I'm going to be gone on vacation for 2weeks, and my boyfriend is going to stay in the apartment alone, I recently discovered that he was planning a getogether with two friends that he previously states he wouldn't hang out with because of the trouble they got him into, but I definately caught him at 5am talking to them about planning a party here. On top of that, these two guys absolutely hate me as I hate them. Is there anyway that I can ban them from entering my apartment, say they were to come when in my presence I know I would instantly kick them out and call the cops on them, but is there anyway to ban certain people from entering your house?
2007-11-15 06:24:58 · 11 answers · asked by twigounette 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
allright, my boyfriend and I are both on the lease, I seriously doubt we'll be together after this lease is over, we're very close to breakup, and I seriously think that since I'm going to be gone he'll think he can get away with inviting them. But I feel so strongly about these guys, that you would litterally have to kill me before they could enter my apartment. and I really can't let them enter, I just can't. But if he's here I feel that I'm powerless with that, so I'd like to get some official record banning them.
2007-11-15 06:40:36 · update #1
Not as long as your boyfriend is there, allowing them to enter (when you arent there). Kick the BF out, and then they cannot come in. But as long as he is a legal resident, he can invite in whom he wants. If you had a restraining order against them you might be able to keep them out (as long as it included your residence and not just yourself), but thats it. Sorry. By the way, I would really have to wonder about your relationship if you cant trust your live-in BF to not invite over people that hate you when you are out.
2007-11-15 06:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by bmwdriver11 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I would do in your situation.
1. Invest in a storage unit.
2. Get some friends to help you move all YOUR stuff, valuables, etc... into the storage unit.
At this point you could choose to go on that vacation with peace of mind....
OR, again, what I would do in that situation --
use the vacation time and money to:
a. break your part of the lease -explain the situation, but be willing to pay the break-lease fee.
b. find another apartment to move into.
And finally, get a new cell phone number as well.
If your feelings are as strong as you mention, it would be more worth your peace of mind to deal with the situation NOW while you have the time and will to do so.
2007-11-15 15:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The OBVIOUS answer is to not let your boyfriend stay there. If he cannot respect your wishes as to who you don't want in your house and you catch him making plans at 5 am on the phone, why are you with him anyway? No offense hun, but if you let him stay there after you know he is planning something, you're asking for it.
It takes time and effort to get a restraining order and you have to show that someone has done something specific to you to get one. You cannot get one because you don't want your boyfriend to let other people in the house. They will laugh you out of court. They would rather spend that time keeping abusive boyfriends and husbands from hurting families.
2007-11-15 14:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why don't you not let your bf stay there alone? Do you guys live together and is he on the lease? If he's not, then just say you would feel better if he didn't stay there and don't give him a key and tell the front office not to give him a key and there. Done.
2007-11-15 14:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one, maybe you should talk to your b/f considering he knows how you feel about them and how they feel about you and how disrespectful it is as a man to do that to you, but in some states you may be able to get a statement so they can't come with in a 100 yards of your place. a restraining order or no trespassing. But for the record, if I was you, I would still have a talk with my b/f for doing that behind my back and knowing how you feel about it. if he cares he won't let them come over.
2007-11-15 14:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by mommabigclay2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to change your plans. If your boyfriend is staying at your place and these guys are his friends he is going to have them over no matter what you say or do. Especially if they already have something planned. I would find someone else to stay at my place and dump the boyfriend. If you don't get along with his friends and they don't get along with you maybe its time to find someone that you are more suited to. "Your friends are a reflection of who you are." If you can't trust him its time to move on.
2007-11-15 14:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_sensation775 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything you can do due to the fact that he is a legal resident there. Unless you have legal documents at the court to keep them from the property there is nothing you can except plead with your soon to be ex bf.
Good luck!
2007-11-15 14:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by Danie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have these peoples names in full then you can file with the courts a no trespassing warrant and or a restraining order issued to these individuals prohibiting them to come around or in your residence.
I practice law and have dealt with very similar situations....ask the courts.
2007-11-15 14:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show the boyfriend where the front door is. If he does not respect you anymore than that, he is not for you.
2007-11-15 14:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by Scrappy52 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, tell your boyfriend to respect your wishes. If he doesn't respect you then your problem should be with him. He's the one letting them in.
2007-11-15 14:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by John 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋