ight..... have a gf n ive had her for about a week n at first i jus loved making out wit her n cuddling but then tha past 2 days.... i jus think about hangin out wit her n making out n it jus doesnt do nethin for me... its like i totally lost interest in girls.
i think of bein wit another guy n i jus dnt feel tha need to or i think of doin stuff wit a guy n i relly dnt feel nuthin either
i jus y dnt i get nuthin outta bein wit a girl nemore?
can this mean im gay cuz like its always on my mind of me thinkin im turnin gay n it jus scares me cuz i dnt want to be gay at all
i need help pleeeez
2007-11-15 07:19:18 · 67 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-11-15 07:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jim l 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Hello “idkidkid” !!!!
No,
Statistics show that 26 percent of all middle school students are not sure of the sexual preference.
Just because you have been fooling around does not mean it will stay exciting. Sex is not in your pants, it’s in your head and what you make your mind do with it.
Companionship is people together that get along.
Friendship is someone that thinks more of you than themselves and try’s to do anything possible to help you and care for you.
Sex is engaging in physical measures with someone else for sexual pleasure or gratification. It does not require love or friendship and many times is engaged in my companions.
Healthy Love is a combination between Companionship, Friendship and it helps to have healthy sex if you are in a companionship of significant other relations.
Lust or Desire may seem like love and feel like love and they don’t have to be for a person. You can think you love a car and in a way you do and there is nothing wrong with that.
Fooling around or sex needs to be exciting and takes lots and lots of truth and communication or it becomes crappy.
So. You may be a bit confused, or your girlfriend who you think is hot may just be another person because you accepted her without true feelings and more for the act of having a girlfriend.
You like so many others are going through a process. Just because you are exploring your feelings is not wrong. It is good and you should do so and read a lot about it so you do one day end up with a long lasting relationship …
Good Luck
Greg
2007-11-15 07:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by Black Sword 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you are going to know if you are gay, maybe you just have a low sex drive. how old are you? many males have a lowered sex drive due to stress or other external factors. sometimes it;s because they have low testosterone levels, so you may have to go to the dr can have that checked out. if you have trouble sleeping and feel depressed more than half the time it really could be your testosterone. if that seems to check out o.k. and you still have no desire to be with a woman, then you may just be the type of person that doesn't need to have a sexual relationship. you may just be content having close friendships. the only way to know weather or not you are gay is if you desire men MORE than a woman. your problem isn't your sexuallity, it's how you are seeing it. you don't want to be gay. is it because you were taught to believe that it is wrong? or were you taught that gay men are sissys? you have no choice in the matter just like you have no choice if you have dark brown skin or light brown skin (that's black or white for all you people stuck in the 1800's) you were given everything inside and outside of your body for a reason. love it and cherish it. hold it in high esteem. if you are gay there is nothing wrong with you. the only thing wrong is the people that would judge you for it. and if that is the case then you just need to be around different people. feel free to email me if you need to talk about this more.
2007-11-15 07:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by jack w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most importantly, I think you need help with your grammar and spelling. I had to read this post 3 times before I grasped it. If you do not feel a sexual desire for men, then I think it is unlikely that you are gay.
I think you should try and hang out with a gay person. That way you can get rid of your fear of being gay. Whether you are or you aren't, it sounds like you think it is a bad thing. Therefore, you need to address your feelings on homosexuality before you move any further.
Maybe you aren't enjoying your current relationships, because you are too focused on being afraid of something that you aren't even sure of.
2007-11-15 07:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not gay.
Being gay is an action, not a condition.
If you choose to act on a desire toward men that would be your choice and it would further pull you in to it's grasp.
My advice. Relax and enjoy life. Date other girls, or take a break from dating for a while. No-one says you have to have a girlfriend... or even get married if you don't want to. There's nothing wrong with that.
2007-11-15 07:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by wisdom4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age, it is pretty normal to question your sexuality. Just because you aren't interested in girls right now does not make you gay. As you mentioned, you don't seem to be interested in men either. Subconsciously, you may not be ready for or want a relationship right now so just give it some time and see how you feel. If you are, you will know.
2007-11-15 07:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by ♪♫Just Me♪♫ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You not only lost interest in girls but you also lost interest in trying to communicate with others. Will attending homosexual parades on weekends help you to understand these faults? Does the word, "Closet", mean anything to you? Try to get ahold of one of those "special dictionaries" of hi-jacked words by the homosexual community and just read their definitions . . . I think that you will have at least gained a start from the knowledge that you might gain there. I'm not sure about the spelling of those words though. You seem to have a prob with spelling, per se. Good luck. I hope you find your answer to your "political question".
2007-11-15 07:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its doesn't mean you're gay. It may mean that this girl isn't the right one for you. Leave it for a while, it won't matter if you're gay anyway. Don't worry, things like this happens, some of my friends thought they were lesbian but they weren't, maybe you should try something a bit exciting. Do more things with you girlfriend, different kind of things, maybe that may help. I'm really not sure but I think you'd know if you were gay.
2007-11-15 07:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sadie S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this Can happen with neone. u just don't like her in tht way nemore that's all. nd if u r gay so what, give it time u will c ur tru feelings later in life. jst cos u dnt feel rite with this 1 girl dsnt mean ul feel lyk tht with em all. nd dnt keep this girl hangin on id let her dwn slowly, jst say it dont feel right nemore - oh nd dnt dump her in a txt, call her at least.
2007-11-15 07:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u lost interest in girl then come on out of the closet. no need to hide the fact that you are gay. if u gay then u gay. go to the titty bars by yourself get a private dance. bein gay is a mind thing. its all in your mind. go to a hypnotist. its all in your mind. aint nuttin like havin a good woman at your side. God dont like ugly and bein gay is ugly.
2007-11-15 07:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your only gay if you take pleasure in interaction(sexual) with the same sex. if it just doesnt do it for u with either sex u might jus be in a phase.....depending on how old u r ur prolly in ur exsperimenting stage....i am and i have done a few things with girls and thought it was ok but now i just like guys but ill say a girl is hott or sexy or something. it just depends on how you feel. ull figure it out eventually! dont worry
2007-11-15 07:23:41 · answer #11 · answered by jamee981 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋