My lovely friend died months ago.. Her husband has become bitter and angry. He does not see friends from our circle at all.
I wonder if I ought to step in and help or just leave him be.. ....
Any thoughts?
2007-11-14 21:47:42 · 4 answers · asked by Jen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Call him. He is grieving, but the best way to get over a death is to talk about the person that is gone. It's hard to handle the lose of a spouse, but call and tell him you where thinking about her, and that you miss her so much, that to talk to him helps keep her memory alive. Ask him to come over or go some place with you,that was her favorite place so you can both deal with your own personal loses. Explain that you haven't gotten ah old of him before, because you miss her so much and didn't know how to handle your lose and it finally hit you that he has to be suffering worse than you, and want to help him remember her. It is best to talk about the person, and talk, talk, talk, about the things she did, who she was. to many people think not talking about them helps, but I think the opposite.
2007-11-14 22:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend's husband is still going through the grieving process.
I wouldn't start to worry just yet. There are different stages and their length is different for each person.
Leave him be for now but be there for him should he reach out to you.
2007-11-15 05:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kaye 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him be - he needs the time and space to grieve.... but I would keep a constant contact with him .... just to make sure he is doing alright, coping and not sinking into depression...
2007-11-15 06:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really sad. Some people don't want to be helped. Just let him be.
2007-11-15 05:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by ChemoAngel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋