2007-11-14 16:25:21 · 13 answers · asked by HONDA GIRL 1218 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PS this question is comming from my confused 20 year old daughter
2007-11-14 16:26:22 · update #1
the one she can't have is her ex and he has a new baby and girlfriend and he still calls her and sneeks to see her. The one she can't leave is because she says she has mixed feelings
2007-11-14 16:32:54 · update #2
Respect the one she's already with. Either love him and only him or leave him. Emotional affairs can cause as much damage to a relationship as physical ones. It's not fair to string him along. I don't know of any good reasons she can't leave. Does she thinks loves him too much to leave? If that's the case it's not enough if she's in love with someone else too.
Don't drag it out.
She needs to forget the ex regardless of what he tells her. He is with someone and has a child with that person. She needs to respect that and not interfere. Obviously the ex is a louse. She shouldn't make herself one too.
2007-11-14 16:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heard the old saying "Pi** or get off the pot"? She has to make a decision or she will drive herself crazy and waste hers or someone else's life. If the one were to leave his baby and girlfriend, how would she feel? He would either still have connections to the baby or leave the baby high and dry? Neither a good option. If he is sneaking around on his girlfriend after having a baby with her, has she thought about how he would really treat her?
She's having mixed feelings because she is not fully invested in either relationship. She needs to stop stradling the fence. If she wants #1 then let #2 go, so that he can find a functional relationship. If she has feelings for #2, she needs to let #1 go so that she can really be "in" a relationship with him.
2007-11-14 17:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in love with two men. My guess is that you are "stuck" with the second one out of obligation or you enjoy getting your needs met. The first one is more than likely married. Try being honest all the way around and become independent enough to get out of your unhappy relationship. You'll be surprised how quickly your criteria for the perfect man changes once you don't need one for survival anymore. And by the way---if it were love, it would be reciprocated!
2007-11-14 16:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot leave the one and you cannot have the other than your decision has already been made for you. I would stay away from the one that you cannot have and put everything you have into the other one.
2007-11-14 16:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you answered the question.
If you can't have the first one .. then you can't be with him.
If you can't leave the second one .. then you ARE with him .. and can't leave.
So .. it seems you will be staying with the second one. You will just have to think, admire, talk, etc the first one, from afar.
2007-11-14 16:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, need more information. Why can't you leave the second one and why can't you have the first one?
2007-11-14 16:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by Arctic Flame 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...why can't she leave the other one and why can't she have the first one?
If she can't have someone because he's married then tell her to forget about him.
2007-11-14 16:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by jdhs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the second one - if you can't have the other one, you can't have him, if you can't leave this one, you can't leave him. What other choice is there?
2007-11-14 16:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by Spy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to grow up before she is with either
one.
2007-11-14 16:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could start by telling her to stop acting like a
typical s l u t t t t......!!!
2007-11-14 16:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋