I`m a 30 year-old woman,that doesn`t want children-is this normal.?

Answer 1

Not sure whether "normal" is the right word, as you are probably in the minority.

In my view it is perfectly OK not to want children. My wife and I decided against it, as neither of us were particularly bothered about having them. My wife is more interested in horses than children and at least you can leave them in a field for the night !

You do whatever you feel is best for you.

Far better not to have them, than to fill the world with yet more unwanted children.

Answer 2

Most of my friends had children from their mid-thirties. Any earlier and i don't think one would have enough experience to be a good parent and one might feel they were holding one back. If you don't want them at all, i think that's fantastic, because so many people have them automatically because it's the next stop on the tramline that is their life, then regret it and this comes across to the children. I'm not saying they're not loved, but i think the parents' frustration comes across. Also, there are too many children in the richer countries who will use up the world's resources as adults.

I'm male. I had my first child at 25, but my wife was 35 at the time. They are the most wonderful thing that's ever happened to me, but i can absolutely understand why someone wouldn't want children and wish more people decided not to have them. They are a huge responsibility.

Answer 3

Very normal, I've got one and believe me they are a handful and completely change your life, he is 3 now and it still freaks me out.
Only thing you need to be sure of is that you never want children. If you are thinking that some time in the future maybe.... and you are in a stable relationship then dont let it get too late. We had ours at 30 not necessarily because we were ready then but because we didnt want to run the risk of having fertility problems.

Answer 4

Absolutely normal, I know that most people would be of the opinion that 'its because you haven't met the right person' or some other kind of rubbish. Where does it say exactly that the whole point of existence is to pro-create? As long as you are happy, what does it matter? You get to escape the hassles of having children, remember the old adage that kids are great when you can hand them back!

Answer 5

I am a 42 year old female and I have no children. So let me tell you, IT IS TOTALLY UP TO YOU. Don't let what family and onlookers say, bother you. I have a wonderful life full of family and friends, nieces and nephews.
I actually think, NOT having kids has allowed me to be a better part of the lives, of the people I love most. Just rest in the peace of what you choose and enjoy the freedom.

Answer 6

My husband was on a plane recently and was beside a 50 Year old woman, she said her biggest regret was never having kids and putting career first, i have a friend whos 30 and has no interest in kids

Answer 7

Good golly. It's not only normal, it's desirable! Good on you for heeding your own gut feeling & not wanting to do what is expected of you as a woman i.e. give birth. One of my best friends is 24 & is adamant she will not have children & I am 100% behind her choice. Nothing is sadder than the reluctant parent raising the unexpected child.

Answer 8

yes, some people don't even want to have children at all my anti never had children she says that she wasn't ready for that been a mother is a lot of responsibility not everybody wants to have children there is nothing wrong with you are not hurting anybody that is a decision that only when you are ready you feel it you want it if you are not sure better don't have any unless you change your mind.

Answer 9

It is normal, not everybody wants children and although I'm a mother myself I can see the argument from both sides. As long as your happy with your life I wouldn't worry what is considered "normal" or not.

Answer 10

Yes. Some people want kids for many reasons and some don't for many reasons. It's a personal choice, although it's also a blessing from God. You are not wrong for not wanting kids though. That's better than getting pregnant then wanting an abortion or not wanting to care for them properly =]