I fell in love with my girlfriend, and I thought she was in love with me until today. Everything was great a week ago. Everything that's happened led me to believe she wanted to be committed. She had quit her job, and applied for an internship, but she found out this week that they didn't accept her. So she's been depressed, says her life has no direction, etc... And today she said she didn't know if she loved me or not. I sense that she wants to let me go. She says she's not used to having a "good" relationship and has never been in love before (she's 27, I'm suprised at that), used to being single (even though she hated it), so she doesn't know what she feels. I understand she's unsure with her life, but I don't know why that extends to our relationship. I've only tried to support her and be there for her.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up, neither of us did anything wrong. I love her, but now I'm not sure if she loves me back. It's driving me crazy.
2007-11-14 17:13:31 · 6 answers · asked by redguard572001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Help her. She's obviously going through a tough time right now. The whole world is coming down on her head. Buy her flowers, do something special for her. Make her realize that you understand how hard it must be for her to be going through all of this right now, because you know how much she wanted that internship. It sounds like that right now, all she needs is someone to stand by her. If that's not what she needs, let her go.
If you can help her get through this down period, she'll realize how much you mean to her.
2007-11-14 17:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound to cliche it hurts but it sounds like she needs some space. There are a lot of changes going on in her life and she wants to make sure she makes the right ones. She might be worried that my being in a serious relationship it will prevent her from going and doing other things she wants to do.
2007-11-14 17:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
re: I don't know what to do.
Most folks don't know what to do because good relationship techniques are not taught anywhere and you're lucky if you are born to understanding parents!
Instead of a blow by blow comment on your situation or what to do about it, I will refer you to any book store or library to start learning about how to have a good relationship. It's simple (but not easy) to learn and a lot of fun along the way.
good luck with educating your self about relationships.
jim
2007-11-14 17:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't get upset and take it personally just yet.
shes going through a rough time and needs you more than ever...i dont mean, in an in-your-face way, i mean, if she needs space, give it to her (but don't go to far....), if she needs your help, be there for her.
i've been in the same situation withthe job thing...i konw how it hurts your self-esteem and causes you to question your worth
2007-11-14 17:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by Village Bing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well make her happy..and at the same time let her think about it..and give her some space. I think is good that she is thinking of this..after all when you know that she is ready, you'lll be happy that she is finaly sure of her decision. she will let you know..and be patient.
2007-11-14 17:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just not that into you.
Get the book if you doubt it...I'm am very sorry for what you are going though.
2007-11-14 17:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋