Aren't you Christians glad that you are not messed up sexually ?

Question

Did you know that there are girls out there that start having sex at the age of 13 and then have multiple partners thruout college. Guys just go along for the ride and then divorces, stds and heartache, etc. Our morals save us from all of that. My bff was a stripper for some time and she has long bouts of depressionetc etc. Can you guys give any examples of how sex has ruined other peoples' lives ? If you are a devout Christian the power of God gives you self control in this area and it saves you from heartbreak.

All of you guys must of led impure lives then.

Answer 1

Yeah, that's why the Christian club in my high school had the highest pregancy rate in the school... And why the cheerleadrers with their crosses all managed to get wasted each friday and only sober up in time for church on Sunday.

Great morals they were taught...

Answer 2

OK.... so just because some one is Christian, they can't be messed up sexually? Boy.. that train of logic took some large leaps didn't it?

Guys just go along for the ride? It's all the girls fault? OK.. that one doesn't fly for me. I have found it's the guy that usually pushes the girl into things. Usually, it's after the guy tells her that he loves her and will "always be with" her. If the girls have multiple partners, wouldn't it stand to reason that the guys do to? Putting the blame on just the girls isn't right.

I have way too many examples to name. I used to work in an OB/Gyn's office, so me putting examples would take a long time. I can tell you that more then often, if a girl comes in with an STD, or some other form of woman problem, it is usually because the guy she is sleeping with has been with someone who has it. She just doesn't get it out of the blue, and women aren't the main source of infection. Maybe you should look at the statistics behind all those so you get an idea of what I am saying.

In pregnancy, the girl doesn't get that way by herself. In teen pregnancies especially, usually the girl was "talked into sex" by her boyfriend. He was the instigator, not the girl. Sometimes, it's a case of rape where the girl had no choice. Or an act of abuse from family or a friend. That isn't her fault, and she has no blame in that.

It isn't being Christian that gives you control, it's morals in general. Not everyone who is Christian is against pre-marital sex, and not everyone who isn't is for it. Some people have more respect for their bodies, and see sex as something that should only happen in cases where there is a definite commitment. That doesn't mean that all of those people are Christian. Some people don't see anything wrong with sex with multiple partners, as long as they are safe about it. That doesn't mean that all these people aren't Christian.

Answer 3

I was "messed up sexually" when I *was* a Christian. My parents were very religious and forbade me to have sex or date. I was like, what's the big deal? I want to try it. I did some stupid things because I didn't understand what it is all about. Now I realize that, for me, sex is special and I only want to do it with my boyfriend, but it took me a long time to discover that for myself b/c instead of talking with me honestly about it, my parents and their church just said "don't do it until you're married, it's dirty."
PS I'm no longer a Christian and I feel I am a lot less "messed up" sexually than when I was a Christian. I feel I have better integrity by learning things the hard way and taking on my own set of values. Very judgmental Christians (like you sound like in your question... but I'm not saying you are in general) are part of the reason I just could not belong to a church. I really don't like judgmental people.

Answer 4

In my humble opinion, this is where Christianity goes very, very wrong.

Sex is a natural act and a fundamental need for our species. Without it, our species would die off. But, having said that, being human means the act of sex can present itself in multiple and various forms. Knowing this, monotheism sets out to put boundaries on everything save sexual intercourse in its most simple form and purpose. Monotheistic thinking binds the act of sex to only one function. The procreation of our species. It totally negates how the act itself is a physical expression of much, much more.

From telling you "when" and "how" sex is allowed, all the way to calling it "original sin" monotheism specifically and Christianity particularly, defames an act as natural as eating. And like eating, sex nourishes us in fundamental and very important ways.

Religious dogma uses sex as a means of control. Do it only within the parameters of religious law and you are saved from eternal damnation. Move slightly outside of it, and your soul is toast.

Unlike your premise that Christian religious dogma will save the individual from being sexually messed up, the exact opposite is far more true. It invites perversion and heightens the enjoyment of what might be considered perverse activity simply because it's verboten.

I think that in times prior to the birth of patriarchal monotheism, where most forms of sexual interaction were accepted as normal (except incest), the majority of people were far more healthy sexually than they are now. Being given the freedom to express yourself fully in this manner, except in areas like incest where the ancients knew the negative repercussions for the offspring of incest, made ancient societies like the Romans and Greeks vital and creative. Consequently...

I completely disagree with your premise.

Answer 5

I think the only times that sex ruins lives are when a person forces himself on others, kinda like when priests force themselves on young kids. So, to answer your first question, yep, I'm sure glad Christians aren't 'messed up' sexually!

Answer 6

Hahaha.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Religious_scandals

Answer 7

Uh oh... prepare to get slammed dude.

Christians have as many divorces as other people (50%). There are plenty of Christian pastors guilty of sexual sin (actually, a friend of mine was victimized by one, a Baptist preacher) not counting the Catholic priests.

If you're such a Christian what are you doing being friends with a stripper? I mean, doesn't being a Christian put you above the rest of the trash in the word?

(Being sarcastic in the last paragraph, btw)

Answer 8

Heh

Christians have a higher percentage of divorce than secular people.

The truth is actually that Christians all partake in the 'immoral sexual behavior' that secular people do, they just hide it and then feel tremendous guilt about doing it after the fact.

Secular people understand that sex is natural and not something to be scared of.

Answer 9

Hmm, I live in the Bible Belt, why do I hear stories of youth pastors molesting children on a weekly, if not daily basis?

Moral of the story, your beliefs don't make you who you are, you have to work to act them out, which it seems of all religious groups, Christians have the hardest time of doing.

Answer 10

We cannot claim that we are not "messed up".

FYI I don't consider Catholics Christians (since they follow doctrines of men mixed with the bible) & obviously telling a priest that he can't marry is a stupid and destructive (to abuse victums) idea.

What a Christian can say is look to the scriptures. There are specific instructions regarding sexuality that do protect us from disease, heartbreak, etc....

So you might rephrase this question, like this:
Aren't you glad that God set a standard by which to live?