Have You been Abused?

Question

Has anybody here been abused. I remember when I was little I made an emerengcy Kit. I put in a bottle of water, a book, some food and money for a payphone If I needed it. I also had some pencil crayons and paper to draw. Then If my mother was being verbally or phisically abusive I would go up and open the kit.

How did you guys cope with abuse?

Answer 1

I have a father who scared the life out his seven children every day.. He was an alcoholic and a bit schizo...He murdered my mother's brother and got a way with it by claiming self defense, but I knew as a child that eight bullets is more than self-defense. So, I was scared of him from the time he was set free in court. He would come home yellling at my mother if food wasn't ready, or if it was not good enough. he'd beat her till neighbors had to call the paramedics. The police were used to coming around, but they never thought of taking us away form the violent situation. My faher would beat up my brothers with his working boots for any little reason. I,being he eldest, would hide in the closet and stay quiet., or try to make things better by cleaing aobut the house making things just look better around the house. But I got my share of hits as well. Once, it was with telephone wires welting my back at the age of five...another was when a tuft of my hair was yanked off. My mother loved my father too much to leave him....I am now a stong 49, but suffering the consequences of marrying too quickly to excape, divorcing in the end, and now being unable to hold up any good jobs for my 'age '. Funny, I got to graduate form Cornell University and NYU with a Masters...yet I am sill unable to find decent work. I guess, the instability shows no matter how I try to hide it.

Answer 2

I was molested, raped, and verbally abused for 10 years by my own step-father!! The man who raised me from the time I was 6 months old. This went on from the age of 8 until the day I turned 18 and left. That was a very smart way to cope though...good for you. I just shut down emotionally whenever he came in my bedroom in the middle of the night. I was there physically but mentally I was somewhere else. It was a horrible experience. Thank God I turned out alright and not into a looney.

Answer 3

I was in an extremely abusive marriage for ten years. Finally I got the courage to divorce. I seriously thought I would never make it out alive. I coped by going to an abused women's counseling group for a good while.

Answer 4

To me psychological abuse is worse than actual abuse.With actual abuse yours harm's are healed in a short quantity of time,yet regrettably with psychological abuse your harm's can some years to heal.

Answer 5

I haven't but I think how you handled it was AWESOME! Props to you. Hopefully your in therapy now working on these issues. Just remember - None of this was your fault, blame always goes to the abuser, not the abused. Good Luck

Answer 6

I defiantly did not cope very well. I became a habitual liar. I made things up to make my life appear better than it was, to myself and others. It has taken me years and years to get that part of my life under control. I applaud the much healthier way you dealt with things.

Answer 7

I was molested for a few months by an extended family member. I didnt realize realize what was going on. I thought I was doing what I was supposed to. It wasnt until I was older and couldnt look at men that I realized there was something wrong.

Answer 8

that was a healthy out let good for you, i have never been abused sorry you were but what an intelligent child you were

Answer 9

I've abused myself

Answer 10

No i've never been abused.