i need some serious advice?

Question

and i know your going to call me crazy but im in a serious mess. to make my question simpler, im going to describe two guys and i want you to tell me who you would pick.

#1- Stays where i stay. In the system[court,probation,parole,ext.]. Goes to GED. Father of my Unborn child. Lives off monthly income[SSI]. Going to be 19 [I'm 16]. Great sex life. Wouldn't do anything nice for me[no dates,wouldn't buy me an outfit]. Very rude. Thinks he knows it all. Thinks he knows more than doctors. Get vaginal infections from him [bacterial..not stds..i think its from him being unclean]. Has a mom who thinks i shouldnt give up on him but hes not going to change but she doesn't know that. But its so much pressure when im having his baby.

#2- lives in ny. still around after i cheated on him with guy #1 even though we are not together. He knows im pregnant and he still wants me back. In college. 17 [yes i know...smart] . Has tooken me to stores and told me i can anything i wanted. Has bought summer..

clothes for me. Calls me everyday even when i ignore him some days. Bad sex [due to small penis size]... He makes me feel beautiful. He makes me feel good about myself. Hes everything what guy number 1 isn't.

oh yea and guy number one also has alot of bad rumors about him. [sold his self to men and blah blah]..just found that out a couple weeks ago..but i dunno if its true

excuse me if i was only interested in penises i wouldn't be having a hard time right now..

Answer 1

Quite honestly, I would say neither. Guy #1 maybe the father of your child, but obviously he does not respect you, your child that you are having, or life in general. Especially if he is giving you vaginal infections. His mother may have not given up on him and that's cool, but that doesn't mean you need to hang onto someone who isn't going to cherish you, love you, respect you, the health of your child or his own self. He sounds like someone who will nothing more than sperm donor. He is not the type of person you need in your life or your child's. Guy# 2 sounds very charming, however I don't think he is fully ready to accept the responsibility that comes with being with someone who has a child. He maybe nice and does things for you, but he needs to have more confidence in himself, especially if he continues to contact you and do things for you, even when you treat him badly. You need to concentrate on your own self-worth and truly finding out what kind of man is worthy enough to have both you and your child in his life. Jumping back and forth between the 2 guys is not healthy for you or your child, especially when it comes to teaching your child about respect and self-worth. By the way.....sex is not the basis of a great relationship, not to sound mean, but if you are basing the terms of a good man off of how well he does in bed and his penis size, you may find yourself in situation where you could end up with more than one baby daddy or a serious disease. Be true to yourself and your child because this isn't about you anymore, this has everything to do now with your unborn child and the life you want him/her to lead. You are now the primary role model for your child, it is time to grow up and start thinking with your head.

Answer 2

I'm only bothering to answer cause you put so much time in to this question and really seem sincere. You're very young and need some more mature help and perspective - if there's anyone you can talk to in your life or a counselor or someone who will listen and give objective feedback, then talk to them too. You're going to get a lot of bad smart a** answers here. Anyway, you're doing a damn good job of analysing and assessing the situation - keep doing that. I'd go for the healthier, more caring person - if someone doesn't take care of themselves well or shows bad judgement - they'll make you f'n miserable in the long run. You need a healthy loving person for good sex and creativity goes a long way to make up for a minor physical limitation.

Answer 3

You need to focus on yourself and your baby. Kick #1 as far away from you as you possibly can and run like hel!....even if he is the father, I would hope he is a dead beat Dad and stays out of your lives. I know that sounds crazy now but later on in life you will understand. Even if you are not together and he sees this child he will have an impact on the child and it doesn't sound to me like he would be a very good role model. When my son was growing up I was angry that his father didn't spend time with him but when he was in his teens and I saw the person my son had become I realized how thankful I was that his father didn't have any impact on him and he was raised with the morrals and values that his father lacked. As far as #2...give it some time and see how it goes. You are both very young. Focus on you and your baby first.

Answer 4

Neither. You are too young and have too many other very serious things going on in your life to be worried about which guy you are going to pick. Get yourself cleaned up, go to the doctor, have your baby, build a life for yourself and your child. Stay away from both of these guys. Don't let a nasty guy drag you down and don't get with a guy just because he buys you stuff. You need to get your life in order.

Answer 5

Honestly, right now you don't need to be worrying about who's got a bigger dick. You need to worry about you and your baby. You're 16. I know you're going to hear that alot, but it's the truth. The last thing you need is stress and sex. Your baby needs to come first. Ditch both of them. Wait until you have your baby to make any kind of decision like that. If I were you, I wouldn't have sex anymore either because it's going to be hard having one baby and being 16 let alone 2. Take care of yourself first. If you cheated on #2, he's an idiot for wanting you back. (No offense.) I wouldn't take anyone back if they cheated on me. They'd just do it again. Hope this helps!!!

Answer 6

Choose #2. This is about your unborn child now, not anyone else at this point. Go with a guy that will help you be a good mother. That is DEFINITELY not #1.

Answer 7

sorry but u sound stupid for even bothering with the low-life #1. if i was ur mother, i would show u that roses have thorns...but then again u ended up pregnant(either u r headstrong and didnt listen to ur mom or ur mom didnt try hard enuf)....anyways u need a reality check...poor #2 wasting his time on u when u r only interested in penises!!!!

Answer 8

Same here...neither...unless you're really worried about the size of his penis....Haha find a guy that is well endowed and treats your well....you're only 17...you'll meet the right guy...Good luck with your baby too :)

Answer 9

apearently #2 loves you, can support you and you're child. He makes you feel beautiful. give your child the father he deserves. All #1 would do is hurt you make you become depressed and have you and you baby living on wefare.

Answer 10

You need to think about your child. That is your first priority. Forget worrying bout who you should be with. Be with your self and baby. The other stuff will come later.