I cannot seem to find my way out of this dilemma. Guy 1 (T) has been in my life for the last 4 years but always wanted to take things very slowly and not commit to me. He travels a lot for work and with him being gone a lot and not wanting to commit, we started drifting apart.
Then I met Guy 2 (M). M was like a breath of fresh air and made me happier than I had been in a long time. Well wouldn't you know that T has now decided he wants to marry me! I still love him, but I think I am in love with M. They are two very different people with very unique characteristics so I can't really even begin to compare the two. M is definitely in no hurry to commit so I can imagine that if I choose him, I will be waiting around a long time as I did with T.
2007-11-15 08:07:50 · 10 answers · asked by elaine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The question is do you want to get married if so then when? The other concern is (t) and (m) which one are you really is love with, I am talking future, kids, marriage, money, happiness.
It sounds to me like (t), you know each other the best, and (m) just came along.... Who do you have the real connection with?
2007-11-15 08:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by ♥JENN♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is more important to you, how happy you are with your guy or whether or not you get married quickly? This is the only question you need to answer. Guy number one sounds like a Mr. Big type and I would be leary about trusting why all of a sudden he wants to marry you. He travels and is gone a lot--is this the type of husband you want? It's up to you I guess and how fast you want to be a bride, but you should be adding more depth than that to the decision making process.
2007-11-15 08:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're having a bit of trouble choosing between the two, I'd suggest you choose neither one for right now! Perhaps the first one is ready to marry now that you're interested in the second one. HMMM...not a good reason!
And the second one's in no hurry. I'd say it might be time to take a breather and look around for awhile.
2007-11-15 08:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will really have to do some soul searching here, and listen to your heart. Don't marry someone if you are not 100 per cent sure and committed, only later to have an affair with the other one. Be sure, very very sure. And never settle either, lol.
2007-11-15 08:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by zeekandthefam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know what you truly want if T has been around the longest and know he wants to get married maybe he was waiting until he got things situated and It looks as if that's what he did so only you can answer your own question , But if it where me I would follow my heart .
2007-11-15 08:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somewhat stupid yet how approximately writing a execs and cons record for each of them to be sure which one seems extra ideal on paper? How approximately getting the two one among them (in my opinion) to fulfill at the same time with your persons to get their evaluations too? you ought to p.c. - you are able to't shop stringing the two alongside and that i'm surprised you have controlled to wreck out with it so some distance.
2016-10-16 21:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah your in a bad situation hear. well first dont marry T unless your 100% sure that is who you want to be with. Follow your hurt and try to make the choice that is best for you and what will make you happy.
2007-11-15 08:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by tinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the one who treats you nicer, and consider the long term.
If this turns out to be M, tell him you turned down a marriage proposal, and your biological clock is ticking....
2007-11-15 08:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be in love with someone AND love them in order for things to work out.
2007-11-15 08:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by ChrissySue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of them are any good.
2007-11-15 08:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by Felix The Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋