I'm always unhappy no matter what I do...help?

Question

Hi, I'm a 14-year-old girl that is always depressed no matter what happens. If something good happens, I don't feel anything....I have an anxiety disorder...I cry every night for at least 2 hours...why is this? help please !

NO !! I DONT WANT TO TALK TO MY PARENTS OR A DOCTOR!! THEY JUST MAKE FEEL MISERABLE !!!

please, I don't want to talk to anyone...

i'm heartbroken because I can't see my boyfriend anymore...but I don't think that's the cause of this : (

Answer 1

Hello,,hey there girl, have you been outside lately? when was the last time you went for a walk ? have you thought about looking up at the stars on a clear night? I bet you didn't know there was a comet out there flying by, you need to get some sunshine on your face and some exercise by walking will help your depression. If you know what triggers your crying , try to replace that special thing with reading a book or drawing something. You are not alone with this problem but the rest of the world hides it from others .

Answer 2

There are a few ways to think about this this.

One is that you're a teen with hormones making your brain go bonkers. I would normally expect some happiness, though.

Another is lifestyle choices. If you're using some kind of mood altering chemical or herbs, you might want to cut that out and see how it works for you.

If you're having serious problems in your life (parents going through a divorce, lost a good friend in a car crash, suddenly find yourself living under a bridge), this may be perfectly normal and will pass as you adjust to your changed life.

Another way would be from a medical angle. It sounds like you're on the downside of a bi-polar swing. If you never swing back up, you may be suffering from depression. I'd say you should get a referral to a mental health professional. Even if they don't see anything wrong, they may be able to help you with therapy, exercise, diet, or medication. This is not a quick fix, in most cases. It can take weeks, months, or even years. Even then, some people never manage to live a normal life.

I wish you luck from the bottom of my heart and will keep you in my thoughts.

Answer 3

Hey honey... I am 23 and have an anxiety disorder too... so as my doc said... it isnt that you are actually depressed... but not being able to deal with your anxiety well or the root of it can result in feeling depressed.

These are some things that really helped me.
1-Love yourself. Tell yourself everyday something great about yourself. That you are smart, beautiful, nice... etc. It will begin to rub off... if you hear something for so long you'll begin to believe it ;)

2-Cry it out! Dont hold it in! That can make it worse. Understand 14 is a very difficult age... its a huge transition with hormones, getting older, finding yourself and being comfortable with it...

3-A good therapist. My therapist was fab. He really helped me get in touch with the root of my anxiety, and while it isnt totally gone and will be something I deal with my whole life... I can have a better handle on things now :) Sometimes it takes a whilet to find the right/perfect therapist... I never got on medicine for it bc I dont like that idea... so I went to a therapist really into holistic healing and spiritual and dream work... You'd be surprised how much a GOOD one can help

Things always get better in time, so remain positive :)

Answer 4

I'm 16 now, but when i was 14, it was the same for me. i even attempted suicide. but at least you can admit how you feel and realize you need help through this. i never told anyone how i felt and even my own family thought i was the happiest girl on the planet. i eventually wore nothing but black and wanted ot become a satanist (not that there is anything wrong with that. but those weren't my beliefs,i just felt so dark). it want until after i moved out from living with my mom to move in with my dad (they live 18 hours apart) did i ever change. so, first i would do as everyone else suggested- TALK about it, no matter how hard. also, if you do drugs, STOP. it only makes it worse

Answer 5

actually im 14 too, and i've been having the same problem, but for other reasons. i am unhappy with my life, and i want to move to live with my dad.

perhaps you're unhappy with your life, and it feels meaningless and unfufilled. maybe you could work at an animal shelter or hospital or do some community service. or join a club for something you really like, so you can find new people that could maybe fufill you.

another thing that is highly probable is that you have depression. depression is like the symptoms you described. look up depression on webMD. it is common not to have any emotions with depression. there is no known cause for it, but there are medicines you can take. 1st, look it up and see if you think it applies to your situation. also, you can see a doctor.

Answer 6

Talk with a professional therapist. They are trained to help you get through the tough times of being a teenager.

You can also try keeping a diary. Every so often, write about what makes you sad and why you're crying. If one problem keeps coming up, maybe find someone that can help you with that issue.

Please remember that there is nothing wrong with needing a helping hand!

Hope this helps!

Answer 7

Always sad and unhappy, your family care about you that's why there trying to talk to you, what has happened that you don't trust anyone there are some hidden scars you need to address, only then can you be happy ,talking to someone is always good for the soul, dont seek out drugs, sex or alcohol, these only mask the problems, watch the music you listen to, or movies you watch...get some good friends who care and will support you.Goodluck

Answer 8

What you should do is immediately talk to a trusted and responsible adult. I repeat talk to a trusted and responsible adult. You will also need to talk with your regular doctor and possibly a psychiatrist.
Please know that things will get better. I was the same way for along time and when things started to get worse I woke up and did something about it. I now do “Light Therapy” 20 minutes first thing every morning. And it has turned my life around plus I have time to read, write or draw while I do it. I don’t even need drugs!
Everyone is different though so please talk with someone and know it will get better, and that there are people who care about you. Like me.

Answer 9

Part of this is your age. Everything is changing in your life. You are becoming a young woman and your body is changing. Everyone goes through this period and it is an awkward time. But if you feel you are like this all the time talk to your mother or father and explain it to them how you feel. You also need to find simple things to do to keep you occupied and I mean good things and be careful of the friends you keep. They can lead to feel this way by their actions. So try and do some positive things. Do you read?
Do you do fun activities? It is important to keep busy. I hope this helps some but please talk to someone.

Answer 10

maybe a change in outlook would help. although this might sound corny...try thinking more positively about things

(the way the world "seems" to you... is because of "you"
if you want to view it as an uninteresting, depressing place you can...
if you want to view as a entertaining world with unknown things around every corner... you can...

the mind has quite a bit of power over itself...more than you might know.

and shu...two hours... (i hate to say it but that kinda seems like a waste of time....you could find something better to do with your time...in fact i kinda recommend it.)

(think of all the things you could do....
go explore the mall and it's random shops.
(take pictures of random things), play video games, meet/make new friends, ask your parents to get a trampoline and learn how to do a triple sideway spin, paint, draw, learn how to play music on an instrument...just go find something to do...and if it makes you happy then good.

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