Is this right? or did i take it wrong?

Question

I was going around wipeing a few cubicles for our company party later tonight, and one of the guys i work with asked me to go wipe down his furniture.. He said " you can wipe down my desk and stuff to, or are you going to ask me to do it myself?"
What should i have done?

I just think this guy really has no manners there has been a few instances for example: i was moving a big box of water obviously too heavy for me and he walked right by me, didnt even offer to help.. he eats everything i mean everything... there were cupcakes in the kitchen obviously for one of the girls b-day (there where balloons in there too that said happy b-day) and before she even walked in the door, or before we even sang happy b-day he had alredy had two!... is it just me or what?

i was actually asked to wipe down the empty cubicles... not peoples offices, so it wasnt really my job to wipe down his space..

Answer 1

This dude sounds like a bad MadTV character.

Answer 2

He's very comfortable with being an extravert and openly says and does whatever he's thinking. That can be kinda hard to take if you've been brought up thinking it's good manners to help a lady, to wait until offered a cupcake before you chow down, and to clean up after yourself instead of expecting someone else to do it for you.
But in his defense, food left around the office can sometimes be considered fair game and if you wait for others, you're not going to get any yourself.
Since you were cleaning the cubicles, he was giving you permission to enter his own private space and could have been teasing you to find out if you wanted him to clean it himself.
Some women would rather haul things around themselves because they don't consider men their personal pack mules and prefer to be independent and do it themselves.
One explanantion makes him seem boorish and mannerless. The other makes him seem sorta normal.
If it's bothering you terribly, then confront him in a less aggressive manner and lead him gently towards "Emily Post", but if it's just one of those annoying things that might be better left alone, then just try to get used to him.
I understand your annoyance, but I'd give him space because it wouldn't seem worth making the enemy.

Answer 3

There's someone like this guy in every office and the only way to handle him is to be straightforward. He wont understand subtlety. Dont wait for him to ask if you need help-tell him. I'm wondering if someone mentioned the protocol for birthday celebrations. He obviously doesnt have a lot of manners. It's going to be up to everyone to set him straight. Good luck with this. It's hard, but it's been done.

Answer 4

He is just an insensitive, illmannered probably overweight lump of male humanity. Take him aside and firmly point this out to him. He should thank you for this advice, but that would take a few more years before he really realizes what good advice you gave him. But do tell him. He does not listen to his mother who probably thinks he god's gift to the world. May be he hasn't got a mother, or if he has, maybe she is without manners too.

Answer 5

I hope this guy is just a coworker, not the boss. No, it isn't you it is that jerk who treated you like you were his servant and pigged up the cakes. Confront him . Take a witness along and confront him about his unacceptable behavior. When he ate other peoples food that was a no-no. In office situations you just do not drink other worker drinks nor eat others food without permission. It was rude for him to go ahead of the b-day girl.

Answer 6

with what you listed past stuff like the box of water and stuff frankly i would let that go. however it did build his charactor and with that being said i would of told him to shove it! lol! and do it yourself!

i would of been nice and said no i'm sorry maybe if you said please or asked me then i would have, but here is the stuff have a ball!

as i stated about the other stuff not helping and eating everything i hate to give you touf luv but are you a little absessed! I know how employess can suck badly but really it didn't even involve you! but i would of said something to him then now it's a little late!

so next he does some stupid selfish act point it out and let it go or let it build up inside of you! as I see it has!

Answer 7

Did you volunteer for the job or were you asked to do it? There's a difference. If you volunteered, you could have told him that you don't work for free and you're only doing it out of the goodness of your heart. If he wants his area cleaned specially, special services= special fees too! If you were asked to do it, grin and bear it and it's up to the person if they want to help you out or not. You could have asked for help too. So, you see, it depends on the situations you're in. It sounded like the guy was just a rude and obnoxious goofball.

Answer 8

It's not right and you didn't take it he wrong way. This guy sounds like a self-centered bunghole. If I were you I would have made him wipe his own desk. However if it is your job to clean all the cuticles then of course you have to do his to, but there is no reason for why he should tell you anything of that sort.

Answer 9

this dude is practically lazy and since you're nice like me we have to do what were told or we get fired i've been in that situation earlier this year twice and then he would have lied about it because is his word against yours eventhough we're the good guy in this situation this can easily be twisted around to make you look bad and he doesn't have any manners if he did he would have taken the time out to clean up his own mess. then if he didn't do and made you do it like you said you should have stood up to him in front of the supervisor and he would've got in trouble not you because he acts like since you're nice and kind he takes that for granted and try to push you around. he should've not eaten the girls cupcakes that's just wrong he should have made something to eat first then ate cake and ice cream like all my friends do when they invite me to their parties. the first time i was a assistant camp counselor last summer so i was holding a little boys hand not knowing he was hard-headed and didn't listen. so one of the camp counselors asked me a question and the next thing i know i got fired for something i didn't do because they didn't have all the facts straight or had half and didn't hear the part of my story. then they told my teacher and she was very angry at me and i tried to explain what had she said no excuses now you get what i'm saying people sometimes in higher positions than you believe someone older than you and they end up lying and then you look like the bad guy eventhough you were doing i thought a good deed and got in trouble for no reason then i got in trouble because they thought a girl fell off my lap and all she was doing was handing the same boy that got me in trouble proir to that incident a toy and they told me i was going to let her fall and don't read a book to her if you're not going to read it to the class. everyone was playing with toys then someone spilled milk that next day on the floor and the table while everyone was playing with toys. i told the lady i cannot clean it up because if i put the cleaner on the table while they're playing it's a health hazard they're little kids i'll have to wait until they get done playing with their toys so i can clean up and they can take a nap. my friend got in trouble for something similar to that but she was with the kids for swimming class outside. that's how i got taught wait for kids to get done playing then clean up. so you get where i'm going with this he's lazy and don't want to help and his power and position is going to his head and he acts like he expects you to do all his plus your work for him okay.

Answer 10

That guy sounds like a real jerk. I would've told him to wipe down his own cubicle, but he probably wouldn't have done it anyway.