My son is 5 months old and his father won't keep a job. II have given ultimatums, tried to kick him out, left for a couple of days, explained how this hurts me and our son. NOTHING has worked. My parents are no help. Period. His parents are well aware of the situation and last time he quit his job his father offered to help throw him out. They also offered to let me and our son stay with them until I get back on my feet. They live 40 minutes away from me, my work and my son's daycare. It would cost a fortune in gas to stay with them and maintain my present life but what choice do I have? He WILL NOT LEAVE no matter how much I scream, threaten, etc. I won't fight in front of my son. The in-laws don't know about him getting fired again yesterday after only working for 3 weeks. They are my only help & support but I know they will be so angry with him. Should I get them involved? Alternative is going crazy or watching him sleep away another winter unemployed.
2007-11-15 02:41:24 · 5 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why are you yelling and screaming. That only gives you a sore throat. From this day on. Set up an account to put money in for your move. Tell the parents that he has quit/ fired from his job once again. Between all of you, you can come up with a plan of action. If moving in with the in laws is the only option, then see what can be arranged for day care near them, and see about changing jobs.
2007-11-15 03:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds severely depressed. You need to get him into see a doctor and now. What I don't understand is why you are putting your child in daycare when his father is at home to take care of him. Maybe you need to look at this differently, and take advantage of the opportunity for your son to actually get to know his father. There are worse things than being a house husband.
Calm down, you aren't helping anything behaving like you are. I know you are at the end of your rope but you are someones mom now and you don't have the luxury of going crazy. Think back, has he always been this way or is this new behavior? You need to realize that pulling in his parents to "spank" him and tell him what a bad boy he is, or worse what a worthless POS he is, is doing horrible damage. You married him for better or worse, and while this is worse, you owe him your loyalty. You loved him enough to create a baby with him, so you need to love him enough to get him the help he needs.
2007-11-15 02:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You definitely have to get your in-laws involved; you have no other choice. And they need to know that their son is unemployed once again, otherwise, they might be thinking he's doing just fine right now, and will be surprised if you decide to take any action for him to leave (or you). Just do it as calmly as you possibly can. Tell them you've tried everything and unless you call the authorities on him, your only other choice is to call them (your in-laws).
2007-11-15 03:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1) Are you married to this person?
#2) Is the lease/rent contract in your name?
#3) Are the utilities in your name?
If you are not married, get a restraining order against him and call the police and have him removed! DO NOT let him back in! If you do the police will be reluctant to help you.
If you are married, file for divorce and get a restraining order. The police will again escort him out of your home.
2007-11-15 02:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u cant force a person to work until he wants to..he wil work and come back to unemployement...probably u shud start cooking lesser,pretend the son is starving,lie that u wud sell, probably that wud help him work!else collect ur own life and settle!
2007-11-15 02:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by niks 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋