My boss is a complete jack***. he yells at me on a daily basis?

Question

He demeans me and has comments to me and other women that are DEFINATLY sexual harrassing. The job market in my area is so bad right now, I jsut can't leave. I have been here for a year and half...its always been like this and I just can't take it anymore....suggestions on how to cope until something else comes along?

My boss IS the owner, I AM the "HR" and Office Manager...Very small company. AND he knows EVERYONE in this town and if i were to sue....it would be pointless....

Answer 1

Document what he says and does. One good way to time/date stamp your record is to email yourself with the info. Make sure you do not use an email address that is associated with the company. Create one in yahoo.

What he is doing is a violation of EEO and is a hostile work environment. If you don't have an EEO person in the company, contact the county or state EEO representative and request further information.

When he says or does things make sure you take note of who is present and has witnessed the event.

Keep your record keeping to yourself and try a digital recorder if you can afford one to document the yelling, etc.

You have rights. Seek an attorney if you need more help. What he is doing is illegal.

Answer 2

If your boss has a superior (I presume your boss is not the owner of the business), report the bad behavior to the superior. If there is an HR department, report the behavior to the HR department. You may be able to do so without filing any "official" complaint, but if the behavior is as bad as you state, it is illegal and needs to be reported.
You can also contact your state Department of Labor or Equal Employment Opportunity Commission and ask them what options you have. Again, you should not have to file any complaint or give them specific information just to get information on your options.
I would also suggest documenting all instances of such behavior for your own records. Be specific -- date, time, situation, who was present, exact quotes if possible. This may seem like an unnecessary step, but you'd be surprised how often such documentation, over time, provides a specific and consistent picture of what was going on. Make sure you note, in writing, who you speak to about this with the same detail noted above. This will help protect you later if the boss or company starts trying to say they were never told of the problem.
I'd suggest making an audio recording of such behavior, but it would not be admissible in court and could, in some cases, cause you problems that you really don't need. Before taking this step, consult a lawyer.

Answer 3

Actions would depend on if he is your only boss or if he is your line manager.

If he is your line Manager then go and report him. Tell them that you are not prepared to take any more sexual harassment in the work place. Tell them that action must be taken against this harassment, remind them that you have the right to a tribunal and you are now prepared to take legal action if this case is not solved. It would be handy if you could write down some of the details of what has happened in the past.

If this man is your only boss, then you need to stand up and tell him the same. Ask him what his problem is, remind him that you have rights especially after one years service.
Tell him that you are willing now to talk to either a union leader or to your Solicitor, who you have already consulted with. This should scare him. You can also tell him that you have taken notes of the incidents and if things dont alter then you will go ahead.
He has made personal comments that have a sexual undertone, this is called sexual harassment....he has also demeaned you with is bullying. You are not allowed to make anyone feel uncomfortable and if you do then the employee has rights. You can get a booklet called rights and responsibilities, I suggest you buy him one and throw it on his desk, make sure you underline certain paragraphs. Ring up your council and you can get it free.

Good luck sweetheart...you can do it. Frighten this little man out of his socks. Remember you have rights.

Answer 4

It sounds as if your boss has created an uncomfortable working environment. If I were you, I'd document any and all comments he has made along with dates and witnesses. Then, I'd request a meeting with him and explain that when he says these things, it makes you uncomfortable at work. If he does not stop after that, I'd take it to his boss who will probably fire him. I'd not go to the boss's boss first without speaking first to the boss. Sometimes that will be all it takes.

All of that said, if you get fired or repremended for taking these actions, you have a lawsuit on your hands.

Evaluate your demenior at work closely. Do you breed this sort of talk? I know that sounds like I am asking you if you are "asking for it" but sometimes people flirt or joke thinking it is OK because it is quite normal around the office. If you are going to persue some sort of lawsuit, you will need to make sure that you yourself have never said anything that could be offensive to someone else, because if so; it will come up.

Answer 5

It's not worth it... quit and get something else.

I stayed at a job like that for FOUR YEARS because I was too scared of the horrible job-market ... realized when I finally walked away that it was the worst waste of my life to tolerate that sort of abuse and disrespect for as long as I did.

You can talk to the office manager / supervisor ... if it's a big enough office - there would be an HR Department... or talk to the owner -- if they sense some sort of possible law-suit, they'll either make your boss stop what he's doing ... or find a way to quietly "exit" you from the company.

Answer 6

Threaten to sue him if he doesn't stop with the sexual harrassment, that'll shut him up! Document everything in case it goes to court. Get witnesses. If you have to quit due to harrassment can't you collect unemployment insurance until you find a new job? I don't know about the US but we can in Canada. Start looking for another job and then quit when you can. I wouldn't stay and put up with that!

Answer 7

You've been through it for a year and a half; not much you can do until you fiind something else. I worked for a lawyer whose nickname was "Screaming Saleeby" and he really did. Not yelling, screaming, at the top of his lungs. I quit too, because no one should have to work under those circumstances. Just update your resume, apply at three employment agencies and tune him out the same way you ahve been doing; since this is not new, you should be able to tolerate it for as long as it takes.

Answer 8

There's usually HR you can lay a bullying complaint, personal grievance with. If not - how about yelling back at him? "STOP YELLING AT ME YOU PRICK!! I'm sick to death of your crap. Reign your **** in or I'll take you to court for bullying and sexual harrassment ******!!

God wouldn't that be satisfying? Would he fire you on the spot?? You might actually have to prepared to take him to court, one of those no win, no pay employment lawyers or something...

If you just can't loose your job, how about doing something outrageous while he yells? To make yourself laugh and to show him up for the egg he is? Start wriggling and dancing - really have a ball. Or assume the disco pose and do one of those travolta moves repeatedly...if you have to, back away continuing to do the move, he'll look really funny trying to follow you, yelling...

Answer 9

My boss was a complete *** for a year and one day I exploded, and unleashed that years worth of frustration. Just because he is your boss does not give him the right to treat you like dirt. When the new job comes along take your opportunity to tell him what an *** hole he is or write an official letter of complaint.

Answer 10

This can and does happen in an area where the job market is in the pits. They act like they own you, and, guess what?, They do!