2007-11-15 06:39:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I wouldn't say it's crazy. I would guess that it'll be stressful though. It all depends on how good/poor of a relationship you have with your mother in law. And how much space you're able to provide her to herself. I think it would be a noble gesture to let her move in with you. I personally would be torn, because every couple wants the newlywed stage when they're first married and the mother in law could change your situation.
2007-11-15 06:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very crazy. The first year of marriage is the hardest. You are trying to adjust to being a spouse and sharing every detail of your life. It's very hard to get used to.
For many people there are a lot of expenses you didn't have before. You have just gotten a house so you'll have higher water bills, electricity, and tons of little items you have to buy from sponges, to mops, to lawn care items. You will be emotionally and financially drained for one year.
Then you are throwing a third person into this. No matter what adding a third person who has no right to be there into the center of your marriage is going to make it 10 times more difficult. You have to change your habits and you and your spouse haven't even FORMED habits.
My husband and I had a hard time working out the arrangement, the chores, the household cleaning schedule. A mature woman is used to running her own household. She has her set ways on how things are suppose to be done. Unfortunately this might not be the way you and your spouse would like.
Next the brides mother of all people. The problem here is that either they get along great or they don't. They don't and you have added an extreme element of stress into an already stressful first year. Someone constantly critiquing every casserole, every load of laundry, every action. They get along great you have all your personal problems aired out to your in-laws. You had a fight. Mother knows all and is on her side. Groom is constantly wrong. It doesn't take long before hostility and resentment is in the marriage bed.
This would have to be a game show where I would win a million dollars if we lasted a year before I would be willing to put my marriage on the line like that.
2007-11-15 06:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Getting married and moving into a new house....all major life changes. You need time alone as a couple to get used to each other, to get to know one another.
Having the mother move in will spoil your time together as a newly wed couple and put extra stress on your relationship. I wouldnt do it unless it was totally unavoidable, eg the mother is out on the street....try and find an alternative, at least for 6 months so you guys get some newlywed time alone.
2007-11-15 07:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how happy you want your future wife to be and how much you like her mother. It will likely be stressful. That is all I can say on the subject. Everyone needs to have a private area they can exist in. You need to go over the house rules before letting this happen. The first year of marriage is difficult enough without any outside interruptions like anyone living with you.
2007-11-15 06:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by wife2denizmoi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to get divorced? They the first year is the hardest for adjusting. Can you wait on your mother moving in until later on?
2007-11-15 06:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lyla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o wow! i wouldnt do it.. but thats just me.. hey if your cool with it then cool.. but dont you want your privacy as newlyweds for a little bit? no matter what age you are, or how long you guys have lived together, getting married gives you a new sense of independency... like you really all grown up now.. starting a family of your own.. i dont know.. i guess it just depends on the type of relationship you have with you mom.. me and my mom are really close.. shes even my maitron of honor.. but i still wouldnt do it!
2007-11-15 06:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there,done that,DON'T DO IT.We survived but it was very hard,married 42 years Good luck.
2007-11-15 17:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by peppersham 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure there are reasons that she had to. It will be stressful, but it definitely can be done. Try to make the best of it. Good luck!
2007-11-15 06:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by vaya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SUCKS!!
NOT ONLY ARE YOU ADJUSTING TO YOUR NEW WIFE,NEW HOUSE,BUT NOW THE MOTHER IN-LAW???
SHE'LL BE IN THE MIDDLE OF EVERYTHING...
THAT'S LUDICROUS!!
2007-11-15 06:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by harleygirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound fun. I'm sorry
2007-11-16 05:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by mrsidahospud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋