my friend and i are at school right now trying to figure out how to get her a boyfriend. she is completely rejecting the idea of me asking my boyfriend to bring along a friend for a double date because shes scared he'll be stupid and ugly and cheap.
how can i convince her that she has to take that risk? i cant just go out and find mr. right for her ont he first try who's automatically smart funny cute and has a good job.
we're both seniors in high school an 17.. HELP
2007-11-15 03:48:07 · 19 answers · asked by li 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you cannot force anyone into anything. but if you believe that it is the right thing to do then just tell her how you sincerely feel, that she looks kinda lonely and might benefit from just having a night out with a friend and two randoms. ask her why she doesnt feel comfortable. if she doesnt want to answer then dont push her...
if this doesnt work try bribery. a box of chocolates can lure a girl into the most dangerous of deeds (bungee jumping for example...that was a good day...)
if she outrightly refuses though then dont worry about it. destiny has a funny way of biting you on the **** when you least expect it.
another one of destiny's victims.
Red Terror.
oh and another thing: if she really doesnt like the guy and he turns out to be a complete jerk, give her the option of kicking him in the nuts. that might convince her to come along.
2007-11-15 03:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by R-T. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That really bites. Tell her that life requires chance. She doesn't want to be old and alone. See if you could get a picture of the guy that your boyfriend is talking about. Or you chould hook them up over the internet. You know let them talk for a while before they go out on a date. Good luck. Oh and one last thing tell your friend that it's not like she is going to automatically be that guys girlfriend. It's just a date to see if they like each other, and if she doesn't like them, then okay.
2007-11-15 11:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by Iris's Lover aka Garrett O. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice is to tell her that she should just be 17 and worry about school and taking care of herself, when she gets all of those things in line and finishes her goals, mr. right will find her. Women often worry too much about finding a guy that they forget to take care of themself and they end up with someone that isn't right for them just to say they have a boyfriend. Tell her to be an independent woman and the men will flock to that when the time is right.
2007-11-15 11:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by TammysTreasuresJewelry.net 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try not to make it obvious that you're trying to get her a boyfriend. Just say "it will be fun, if you don't like him don't give him any play" It's not like you are setting up an arranged marriage. Also try hanging out somewhere that's laid back and doesn't have that "date feel" such as an arcade.
2007-11-15 11:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by prettyshannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think your idea is great. i know what your friend is going through because i went out on a few double dates my self and didn't like the other person who i was with but thats the chance your friend has to take especially if she is shy around boys
2007-11-15 11:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by gasguy695 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is her choice, but if she wants your help tell her thats how you plan to help. dating doesn't mean a life time its to meet and get to know another person. with your bfriend bringing the friend the other guys doesn't even have to know where she lives or her number. unless she gives that away. but she is right he might bring someone ugly, guys usually don't judge guys well most of the time.
2007-11-15 11:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by chad_27292 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well maybe she needs to decide when to talk to someone cause you cant make her do something she doesnt want to :S
maybe try and help her to open a conversation with a random guy and after a few trys she'll get the hang of it and may be able to find "mr right" by herself...
2007-11-15 11:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by estrellitamortalninja 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Convince her to go on the date she may enjoy the date. Tell her that you guys will stick close to one another and that nothing is going to happen. Relax and enjoy her first date.
2007-11-15 11:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree, you can't force her, but you're a good friend for even offering and as long as your boyfriend is a good guy and knows her well, it could end up very well, or at least not horrifying. Good luck!
2007-11-15 11:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by ghetto_quaker 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
will this is what you can do get a fiend (boy) and tell him to go with and bring your friend it will look like if they were dating but really not so try that
2007-11-15 11:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by ka yelterkj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋