In your opinion which is better... seating guests with people they know or mixing things up a bit (im not talking about putting the church goers with the gothic teenagers) to get people to mingle more?
2007-11-15 04:39:42 · 10 answers · asked by Kit 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
People must have assigned seats so that the caterer can serve the dinner
2007-11-15 04:46:14 · update #1
You don't say if the table(s) are round or oblong/rectangular. Round make it easier for all at the table to visit. That said, I'd say to mix it up. Help people to visit with people they might not otherwise take time to talk to. ... I say this because, personally, I find it a drag to go to a dinner where people are assigned to sit next to others they know well and you end up with people at a table who visit only with one another and ignore (probably unintentionally) the others at the table. It's great that they know one another so well, but it's good to take time to get to know others too. So help that along.
Have a lovely and blessed holiday.
2007-11-15 05:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by Barb B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I hate to tell you that your in for a lot of work and all just for small amount of time! Every one will get up and mingle after dinner!
You don't have to have assigned seating for the meal........I am also having a choice and here is how I am making it easy on not only me but the wait staff and my guest........ I am having steak and chicken .........Blue seating card will be steak and chicken white! Those are also my wedding colors! Easy and simple.
I am seating parents, grandparents (same table) and My bridal party and there guest (same table). Every one else is fully capable of finding a seat! Plus there will be no saving seat with purses etc....
One less stress for you. Us brides have enough to worry about with out worrying that Aunt Sophie isn't sitting in the right chair and will be served Uncle John Steak!
Best wishes and good luck in all your planing!!
2007-11-15 13:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by typicalcagirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My coordinator wanted to let people just sit where they wanted to prevent from having us do place cards and a seating chart. I decided recently to actually do place cards because if you put people where they don't want to be seated with whom ever they are sitting with they will just end up in that seat anyway. I also thought to myself why let people sit where they want and friends will be at table 4 and family will be at table 11 and it would be a whole big thing about family not being first so I decided to put family first and then friends but also mix both of our families so it will be both sets of aunts and uncles at one table then both sets of cousins at another table and so on and so on. I think it is a good idea to mix so both sets of families can get to know each other. Hope this helps a little.
2007-11-15 13:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not even having the hassle of assigning everyones seats. They'll mingle and eat where they want!
Ohh, you're having something more formal... I'd say do the tables by how the know eachother but put those tables next to tables of people they dont know. Happy medium.
2007-11-15 12:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by chaychayolei 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Above all, open seating! Reserve some tables for family members.
If you must have designated seating, put families together. People will mix at the reception.
2007-11-16 06:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, I would lwt people mingle, whenever people put us somewhere assigned at a wedding, we usually end up walking around half the time and visiting with other people anyway.
2007-11-15 12:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mix the tables. This is a great way to get the family knowing each other. Put similar ages together....ie aunts/uncles with his aunts/uncles. Cousins with cousins. If its a table of 8, make it two couples from your side, and two from his.
2007-11-15 12:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kates 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i got married 2 months ago i had them all mingled with each other so then our family's and friends could get to know everyone because some of my relatives live other down south from us and did not know my DH family so i thought i would be nice for them to get to know each other over dinner and the same with my friends i had work mates sit with family and friends from out of work and it worked a treat and everyone enjoyed themselves and got to know each other
2007-11-15 13:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by fiona 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would seat people with others that they know. They will be more comfortable that way and they'll know you thought of them when planning the seating.
2007-11-15 12:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by green_mm_07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we are only doing assigned seating for our family. all the rest of our friends will pick their own seats.
2007-11-15 13:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋