im 56 husband64 kids grown got no money what do we do with our lives now live in quiet town no clubs etc?

Question

husband retiring next year ,im disabled physically so limited

Answer 1

I know exactly how you feel. It is worse about the money issue in the beginning. Especially when you have been earning. It makes you think life has ended.

However, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You do get used to it. And it is lovely not to have to get up at the same time and rush off the work taking hassle off people sometimes.

We are much in the same boat. We worked it so we can have one holiday a year and we still run a vehicle. We pop to different areas and look around the shops. Not exciting I hear you say, if you can't spend. Yes, that is true. What we do is buy our grocery in smaller portions, so everyday we have to buy something, bread or something for dinner.

When you are around you always meet someone to chat to.

Then I make cards and play my organ and answer questions on this Q & A. I joined the library and read more. Do the gardening. Then we watch TV. Have friends round, do bar-b-que's, go round to friends, visit the theatre once in a blue moom, even local school gigs can get you out of the house and you inevitably meet someone to talk to. It is a change from your own front room.

It is boring sometimes. You just have to try to find something to do, even if it's feedng the ducks or taking the dog for a walk.

Answer 2

My husband and I are just a few years behind you and your husband. Here are some of the things we are either doing now or are planning to do:

Take classes together: photography classes, running a small business, writing, home-improvement, growing bromiliads, etc. Many of these classes are offered to people over age 55 for little to no money in our community.

Make a bit of music. My husband works long hours; but he also performs in a band. I go with him to watch him perform and sometimes help set up and run the sound board. We invite friends along. You could play music together at home, sing, join a choir-chorus-band; or attend local concerts and performances.

Start a small business together; find something you both enjoy and can do together. My husband and I will likely be doing some episodic work together.

Do volunteer work together or join a social club that also does community service projects.

Host parties for family, friends, and neighbors. Game nights, movie nights, dessert parties, etc.

Flirt shamelessly with each other!

Answer 3

Hard question to answer this one.Whats coming across is that you live in a one miserable place and that the weathers cold and that your miserable with nothing to look forward to.You have got one more piece of your life to live and thats it. do you want to spend it as you are now or do you want to change it. If your just going through a bad patch then it will pass. I am a lot older than you and I have to force myself to do things so thats what you've got to do. If you dont like living where you are then move. Either sell up and buy or swap if you've got council. Just remember this, It's very hard to make new friends when you get older so that's worth thinking about. Whatever you do it's in your hands. you have a lifetime of experience to draw from so go for it. Have a couple of kisses xxx

Answer 4

You all can get involved in local senior citizens groups around your area. You can talk to someone at your local church if you have one that you attend. There are different things that you all can do if there are people who have physical limitations ie.. playing bingo, cards, dominoes, board games, visiting each others homes where you all can do an inexpensive brunch/lunch ie... having a tea party with crumpets, bagels or donuts, make pasta or salads which are inexpensive, going to the mall to browse and just socialize with one another. Hope this helps and Good Luck

Answer 5

You don';t say what country you live in...in the US there are a lot of places for seniors and people with disibilities to go to socialize. Pick up a hobby, somthing that doesn't cost too much money. It's hard because getting older sucks. Good luck to you.
P.S. What about on line pen pals from around the world?

Answer 6

volunteer, and the churches, and community centers,or schools

the Bahai Faith always has activities

we host ruhi courses and study groups,
service projects, and community events, there is the Bahai Chorale and they sing at the events,
many hold positions in the faith as those of us with children, and jobs aren't able to do these things,

Our older persons, teach childrens classes and virtues classes

and volunteer at the world center in haifa isreal

or at the chilean temple, or in the one in india.

You could travel and see the world,
I know your broke, but OUR faith will generally sponsor someone who wants to go, ( basically we save up the money for you to travel) and the rest is taken care of while you are there.

the library has book readings, and discussion groups

you could get a part time job,
I know you are disabled, but there is quite alot you can do,
especially now that your husband will be home with you.

and there are other lonely people who would be more than happy to help you out.

If you need help around the house, you could rent out a room,

Hope these ideas help

Meg

Meg

Answer 7

check out neighbouring towns for clubs etc.Give helped the aged a ring theyb can put you in touch with groups etc to get you out of the house.Have you not thought about running your own kinda club or get together evenings with other residents even if its a dominos night at the local its a social event to meet people.

Answer 8

Find out about different clubs that are local. You could enrol at a course at your local college.There are lots of things you could do. My mother in law goes to local history, belongs to a sidara club and until recently ran an afternoon tea club for pensioners, she is 80 !! Be brave and find out what is going on in your area. They are always looking for volounteers...

Answer 9

Volunteer to read at your elementary school.
Join the senior center if your town has one.
Join a book club at the library, if they don't have one, ask if you can start one.
Learn to knit or crochet or quilt and start a knitting circle at the craft store.

Answer 10

Start a book or film club with older people in your town, to meet new people and keep up interests and hobbies?