is it against islam to never marry?

Question

say if i never wanted to get married is this a sin in islam, i dont think that any one would accept me, im not like most typical girls, dont clean or any of that... dont have time.... im into education and have big ambitions, i mean if i do shoose my career path, ill finish university at about 23-24, i like to think myself independant... no need for a man, i know im still young, but would this be okay in islam?
one of my aunts very modern, kinda westernised i suppose is never getting married (doesnt like the asian culture etc) and everyones cool with that... but is this permissible?

i kinda think im very similar to my aunt, independant girl, got everything going.. she's gott her own house shes doing well.... ive never been teh very asian type... infact my family make fun of me, saying how unpaki i am...

i dont think ill ever find a man that fits my criteria lolz

Answer 1

i feel the same way. I just DONT want to get married, and I can think of more reasons not to than to do it. My mom hates it that I feel this way, and i dont want people thinking theres something wrong with me, but thankfully, it is not a sin.

Answer 2

First, to all the nay sayers, there is a Hadith that says "An extremist the one who makes the Halal into Haraam." I don't see any prohibition in al-Quran about not marrying.

On the other hand, there is another Hadith that says "When you marry, you complete 1/3 of your religion," so you can assume that it is a good thing to do.

Anyways, you are young yet, so don't worry. In a few years you will be thinking less about work and more about family. Or maybe you won't. But either way, don't assume that what you want at 20 is the same thing you will want at 30.

Answer 3

This question should be answered by an islamic scholar but i will give my PERSONAL since may be i am wrong and i dont have references either.

what i heard is that it is sunnah to get married. and your emaan get completed when u marry. You get to know what are your responsibilities and rights and your chances of getting into haram get much less.

Your claim that u r independent and dont need a man is not justified. Why then men marry? they are always the one who earns and most of the time indepedent. Some time in life your need a partner, man need a woman and woman need a man. No matter what, a man is a security specially in asian countries. Marriage is for make a new family and give love and get love. at one point, u might need your own children, may be u dont feel now but may be lator u do.

so islamically u cant say it is haram but it is recommended. Ask some a scholar since that was my personal view.

Answer 4

Don't say that no one would accept you. Allah swt has made a pair for everyone. And Islam isn't against independance!! That is great, you are a young,free, independant young women, but everyone needs someone. I am also like you, have HUGE DREAMS, and am into education, and im only 13, but even i dream of my life partner..lol

Marriage is a choice.. and Islam SUPPORTS whatever choice you choose.. to get married or NOT=]

TO DA MAN : And men CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT WOMEN =]

Answer 5

I dont know much about the laws & sharia's in Islam but as an ordinary human i can only say you to live life the way you want, dont live for others, dont follow the path or direction your aunt or who ever it is goes, its your life & your future.

Think wisely, make yourself able to provide sensible decisions and judgments to what ever the decision you take, the decision you make now decides your future & if you have thought wisely & made a desirable decision, it will definitely lead your future to a successful target. It also earns you high esteem in the society.

I dont say you not to respect Islam, do respect your religion, obey its laws & regulations but also live life the way you want. (good way) i think thats what Islam says too, not only Islam all religion says that.

Be good & live good, if you think what you'r doing is right, then dont stop,,, Proceed - you may keep going...

Im laughing at my own answer, cus this is the first time im advicing someone... lol, but this is not an advice, im just telling you what i felt...

Cheers!!!
Tears.

Answer 6

Marriage is part of Iman, and if you think that the prophet peace be upon him was wrong about what he said, then you better get back on track. And who said its any girl'd hobby the clwan and cook? thats not the responsibility of a wife, yet she has the option of either cleaning and cooking, or letting her husband hire a servant to do that job. a wife is there for a man to be his companion, soulmate, best friend,, and to give him love. a wife is there to remind a him of Allah, and forbid him from evil. a wife is not there to clean and cook.
i'm also into education, and if u ask the ppl around me, they'll say i'm pretty independent, but i still need to take on the task of insha-Allah being a good wife for my future husband, because it is a big part of faith, and part of me will not be complete untill i get married.
read the Prophet's book of medicene and then u;ll see how MUCH the Messenger emphasized on getting married

also dont u want to make our Ummah larger and stronger, by having righteous children?

Answer 7

One who doesn't like your own culture is one you shouldn't be proud of. Is that how brits talk?
No but its true. I hate people who are ashamed to be Arab or whatever it may be, Pakistani. I just despise it.

Well no, do school and be independent. but there is a saying, sort of. I think its mostly Arabic. Half of our deen is to have a family. Raise that family to be good Muslims, so they will raise good Muslims...
Dwell on that and find your own answer. By the way if I was a women I would have a child, to give life is to be a mom. that's is the best thing. women say they have it hard, they get to, with the will of the all mighty give life, to an egg. Doesn't that make you feel like a queen?

Answer 8

It's not recommend to stay single. It is encouraged in the Qur'an for men and women to get married to discourage immorality among the sexes. It's also the only way you can ever have children in Islam. There is nothing wrong with a woman working outside the home however her first duty should be towards taking care of the husband and his children.

Answer 9

You have way too many social influences in your life. Even a very pious person , super devout must have detatchment from the opinions of people.
You are young and you have attatchments to family, in fact. That pressure is always going to be there because it is culturally hardwired .
What you need to do is create some psychological distance between yourself and the people. Physical distance will also do that but more radicaly. Move to the opposite side of the country and see them on vacations. Placate them with lavish gifts. If you are compelled by their attempts to force you.
Your deen is important. You want to integrate the deen into your career . That's going to be far harder than finding a husband I assure you ! You can-- as a role model simply see how Muslim men mange to do this and you do the same. As long as you are doing your Ibadaat and follow the deen closely nobody can force you- by any means- to marry against your will- at least not in Hanafi madhab.
Do you have a madhab? Get one!
It's your best ally! However, things will be rough for you if you disobey Allah. Be seen in the company of pious Muslims and no person can fault you for haveing the career. Abandon the deen and everyone will fault you.
Islam gives everyone free will . It is not haram to stay unmarried. The issue is not being in Purdah without a good reason . The rule of darrura says that working outside the home must serve the basic needs of the Muslim community for medical, food, education, law or some other essential need. I suggest you develop a relationship with an orphanage and send them regular contributions. Nobady is going to fault you for that and its traditional for women in Islam with personal wealth. Fashion on the other hand is not.
Personal ambition is accepted in Islam -even by Allah if you do not become corrupt in the process. Inshallah.
In all likelyhood around 35 you'll meet some nice Muslim proffessional in your field of endeavor and form a partnership with him and become wildly sucessful. You can have that goal and "have it all" as women like to say here in the US. Just be sure to avoid Kufr men . You have to have a lot of patience to wait for that.
Beleive me there are people*out there* who have only one goal in life and that is to dress up fancy and have a big party. They are Riyya junkies. Avoid them the same way the pious person avoids them.
Focus is a learned skill. Failing to focus is the root of failure in business, art, academics. Men are always a distraction unless they are in the same endeavor with you. Don't let people get you off- focus.
You have to wean your emotional needs off the natal family just like a baby leaves the breast and starts eating cereal. Eat cereal with Muslims who have an ambition to help the Muslim community. Marriage will happen when somebody else wants to do what you want to do, Inshallah. The computer can help that happen and so can a professional matchmaker.

A depression is comeing. Don't get isolated from your support system unless you have plenty of finacial resources and you're out of debt. It's gonna be rough and soon. Under such circumstances a single person can be advantaged over a divorced lady with 3 kids in basic survival. It's very important who you marry - not when. Don't let anyone rush you!!!
Get completely out of debt and make hajj while there is the opportunity to do so. See the bigger picture and let Allah guide you. Inshallah your career will benifit many.

Answer 10

I think you will find the man for you . . . Insha Allah.
I don't know if it is against Islam to not marry, but I do know that getting married is half of Islam. And there are lots of blessings in a marriage. Like when you have a baby (it is Haram to have sex outside of marriage; so that is a good reason to get married) all of your sins are forgiven ect.
Your husband is one of your keys to Jannah; so are your parents.

I hope I helped . . .

Ma'a Salama

May Allah Guide us and bless us in this world and in the hereafter.

Answer 11

I guess, your parents needs to understand more about Islam, and what it offers then saying no to you for not becoming a Muslim. This is difficult since your parents don't know much about our religion, which is Islam. If you like the religion. I say, go for it.