Question about 1 Corinthians 7?

Question

Vs 9. (NIV) But if they cannot control themselves themselves, they should marry for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

But with if you cannot control yourself and it might not be God's will for you to get married?

I know this question seems simple and everything but it's just what's on my mind.

Answer 1

why would it be God's will for you not to marry?

Answer 2

I think that you if you cannot control yourself, you will be actively looking for a partner. Thus, you will have to use faith that one you meet is 'the one'. When both parties involved apply God's values to a relationship, those relationships will work.

Secondly, if it were God's will for a person not to be married. I believe that God would bless that person with a controllable sexual desire. As in 1 Corinthians 10:13 - ...God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

Answer 3

it would not be good for a person lacking self-control to remain single when he could enter into an honorable marriage and thereby protect himself against committing fornication.

1 Corinthians 7:36-38.....But if anyone thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virginity, if that is past the bloom of youth, and this is the way it should take place, let him do what he wants; he does not sin. Let them marry.  But if anyone stands settled in his heart, having no necessity, but has authority over his own will and has made this decision in his own heart, to keep his own virginity, he will do well.  Consequently he also that gives his virginity in marriage does well, but he that does not give it in marriage will do better.

Answer 4

First of all he's speaking of virgins. It's not better to get married than to commit adultery. He's talking about those who can get married - not those who have been divorced while their spouse is still alive, seeing as Jesus said, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery." Mk 10:11,12

But not everyone single person has an opportunity to marry. For example there may not be an appropriate spouse available for them at the time. And teenagers are generally too young.

So it seems they'll have to opt for burning with passion for a time.

Answer 5

The apostle, in this context, supposed that the unmarried servant of God had no obligation to a spouse and was therefore better able to devote all to God's service.

He does not mention it in his letters, but one might assume that he had been married, since marriage was a requirement of the Sanhedrin, of which Paul was a member.

Answer 6

You need to address what you mean by "you cannot control yourself".

If you mean that you burn with passion for another within the boundaries of God's commands then you are within His will to be married. IF you mean that you cannot prevent yourself from sinful passions toward another then you need to address your sinful passions and bring yourself to God for assistance in keeping His commands.

Hope that helps.

Answer 7

if you cannot control yourself its better to get married because you know yourself,instead of commiting sin while having a gf doing wrong things like premarital sex,or your eyes are very sinful to all girls that you see,it seems you want to have sex to them,its better to get married.St paul is talking to christians at that verse,paul wants the christians be like him 1cor.7:7,he is single.he said that christians who stay single can serve God much better because their attention will not be divided 1Cor 7:32.

Answer 8

If you're seriously dating someone that you're considering as your future spouse, and you think you might lose control and sin, well, it's better to just go ahead and get married.

If you're NOT planning on marrying that other person, then that means that he or she will be marrying someone else, and what right do you have dating another person's husband (or wife)???

Answer 9

Jesus was an apocolypticist. He believed, and preached that the world would end, and soon. He said that it would probably happen in the life time of some of his disciples, but said none of them would know the exact date.

This was an admonition against marriage, which was to be regarded as pointless considering the world was about to end. If they absolutely HAD to have sex, Jesus said it was better to do it in marriage, but he thought it better to devote yourself fully to God. Jesus thought the world was going to end very SOON, so he wanted people to get right with their faith quickly, and not worry about earthly things.

Answer 10

well we know that sex before marage is a no no... so what its saying is... why date for a long time.. if you find someone you love.. you are sure your gonna be with them forever.. than marry them. if you wait too long and you end up having sex with then that is a sin. Dating is a very hard thing to do when you cannot have a physical relationship ontop of the friendship and the love you have. and you end up doing physical things weather your married or not.. so if shes not the girl your gonna marry.. than what are you doing dating her??? if she is the girl your gonna marry.. than what are you waiting for?

Answer 11

Abstinence would be problematical for those who had once experienced an active married life. It is difficult to lead a devoted Christian life when one is consumed with desire.