How do you get along with groups of friends. How do you have to be?

Question

Giving, Modest, Funny, selfless????what is the secret :)

tried being myself...I end up getting hated for being a Diva :(

I mean really hated for...I DON'T intend to hurt people.....

Be yourself....but.....there has got to be more to it....

Somehow, I KNOW I'm doing something wrong and can't just be myself....I just don't know...what do friends want in friends?

Answer 1

Be yourself. Don't try to put on an act. If they like you great, if they don't....then you didn't really want them as friends to begin with ;)

If they called you a Diva, be yourself, but tone it down a bit I guess...

Answer 2

Ask yourself..."Am I too loud?" Most divas are too loud

Ask yourself..."Am I self centered?" Most divas are self centered.

Ask yourself..."Do I get jealous easily?" Most divas do.

Ask yourself..."Do I talk about people behind their back when I am jealous?" Most divas do.

Ask yourself..."Do I order people around and expect them to follow through?" Most divas do that.

Finally, ask yourself, "Do I give every detail about every problem?" Most divas do.

Oh, and ask yourself, "Do I always have to "one up" other peoples' bad experiences?" Most divas do.

If you answered "Yes" to any of those questions, copy and paste them and send them to your printer. Tape them to a spot, like the inside of your notebook for you to see. When ever you feel like people are hating you, read the list.
Also, it wouldn't hurt to have a friend and/or relative go over these with you to keep yourself honest. Don't be offended when they say yes.

Work on the question that is most annoying to others and simply change your behavior (Easier said than done). When you master one, work on the next one.

Other tricks...
1. Do something nice for one popular girl that hates you every day (and don't complain about it to your friends...They will rat you out).
1. Do something nice for one non-popular girl that probably hates you every day and don't giggle after you do it, that will knock you down more pegs.

What will this do? In the short term, it will make you feel silly. In the long run, it will become habit, it will make others respect you (and don't ever expect them to show it, and certainly don't ask for it), and finally, it will make you respect yourself.

And if some people hate you...That's their problem...isn't it? The worst thing you can do to a person that hates you is act like it doesn't matter. It will eat away at them and you can never get in trouble that way. If you want to do a person that despises you a favor...react to their words or actions...That will make their day. You can bet on it.

Answer 3

I suppose it depends on why you are in the group. Then, there might be particular ways of being that the group requires of its members. The trouble with all groups is, that in discovering what the accepted way of being is, you might do something wrong while you're learning how the dynamics of the group operates. This may attract negative attention, but you might find someone willing to help you make the transition much more easily so you don't have to suffer the criticism you experience. Failing any success with the group, maybe you are better oriented to one on one relationships that provide more intimacy and closeness. I hope you find a happy solution.

Answer 4

As the saying goes, "to thine own self be true", but a little bit of tact goes a long way. If you really want these people to like you take an honest look at yourself. They should also, because I find if I'm judging people it's usually something I need to look at within myself.

Answer 5

i personally think in a group we should behave as the group is.your behavior will totally depend upon how your friends are.while speaking we shouldn't get personal,we should start off with a topic on which every one can comment and result having a nice time.try to be the carrier of jokes and not something negative or depressing for others.we should try to speak to every one in a group so that no one feels lonely.
for me these things really work!!
so buddy try them out!!!

Answer 6

The secret way is to think a group than like an individual and rest shall come automatically.Thinking in terms of 'WE' is entirely different than as an 'I'.

Answer 7

Just be your self...

if u want to fit in ! then try to be like them!

"i don't say that if they are voilence that u should be that"

but somehow try to look and listen too what they talk about and maybe u'l have the same interes for things they have..

or els like i said maybe u should just be your self.. people sould respect that..

Answer 8

F*** all the peaple who dont like the real you ..

Be ur self and find peaple that like the diva in you!!!!

Answer 9

i know its hard,but try being yourself,wether its introvert or extrovert,try and answer yourself before you say something!

Answer 10

always be yourself, no matter who you're around.