who understands who no one else will.

Perhaps a church youth group would be helpful in terms of a place where you can find people who will love you, accept you, and also help you view yourself as Jesus does. You know that He loves you and cares!

It also seems that your parents are not doing the job that they should- but that's not an easy thing for them to figure out. They may not act like it- but parents do love their kids- they probably are not aware how hurtful their actions are towards you. A counselor or a close relative may be able to help convey some of your feelings towards your parents. i think that will help because the last thing you want is to feel bitter towards your parents. i'm sure they care and do love you- they probably don't realize they aren't showing it very well.

Praying for you and if you ever feel like you need someone to vent to, feel free to email: [e-mail]

God Bless Ya Clover,

Nickster


It's from the book of 2 Timothy: You can cast the whole weight of your anxiety upon Him (talking about Jesus) because you are His personal concern.

Answer 9

Have you got another family member that you are close to ? Maybe an aunt, uncle or a grandparent? Then they are who you should be talking to. Don't mention the cutting incident, and don't do it again, you sound more mature than that, and if you bring it to their attention, then they will define you by that, and I think you are more than that. Good luck, we all go through these things when we are young, trust me when I say it gets better. Big smile, Lizzie :o)

Answer 10

Hi again Clover,
I can see that you are having a really tough time right now. You feel like no one is listening or understanding you. You want to feel loved and special. You have every right to want this and what you are feeling is normal. But, Clover, life is not always fair. What you choose to do about things that are not fair is what is really important.
Did you know that God knew you before you were born? (Jeremiah 1:5) Did you know that He knows how many hairs you have? (Matthew 10:30) God has a special plan for YOUR life. Did you know that? What is happening to you right now is this. The devil, Satan, does NOT want you to feel special. He wants you to think that cutting yourself would bring you the attention that you want. He wants you to feel WORTHLESS!! But that is A LIE!! All you have to do is CHOOSE God's side. You do not even have to FEEL like it....or know everything about religion.
Just say "God, I choose you...I know you love me even if I can't see you. I want to be on the right side. I will NOT believe Satan's lies about me. I give my heart to you."
Satan has NO POWER over you if you choose God. God says that NO ONE can take you out of His hand. (John 10:29)
I will pray for you, Clover, that God will put His arms of love around you and hold you close to Him. He is RIGHT THERE....talk to Him.


† On-call Prayer Warrior †