When meeting a man girl (girls that look like men) how do you ?

Question

Approach them ? Do you say whats up dude? Do they get offended when they dress and act like a man. Whats up with that?

I ran in to this man/girl yesterday in a store. I thought she was a dude. By accident I said whats up dude. She had a man hair cut and wore man clothes.

Answer 1

Ask them if Glen Close is a relative.

Answer 2

There are many possibilities that could lead to this person adjusting their appearance this way, for example, she just got out of chemo and likes comfortable clothing. Let's face it, a baggy tee shirt and jeans is much more comfortable than a skirt and blouse. Than again, gay is also a possibility. Try looking for an Adam's apple, if you really care, and maybe a simple hi next time will work out ok. It's not your fault you mistook her for a man, but try looking at people more as people, not dudes or chicks.

Answer 3

You say whats up dude, they are dressing like a dude so they would have no problem being addressed like a dude. On the other hand...if it were a dude who was dressed like a lady (and you know that they are a dude) and call them a dude, they would get VERY VERY offended.

However, if you went to chick who looked like a dude and call her "sir" she would proabably just correct you and not be offended at all.

Answer 4

First of all… Gender is a “Social Construction. “ If you don’t know what that means, look it up: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_constructionism

To simplify things…
Think of Biological Sex vs. Gender.

Most men wear their hair short because it is more socially acceptable. If you characterize short hair as a masculine trait, you’re describing “gender,” which is a social construction.

Here are more Social Constructions:
Clothes (why can’t men wear dresses or tight clothes?)
Toys (GI Joe vs. Barbie)
Colors (Pink vs. Blue)
Gender roles (woman staying home with the kids/men working, etc)

You will notice that it is usually more socially acceptable for women to wear pants and like the color blue. This is because our society values men over women. Having a guy like skirts or pink indicates ”femininity” which is associated with weakness in our society.


Second, rather than saying “what’s up dude?” try a gender neutral greeting… “How are you?” or just “What’s up?”

Answer 5

No, this is the perfect way... You say, "Hey, what's up BRO (or brother if you like). Then, reach out your hand as if to shake the she/he's hand, then slap it in the behind instead. Then, before it knows what hit it, do an over the top,
NBA-style chest bump, as hard as you can. If it falls down and cries, then walk away, that's one crappy chick-dude, and you don't want to know it anyway. BUT, if it gets all amped up, and then returns an even harder chest bump to you, then take that thing out and buy it a beer, cause that's a she-male you wanna keep around.

Answer 6

You shouldn't judge people by their physical appearence- maybe they look like a boy, SO WHAT!? And yea, they miht be really offended when you call them a man or a "dude".

Answer 7

Just interact with them as you would with anyone else.
Anyone who does this is seeking attention, just like the people who dress goth, or emo, or any other sort of way.
If you treat them normally, they lose their attention seeking edge, and you prove that you are not the evil bigot that they are hoping to find in you.

Answer 8

If this person is a 'human being' you treat them as you would any other person. Look, when you grow up? maybe you'll be the parent of person who is not sure of his/her gender, you need to be sensitive and have compassion, and maturity.
Life is not easy for anyone, be kind.

Answer 9

Are you talking about a woman who dresses like a man, ie transvestite... or a boyish looking woman? Either way I think your question is rather rude.

Try saying "Hello". Not all greetings should be gender specific.

Answer 10

Generally the fact that they have hips, a slighter bone structure, small hands, and a thinner neck (without an adam's apple), tip you off to the fact that they're not a dude.

Answer 11

It's very hard for me to look at them, but it becomes even more awkward when you try not to look.
I'd like to know "why" they look & dress that way when they obviously don't like men, then why try to look like one?
And if you are gay, why can't you look like the man or woman that you are, but just behave differently behind closed doors?
(but i guess i should put this in a question...sorry :()