How can I get rid of her?

Question

I have this ex-girlfriend. We did not have real 'love' between us, just mutual respect. When she transfered to a different city, we agreed that it was over between us (amicably, I thought). We however stayed in touch by phone. Then, unfortunately, I transfered to the same city as her. We would meet once in a while, and yes, have sex (for old times sake). She knew of my fiance who I had left behind in my former city.
After meeting two or three times, I started noticing extreme jealousy and possessiveness in her. One day I discover she had somehow managed to get my fiance's phone number and called her and told her to leave me alone. From that day I told her to get out of my life completely. She agreed she would. Now she's seriously stalking me. She has even discovered my new workplace yet I had never even hinted to her. She keeps calling wanting us to meet. How do I completely get rid of her, without having her do something stupid?

Answer 1

First, note to self: all break ups should be clean breaks . . .ok, now to your question: call her back and agree to meet her. in a PUBLIC PLACE. Then look her in the face, and being as kind and loving as you can be, tell her that it's time to break up for good. that it was wonderful knowing her, but it's not working out, it will be best for both of you to find something better. Then, if she continues to call, just ignore her calls. Hopefully, it won't escalate. If it does, consider legal action. If you just continue to ignore her now, things could escalate quickly. have the face to face. this will assuage her.

Answer 2

Tell her that you love both her and the fiance and that you can't live without both. and that you want to marry both and have everybody live together and sleep in the same bed. Then tell her that the only way this can happen is if she makes friends with the fiance and that it is a all or nothing. She must take you both or none..

Few, if any women would agree with this and she will be mad at you and hate you and leave you alone so that you can get on with your life with you fiance.

Answer 3

what the hell!!!!!!!!!!
I feel kinda sorry for you, but mate what did you expect???
It serves your right for being unfaithful, just end it with your fiance, you obviously do not deserve her if thats how you treat her. Let your super Ex- Girlfriend see that once you have broken up with your fiance you still dont want her back, she will get the hint if she doesn't then just humiliate her in front of loads of people- this will put her off you completely, after you do that stunt lock your door, she sounds like a psycho!!!

Answer 4

Well you should of never cheated on your fiance. I would get a restraining order on her most "Stalkers" stop when ever they are served the protection order, because they realize what they are doing and then they stop. It cost around 90 bucks, its worth it.

My ex constantly sent me messages, followed me around, sent me flowers, fault with my new boyfriend, until i finally said i had enough and just got a restraining order against him, and he never bothered me again.

Answer 5

Just don't talk to her and if she follows you act like you don't even see her! She probably isn't going to do anything really dumb she just needs to get the hint and move on. I get what your saying though im a bikini model and that happens to me from time to time! LoL

Answer 6

dude, wow.
i feel your pain.

stalkers are the pits.

most just go away after a while and many headaches on your account.

you can get an AVO out on her if it's that bad.
but then you will have to go through the system which will suck.

good luck man.

Answer 7

You slept with this girl behind the back of your fiance'? Oh, I want to read the answers you get.