my unforgiving soul sometimes does not let past bad (evil) events go due to being emotionaly hurt and backstabbed
2007-11-14 17:09:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
By focusing on the future
2007-11-14 17:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can pull it off with a straight face, tell him what this little birdy had to say, and act like you think she is loony-tunes. You may be able to tell by his reaction if there is any truth to the story. If you can put this behind you and not be tormented by what may or may not have happened, then forget it. You might also keep an eye out for any signs that something is rotten in Denmark. If the birdy told the truth, it was very un-kind to tell you at this late date. Shame on it for starting trouble. I hope you will think a little while before you decide what to do, don't be hasty about this, you may make a mistake you will regret later. Remember these words, you have to do what you can live with. Best wishes and good luck.
2016-05-23 05:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way I have found to let go is to write a story loosely around the facts using them to recreate different satisfying endings with resolution.
The other is to do a serious letting go ritual with another person who also wants to let go - like tying yourself literally by the fingers with a long twine knotted to something llike the back of a chair and feel how you are tied in to those people that each strand denotes- and events; and what freedom might feel like - forgive yourself for letting it happen - then when you feel ready cut each tie with a pair of scissors.
The idea behind it is that the unconscious works in dreamlike images and can be reprogrammed by a piece of work - like this - thereafter any tiem htose instances come inot the head for you to chew onthem just say to them - no! this is now in the past I have let go!
2007-11-14 20:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I JUST wrote my mother a 2 page email, explaining how upset I am about a past, backstabbing, kiniving event that crushed me, she and others have just let go as nothing has happened. I cannot answer this, but I am anxious to see your answers. Good question!
2007-11-14 17:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of the hardest things to do in life is to forget & forgive. When we are really hurt, the memories keep coming eventhough its a thing of the past. Dont blame & force yourself, let times heal the wound you have. God has its own way to heal us. If you can, try to avoid & stay away from people & places that will remind you of the hurt you have experienced. If you can't, then ask God guidance to lead you into the right thing to do.
2007-11-14 17:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like ddiggler, I don't know the answer but coincidentally, only yesterday I went to the CAB regarding someone I suspect of stabbing me in the back for years. I was advised to confront him on the issue but to make sure I had someone with me (easier said than done in my case, I hasten to add). If this isn't possible in your case, perhaps something like cognitive behavioural therapy's the answer. Below is a link to a book I recommend. I wish you all the best.
2007-11-14 17:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by tattyhead65 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are called emotional scars.
They are like scars we have on our skin that show what has happened to us in our past.
Emotional scars are just the same but they are inside our heads. They are part of our past only no one else can see them.
We all know what scar tissue is tougher than it was before. The skin is thicker & harder to tear in the future.
We have to make the scars in our minds toughen up in the same way.
We can't get a brain surgeon to cut them out to make us feel better.They will always be there just like the scars on our skin.We have to live with them & let them be part of our life but not let them affect our future happiness. How?
As with self destructive negative thinking, we have to train our brains to send bad thoughts on their way. Block them out, replace them with nice thoughts. It's not easy & it does take practice just like everything else that you become good at.
You have to take back the control over your mind.
Think of your favorite place that makes you feel peaceful.
A beach, a mountain, walking through a garden with pretty flowers, etc.
A few times a day, go there in your mind. Learn the art of really feeling like you are there.Then try doing it in a moment of anger or stress.Once you are able to go there whenever you like you are ready to remove your emotional scars.Walk out on them when they try to come into your mind.Go to your favorite place in your mind & leave them behind,where they belong.
Just like our scars on our skin they will always be there because they were part of our life. But we won't let them ruin the rest of our life's. Will we?
2007-11-15 00:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by Another Planet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Writing. I have a journal where i unload everything. I often feel wretched at the time but it makes me cry & releases all the **** I have trapped inside. I always feel lighter & calmer afterwards.
2007-11-14 17:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mimkat hate the new Yahoo Answers so has retired. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give yourself closure on these evil things, and focus on the future and positive things in your life. I know this can be difficult.
2007-11-14 17:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by MCGC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
me, too. i'm woking on it.
the best i have found is talking to myself about how
Person'sName wrecked a part of my life, and that i will not allow another second, another brain cell to be wasted on that worthless person.
2007-11-14 17:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋