if your married did you marry in a church?
If your not married but plan to, are you opposed to getting married in a church?
I'm not sure what I am anymore lol but I've thought about alot of religions, i was brought up Christian. However even though my parents wanted me to get married in a church, we're getting married at a country club with my childhood pastor performing the ceremony.
My fiance who is atheist, said he would get married in a church it doesn't matter to him.
What about all of you?
2007-11-15 01:46:29 · 22 answers · asked by ? 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
tawaen, Elvis Rocks! My fiance was born the day he died...the exact day back in 1977 :)
my parents wouldn't let us elope ;)
2007-11-15 01:58:35 · update #1
My husband is a devout Baptist and I am not religious... we compromised with his pastor performing the ceremony in my parents back yard. I think you are right on with your plans!
2007-11-15 02:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awhile ago my boyfriend said that he couldn't imagine getting married anywhere except a church. As an agnostic, I took it as a sign that we would never make it as a couple.
As time went on, we reevaluated our conceptions. My fiance is Christian, but the things he likes about a Christian wedding wouldn't apply to our wedding -- in a church or not -- because I'm not Christian. Essentially, it would be really weird for everyone if the bride didn't take communion and the groom did. I wouldn't mind getting married in a church -- except I wouldn't be able to take Christian vows in good conscience, so it would have to be a secular wedding in a church.
So anyway, it depends on the ceremony and how seriously you take all of it. Lots of atheists just don't even think twice about just going through the motions to please someone. I feel pretty strongly that it would be a betrayal of my own beliefs to do so.
2007-11-15 17:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was brought up Catholic and most of my family is very strict about religion. Over the last few years my views have changed a lot, but this is something I'm struggling with. The only reason I think I'd want to get married in a church would be for my family's sake. But I also think it has to do with being "traditional," at least as far as I was raised. Of course with the Catholics you have to jump through a million hoops like attend classes about birth and "affirming" your faith. That'd be too much for me, and my girlfriend who's grown up as an Atheist would NOT go for it...
2007-11-15 09:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Foo223 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married at the courthouse. I was a very lapsed catholic at the time. For my parents I did make an effort and called some catholic thingy to find out what I could do. I got blown off and not in a good way.
So I was going to do a nondenom church, but there were issues there (non-religious ones) so I said the hell with it.
2007-11-15 10:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an atheist but I don't follow (or believe in) my religion anymore. However I will get married in a church because it is the tradition, it would make my father happy (he is allmost fanatic), that's what all my friends and relatives did, and my future husband shares this same opinion. I like traditions and I don't reject all religious rituals
EDIT: ledbetter had a great answer
2007-11-15 09:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by larissa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married in a church but I was a pagan at the time I got married and my husband is a member of the Church of England.
I actually wanted to elope but my husband is an only child so he wanted the big family to-do.
2007-11-15 09:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by genaddt 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm a Christian and we got married outdoors, by a lake, by a judge.
The idea of a non-religious marriage is fairly new - marriage is literally a religious institution (and thus it confuses me why so many Christians want the government to decide who CAN get married, much less who can't!). If you guys wantt o commit your lives and want to hold a ceremony and ritualize it, the forum is incidental. It is the social and personal value of the ritual that matter.
And congratulations!
2007-11-15 09:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by ledbetter 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe in a higher power...but I am not religious. My husband isn't either. so we got married at a gazebo on the beach (on the boardwalk really) by the Mayor... I did not feel right going into a church that I don't belong to.
2007-11-15 14:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was married in a church. I can't think of a better way to thumb my nose at Christianity.
2007-11-15 10:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We did not marry in a church. We were not married by a person of faith. Both of us are atheists and thought that was rather important.
2007-11-15 09:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋