how do i motivate my gf to reduce weight?

Question

my gf's put on a few (more than few actually) extra pounds, how do i motivate her to reduce weight without offending her?

Answer 1

Ask her if she wants to join a gym with you. She can't expect you to stay attracted to her if she becomes too obese. It's not how you entered the relationship. Tell her you love her, but you're losing interest in her body.

Sorry... there isn't a nice way to do this. You just have to tell it like it is. Think about it.

PS. I'm probably going to get 'thumbs down' from all the fat people that expect their mates to stay with them after they gain over 100 lbs. Wake up people. This is the real world and I'm just being honest. He called her his girlfriend, not his wife.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You really can't do much without offending her. How about telling her you want to plan a nice vacation for the two of you next summer and you want to get in shape with her so you two will be able to have a great time....then you will have to keep up with the plan, like dieting, walking, etc. Just do it nicely and make sure something good is waiting at the end. It could be medication, a medical problem, stress or whatever that is causing the weight gain.

Answer 4

Do it be having a discussion with her. Tell her you really want to improve your health, and want to start a diet and exercise program. You need her support and think you should start working out together. Put together a viable work out plan, and start making healthy eating choices together.

You may have put on a few pounds too, and this will help you both get healthier, only increasing energy (which can definitely benefit the relationship) and have life long lasting changes to improve yourself.

Answer 5

i dont think there is a way for you to ask her to lose the weight without offending her. I would suggest asking her to workout with you so that you can get in shape or maybe just go for evening walks

Answer 6

You don't say a word. Trust me anything said, no matter how well meaning you are is going to blow up in your face, and she will not lose a pound.

No one losses weight when they are not feeling good about themselves. Low self esteem is not going to make her lose weight. But a positive attitude about herself and your relationship will cause her to want to be the best she can be.

Answer 7

There's nothing you can say towards her that she wont take offense to. And, you're a little bit... shallow. Regardless, I can help - but its going to involve getting off your butt, too.

Tell her that you want to start exercising more and see if she would be interested in being a motivational work-out buddy.

That way you both get exercise, and there's no pointing fingers, which is rude - especially when it's your girlfriend.

Answer 8

Touchy situation. Why dont you recommend BOTH of you joining a gym and going together. Come across as it is for you as well but something you can do together. Also, maybe you do some cooking as well and make healthier foods. When you go out to eat, tell her you dont want fast food or something like that.

Answer 9

take walks together find a shooting range pick up casings for the added help even sale as scrap find walk paths mountains fresh air that all is good for weight lose the get dieters green tea chines store or health foods have her to sweat en with honey run up stairs.

Answer 10

This is a VERY tricky area.
My advice is to DON'T SAY ANYTHING.
What's your motivation for saying this to her?
You could tell her that you care for her and want her to live a long life so she needs to lose a few, but my advice is to let it go buddy.
She's your girlfriend, not your wife. Keep exercising yourself and be a good example to her.
Love her as she is. If she says, "Gee, I'm think I'm gaining weight , what do you think?" Your response should be:
"Well, maybe you are a little, but you are still beautiful and I love you."

Answer 11

it's a touchy subject but u are probably the only one who can. I think u could start walking by yourself on a consistent basis at first, then u can get to invite her to come along some day. when she does, u need to walk really slow and talk/joke most of the time so she'll want to do it again.