met the most amazing man over the internet from another country last June. He is the best man i have ever been with in my life. I would do anything for him. I moved to him to be with him 4 months ago and everything has been great. but the last few weeks have been really stressful and i just need some advice. His past relationships have not been the greatest. He has had women lie and cheat and steal from him. He tells me that i am the best thing to happen to him. He even wants to marry me. But he always seems to think that i am cheating on him, or sneaking around behind his back with things. says there are always coincidences to make him feel this way. i try to convince him. tell him everything i can to reassure that he is the only one for me, but it doesn't seem to be working. says he is afraid to lose me. fights with me all the time thinking i am a cheater. what do i do? i can't leave him. i have to work through it. i love him too much. never give up. any ideas to gain his trust?
2007-11-14 21:48:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are being good and not cheating, or doing anything that would even be considered cheating or flirting then you are not the one with the problem, he is.
He is very insecure about relationships and has a big time trust issue. All that you can do is keep reassuring him that you are not stepping out and just be there for him.
If he is truly committed to the relationship, he will find a way to cope with his insecurities, if not, he is bound to lose you one day.
A relationship has to have trust or it just wont work.
Hang in there.....if its meant to be, it will all work out.
Good luck to you!!!
2007-11-14 22:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by snowbirdbabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this man is amazing? He is accusing you of cheating adn is fighting with you all the time? This is not healthy and yes, you can leave him. What do you mean YOU have to work through it. This guy needs to work on it, meaning his issues. Never give up is not the motto you should be leaning on. Love thyself is more like it. You cannot make him trust you. You shouldn't have to. You poor thing. All I can suggest is Dr. Phil's book, relationship rescue. It really really helps. Even if it only will help you. Don't take this, I am so afraid to lose you garbage, Okay? You can and will love again if need be. take care of YOU!!!!
2007-11-15 06:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by dallas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I believe you hold the solution to his problems. This is what you do when next he talks don't answer him. Keep quiet and watch out what he will say from there you will know if he loves you or not.
Try and make him understand that you care for him and admire him. Tell him what he needs to heat i bet you he will treat you differently.
Show him more love in such a way it will overshadow his past.
And also he needs attention the more attention you give him the better for the relationship. Just be doing it now he will definately take over from you soonest.
Thanks
2007-11-15 09:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by daniel65ng 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋