There is this drama program over the summer in New York that I really want to go to. I will be gone for six weeks and my boyfriend is going and so are all my friends. But my mom says no for some reason. I mean if all my friends can go why can't I?
2007-11-14 16:39:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
how old are you? if you want to go, show maturity. that you can be trusted and won't do anything stupid. she's probably worried about the bf.
2007-11-14 16:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by MCGC 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your mom is utilizing WISDOM in telling you "no."
Going away for 6 weeks with your boyfriend and all your friends is a formula for problems.
Maybe nothing bad would happen during that 6 weeks. But why should she take that risk with someone so important to her heart as her very own daughter.
The reason that your mom said "no" is because she CARES about you.
You probably do not see it that way right now. But when you are grown and have your own teenage daughter, you will understand why your mom told YOU "no." No, hopefully you will understand before that time comes.
Right now, your focus is on being with your friends. You have not yet been thru the school of hard knocks that your mom has been thru. You have not yet seen all the heartache that your mom has witnessed.
PLEASE trust your mom's intuition. She is not trying to be mean or trying to suppress your life. She loves you and wants what is best for you - even if you do not understand why.
Try and see if you can possibly see the situation thru her eyes. Do you know someone else that is not allowed to go? Maybe if you talk to that mom, heart-to-heart, if you really want to understand, that will help.
If it does not matter why you are not allowed to go and you just want to go anyhow, I would not want to be in your shoes. Life can be very, very painful when we do things the way we WANT instead of listening to those that care about us.
2007-11-15 00:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by nsgrace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew how old you were, I might give a different opinion than the one here, but being away from parential supervision of some sort for 6 weeks may not be your mom's cup of tea. Your mom doesn't have to follow in other parent's footsteps-and if you start coming up with "but all my other friends are going" whine- it will be counterproductive. So think abit, step back and put yourself in mom's shoes - it will cost money/do you have some to put up? The program will cost, but you are going to be doing a lot of eating out, and subways/bus transportation costs $$. Are your finance estimates realistic? Maybe you can sell more services around the house in exchange.
2007-11-15 00:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by cattbarf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Definetly Do not Use that argument with her
" If all my friends Can go Why can't I?" She will just simply state that because of the said statement that just proves you are not mature enough.
* One of te reasons I am sure she is saying you can't is because your bf will be there.
Depending on how involved your mom is in your life you can Lie and say that he is no longer going but that it would still mean a lot to you if you could go bc you are very passionate about Drama and it never had anything to do with him. You can keep on playing that even say that it is causing fights between you and him bc since he can no longer go he doe snot want you to leave him. So let that be known to your mom and tell her that you are still willing to do anything.
Maybe if she sees that its not just because he is going and your friends and that you are truly passionate about it She will let you go.
2007-11-15 00:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by <3Tracy<3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a father and I know I'm not going to get voted best answer but here goes . . . . I wouldn't let my daughter go away either. If she was 18 or older I would but not younger. You've seen the Nataly Hollaway case. The missing girl in Aruba? My point exactly. There's too many dangers and risks out there. My parents both died in 2005 but I remember my mom saying to me, "if everyone elses parents let them jump off a bridge, do you expect me to let you?" I used to get so so mad when I heard that but now that I'm 42 years old and have kids, I understand. It's out of love. Life is too short. You will have many many long years after you leave home to travel or what ever you want. They're protecting you still as long as you're living under their roof. One day you will miss being young and living at home. One day after that you'll miss your parents and wish you had said and done things that you didn't or that you didn't have enough time for. We learn to take our parents for granted that they'll always be there. Mine both died of cancer within 5 months of each other. Everyday now I wish I had found more time in my not-so-busy schedule to have spent more time with them.
2007-11-15 00:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by Johnnny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm answering on the assumption that you are a teenager, as opposed to a young 20-something adult with a domineering mother.
Do you consider that maybe the fact that your boyfriend will be there has something to do with your mother's decision?
Don't trot out "everyone else gets to". I did that when I was a kid. My last name is "Stephen", and my mother used to say, "We aren't everyone else. We're Stephens."
Look at this as an opportunity to demonstrate your maturity--which is a different thing from freedom and individuality.
Sorry. I vote with your mum. Tell her I said so.
2007-11-15 00:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all how old are u lol n i live in new york city n trust me it aint all fun n games over here someone just got shot yestuday n a old lady got ran over so if i was your mother i'll tell you to stay home to n dont be a follower "my friends goin how bout me " n if u really wanna go just tell her that u gonna call her everyday just to check in n you gonna bring her back gifts lol
2007-11-15 00:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go ahead and get pregnant and drugged up at home. That'll show her. You can do the same thing at home as you'd be doing while off in the summer.
2007-11-15 00:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
beg and plead. and tell her you will wear protection
(your mom doesnt want you sleeping in the same bed as your boyfriend)
2007-11-15 00:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by holymonx 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to show that you can takare of yourself.
2007-11-15 00:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by mystery boy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋