What do I do?

Question

I have four kids ages 1,2 1/2, 3, and 5.I also have a friend that has 3 kids 4,2 1/2, and 18 months well her and her husband is having problems and wright now her is on a night shift and she has to close well I have had her kids for three days she dose not come here when she gets off or anything like that she watched one of my kids the other day when I had to take 2 of then to the doc. yesterday she came over for about a hour and a half I had ask her to be her at 7 this morning and she still has not show up and she has turned her phone off now well what do I need to do

I just got a hold of her and she said she over slept her husband is a great father is is working nights at this time and they share a car or they only have one car and she always has it he has to find a way back and forth to work because she is always running the roads and going out all the time I have a appointments today and I am already so tiered i cant hardly see strait she has nothing to do with her family and her husband grandmother just died so i felt bad but i did not know this was going to the permanent address for these kids and they are worst then mine

Answer 1

First thing to be concerned about is your family needs, then the needs of your friend. When children are involved it's hard not to try and help people out, but in this case as you stated your friend has no respect for your family needs by her actions
What you do is put your family first, if you have the time and energy to help your friend do so, if not tell her so. She is taking advantage of your good heartiness to help her out, when it should be her responsibility to make your life easy with your 4 children and then to look after her 3 children no matter how long it is. You didn't say how long this has been taking place, but if you don't find an answer soon to resolve the problem she will put your children at a disadvantage because you will be to tried to take care of your own family needs.

Answer 2

If you are looking after her kids then you need to be able to contact her. What would happen in an emergency? My wife had this problem with a friend, we have two and she has three. Would leave kids, say only going up shops and not return for the night. Had to stop having the children over which was hard as friends of our kids, but not on to leave like that. Put your foot down and tell your friend "you cant treat your kids OR ME like that. You should get paid and be 'on call' otherwise!

Answer 3

What you have to understand is that she have kids of her on to see about so one more just might be a little to much on one person but that does not give her a reason to cut her phone off so ask her why she cut it off and tell her just to tell you next time that its just a little to much on her.

Answer 4

Wait for her to show & then tell her that she's taken advantage of your kindness and she'll have to find someone else to take care of her children. Doesn't she have family??
If she doesn't show & you aren't able to contact her, you'll have to call child services on her. It sucks, but it's not your fault she & her husband are bad parents.

Answer 5

SHES TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOU BABY YOU NEED TO CALL HER AND TELL HER SHE NEEDS TO COME GET THEM OR GO TO HER HOUSE AND DROP THEM OFF TO HER THERE HER KIDS NOT YOURS THEN YOU DO LIKE HER WHEN SHE CALLS YOU FOR A SITTER DON'T ANSWER THE PHONE

Answer 6

call social services and give the kids to them she is neglecting them

Answer 7

tell her it is too much for you and you can no longer watch them, PERIOD