what would you do if your boyfriend or husband told you he was bi?
2007-11-15 03:36:07 · 31 answers · asked by Mindy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
any why do people asume the question is about me. can i not justg ask a general question?
2007-11-15 03:40:43 · update #1
My joke answer is that I'd be happy because then he and I could check out other men together.
My serious answer is, I'd be concerned. To the asker of the question, I don't know if you're actually in this situation or if you're just wondering, but if you are -- judge how much you care for your boyfriend or husband. Is being bisexual really going to affect how much he loves you? Probably not. But if you think it's going to be an issue, definitely raise the question with him and talk it out. Personally I don't think it would be a deal-breaker, although it would be very awkward at first.
2007-11-15 03:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by Remi Hime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he's implying he wants to see men and figure out what he's more comfortable with. Or maybe, he wants to be with you and have a guy on the side. OR again, he could just be telling you he's bi and not mean anything by it. Talk to him and see why he brought up the matter.
I have a boyfriend, who I care for a lot, but I guess you would consider me bi too. I was with a girl before I was with him. Just because I am bi though, doesn't mean I want my boyfriend AND a girlfriend. It just means that before I was with him, I had the same kind of feelings towards a girl. So, it could be the same for your boyfriend/husband.
2007-11-15 03:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day of STD's, especially those which could give me a death sentence, I would say good-bye to any physical relationship if I thought he couldn't be faithful. Maybe we could be friends, if he had been just my boyfriend. But married, no, we are done. He should have revealed it before marriage.
As to STD's, this goes for whether or not he said he was bi. If I don't believe he can be faithful, it is too dangerous.
I would have to talk to him, or both of us should see a professional and discern whether or not I could be enough for him. If he believes he needs to give in to his urges, I wouldn't risk my life. Again, my best bet is to see a professional who is experienced in dealing with bisexuals.
My first responsibility is me. I need to make sure I am safe. Especially if I had children, or if I want to in the future.
2007-11-15 03:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be absolutely shocked, and dismayed and feel like he has had to have known this before we got together or got married. First I would ask if he had slept with another guy, If he hadn't, then I would ask him if he loved me enough to be with me, why didn't he love me enough to tell me the truth before we got serious and or got married.
Then after I got over the initial shock and anger I would probably try to figure out how and what I was going to do to make life less stressfull without is bi butt.
2007-11-15 03:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by MyMxboys is an *old bag too* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would break up with him. Because I want to be in a relationship with someone who just likes women.
I would also feel lied to because that was information that wasn't disclose at the beginning giving me the choice of moving on with the relationship or moving on to other things.
2007-11-15 03:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by avacado 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter what I think. What matters is what YOU think.
Personally I'm fine with that. So long as the person understands that once we are considered a couple then it is an exclusive relationship. And they have to have and pass a STD test.
2007-11-15 03:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by Tira A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i know is when a guy told me he was into me but he was bi, it freaked me out. For some reason getting left for a women seems better to me then being lift for a guy, if that makes any sense.
2007-11-15 03:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rush out and have sex withe first good looker I met. But that is only me not you . Read my book living with Bi;s to be published next year for $1
2007-11-15 03:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by Barbarian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's gonna sleep with a man still called cheating and he can give you std's so there are your options
in my opinion that sort of relationship is not accepted in the bible so you really have to pray for him, but what are oging to tell your children daddy likes both men and women but you are not allowed to do that
my best advice talk ti jesus ask him to give you guidance. endurance, support and wisdo to deal with this situatiion
2007-11-15 03:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what do you think of that? Can you be comfortable that he likes men just like you do? Would you be willing to allow that in your bedroom? Some are more open than others, and would be accepting. Communication is a must though!
2007-11-15 03:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋