What can I do in this situation? I am trying my best to get better but it's HARD for me to...?

Question

I do not what to do people. Life is really difficult for me right now. I am trying to get better by stating away as much as I can from the only woman that I want to be with, I am trying to forget about how I feel about her, I am trying to move on, but it is really difficult...very.
I had planned to do something with some friends of mine but then she calls me and says that she needs me to go and get something for our son, so I had to put my plans on hold just so I could go out and buy things to help her and our son. I don't understand. WHY was this told to me at the LAST moment...it is VERY frustrating. I DO NOT mind supplying things for our son, anything I can, I WILL DO for his sake. What confuses is that WHY I was told by S to get things for X at the last moment...*sigh*
Also, S says that she has a new boyfriend and what not, and dude probably drives so Y couldn't S ask HIM to help her with what she did not bother to take care of A LONG time ago. : /

Answer 1

i would say she asks you because you are the dad how old is the son if hes very young then i would say that she calls you because you r the daddy if hes not then i think she should ask her boyfriend to get what she needs maybe she wants to see you to make you jealous or maybe she still cares for you and uses that for an excuse to see you...what i would say to you is thats what you have to put up with when you have kids and your not with the mother:(..my sister goes threw the same thing as you but with her hubby. hes x calls all the time for stuff makes her mad you will just have to put up with it even if its not fair:(( less you want to say hey ask someone else...)

Answer 2

First, I want to say I find it admirable that you drop everything to get your son what he needs. Unfortunately this is the price of parenthood. Even if you were still with the mother of your child, last minute things always crop up that need taking care of. Since I don't know all the details about your circumstance. Such as how often do you visit your son. How old all of you are etc. All I can tell you is that as a dad you have alot of inconvenient responsibility. That"s just life! It's not the boyfriends responsibility......it's yours. As a mother of two. I can tell you raising children is a rollercoaster ride and it doesn't let up until they reach their teens. Now that mine are 17 and 19, I have breathing room. It's hard being a responsible parent. Just have peace and serenity knowing you are doing what is right despite the aggrivation. Things will get better. It only seems like an eternity when you are going through it. Hang in there dad!!! You sound like you are one of the good ones. I don't know what your religious beliefs are but, asking for patience, understanding and strength goes a long way to help you cope. Good Luck....And don't ever let your son see you angry because you had to run an errand. It will only make him feel bad. It will make him feel like you are there because you have to be. Not because you want to be there. Understand?

Answer 3

She is manipulating you, and is enjoying it. Tell her that from here on out that she will have to let you know in advance if she needs anything for your son. Tell her that you are not going to cancel your plans any longer for the last minute demands she is making. Tell her that you love your son dearly, but enough is enough and you are tired of the games she is playing. Tell her to grow up and stop using your son to manipulate you.

Answer 4

FIRST OF ALL ISAI! I am not manipulating you! like that CuN t said. I am asking you for help when I need it for OUR son! you know I am going to school and working and i have no time to do anything! .. I call you up in a panic cause i have had no time to sit and relax I needed milk and toilet paper!!! It is not up to my new boyfriend to suporrt me and my son if thats what you want iw ill say good bye to you in all ways in our life and move on and ask you for nothing for our son! ... you need t o get the hell over me i am way over you and you are driving me crazy you are desperate and its annoying its been 5 months get over me you left me and yoru son i didnt leave you! .,., so stop making me look liek a manipulating money hungry person .. I work you dont i go to college you dont i am raising our son you arent .. you really need to stop this BS its getting old! ... you make me feel liek dirt cause i came to you and asked for help well screw you I wont do it again so you can live your miserable life alone . you suck ! .. and im tired of trying to be friends with you cause you just stab me in teh back IM TIRED of this BS you beat me you cheated on me you left me then you get in a car accident get brain damage now you expect me to drop my life and kiss yoru *** NO WAY!!! get teh hell over it and move on IM DONE trying! i can only take so much and ive hit my limit! peace out!