my friend has a boyfriend who is literally physcho! he needs help and she comes to me for advice.. i dont know what to tell her! he got kicked out of his house and now he is staying at his aunt and uncles! yesterday he kept yellin at her and he like turned the car off at like 30 mph and messed the car up and was like holding the wheel so she couldnt turn! but his dad doesnt want her to leave him just yet but she says she wants him out of her life! should she leave or stay with him? what do i tell her??
2007-11-15 07:39:17 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her to do what she firmly believe is the best for her, and NOT for her dad or for the dude! I think she is absolutely right; she should leave him before putting her life in a more danger.
I am sorry to say that her dad seems to be a very irresponsible parent!
All the best!/
2007-11-15 07:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ebby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy seems to have too many issues that he can't focus on his girlfriend. If he is worth it, he wouldn't behave like this. I assume that he is having personal problems. And obviously if she wants him out of her life, so she should leave him.
Why does her dad want the boyfriend? No offense, but her dad should not force his daughter to stay with such a physcho. This guy is not safe.
2007-11-15 07:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by TennisCutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should leave. She has to do what's right for her and this relationship is not it. She should break up with him over the phone to avoid some sort of fallout. She can explain that her feelings for him are not the same as they were when they starting going out and she didn't want to continue this relationship.
He'll likely take it poorly and it's hard to say if he'll react negatively to this. Don't leave your friend alone this night. Make sure you spend some time with her after the call and make sure she's not alone that night.
Good Luck.
2007-11-15 07:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by bx01z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you tell her, she is an adult and going to do what she wants.
I don't think anyone should be in a relationship that isn't stable.
Why doesn't his dad want her to leave him? Is he crazy too? Why would you let your own child treat someone like a piece of SH%$ and expect her to stay?
As a friend, I would still tell her to leave. She is better off alone, if she stays too long she may feel stuck and her self-worth may down the tubes!
2007-11-15 07:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by colleenjp78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice haveing lived with domestic violence for most of my life is to tell her to get away from him before something really bad happens and she ends up dead.a situation like this is never a good one for anybody. the episode with the car should of been a wake up call right then.
she should listen to her own instincts and get away from him like yesterday.and not worry about his dad nor anyone else for that matter.if she has access to a computer or can use yours,have her email me.i pray my experiences can give her some insite into the situatuation she is headed for if she don't get away while she can.
shaggysmom06@yahoo.com
2007-11-15 07:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on wgat is happening in his life, age and commitment level. He could be going through something very difficult and he may need her there for support, which she might not be mature enough for yet, and she should't have to be. She should follow her instinct. If he has a history of this, it might be smart to get out, if this behavior is caused by an insodent and will pass, she should be there for him to help him through this tough time in his life. It will make theire relationship much stronger, and bond the two in great way's.
2007-11-15 07:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by erikagoodpasture 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very dangerous situation for your friend and she should definitely get him out as soon as possible but without leaving him full stop, he needs some help and she can get him some she can try talking to the aunt and uncle of her boyfriend and get them to sort somrthing out like get himt to see someone... hope this was helpful, good luck for you, your friend and her boyfriend-for-the-moment !!!
2007-11-15 07:45:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds crazy. She needs to get away from him. If his dad doesn't want her to leave, that is a huge red flag. That means that they have had to deal with him less now that she is with him.
Noone rides in my car if they have the need to grab the steering wheel. My hubby did it once and I started yelling at him for it, he hasn't done it since.
2007-11-15 07:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you think about him, but most of all you need to tell her that you love her and will be there for her no matter what decisions she makes in life.
Ultimately she will suffer the consequences to her actions and decisions. Not you. Just be there for her when her world comes crashing down. And try to find the source of her lack of self worth. It sounds like her family is giving her bad advice.
Please don't take this as your responsibility. Even though her family has a warped sense of reality, they have more of an influence on her than you do. She truly does not see her decisions as faulty.
Do what you can to help her, but understand your boundaries. Take care of yourself first. People will mine their own fate in life. She seems to be going on a steady course for disaster.
Don't give up on her, but you have to protect yourself in the meanwhile. Don't let this drag you down too. And if it seems to be unworkable, it's time for you to bail. I know you love her, but you can't save her if she is unwilling to save herself.
Good luck to you and yours.
2007-11-15 07:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by Kelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That right there was the first sign of the begining of an abusive relationship. Tell her to get out right now. Tell her not to stay in that because "his" dad wants her too, follow your heart, he's not stable.
2007-11-15 07:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by ♥JENN♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋