i invited a handicapped person 2 my party.....?

Question

i invited this really nice girl in a wheelchair to my birthday party. she's a good friend, and i wanted to invite her because she can be included and have as much fun as everyone else. but, im turning 13 and ppl around my age tend to be very judging. i am not judging, but i don't want people to think i'm a freak because i invited someone with a disability. so how can we all have fun, but still accept each other? i just think the whole world would be awesome if we all just accepted each other.

Answer 1

You can be a trend setter in this area. Don't let anyone treat her any different and if you notice it, make them stop. If she is as nice as you say she is, people will eventually warm up to her and might even get to a point where they don't notice her disability.

If you have certain people you are worried about not behaving or someone who might be shocked, fill them in ahead of time and let them know how nice she is. That should avoid some awkwardness too.

Happy Birthday! I hope it all goes well.

Answer 2

You seem like a very nice person. You have done what a lot of people can't and that is to not judge someone by their looks/disabilities. If you think your other friends will judge her harshly maybe have a word to them before your party. Tell them its your birthday and you want to have fun and you invited all your friends to celebrate this time in your life and that includes the girl in the wheelchair. Tell them if they have a problem with that then they really arent your friends and you are better off without them.

Have fun on your special day and stay true to yourself. Don't change just so you can stay in the cool crowd. In adult life it doesn't help.

Answer 3

I'm don't want this to sound mean
but seriously suck it up.
I mean when your 13 you think
(not you just some people) think they are amazingly
cool and awesome and that the world revolves
around them, they have such big head
they feel like that can't accept anyone if they are not
in their rank of "popularity".
I'm 16 and trust me high school is completely different
from middle school
even if you're friends with nerds
no one cares even the old "popular" people become
friends with everyone and they don't care who is who.
So what if people think you are a freak, you're not.
Why would you be? Because you want to be a true
friend? Or maybe because you have a heart and not judge
people by their disabilities. This girl's way of thinking and her mentality isn't different from yours or those girls
and if you start acting as if you are uncomfortable
being near her she'll notice. She could be a really good
friend don't ditch her just because someone calls you a freak.
In the end you'll come out looking like loser if you do that.

Answer 4

You sound like a very nice person.

The other people you invited are your friends, right?

To be considered your friend, I would expect them to be nice people just like you. Otherwise you would not want to hang out with them, true?

Why not call a couple of the friends you are closest to and ask them to be extra nice to this girl. Kids tend to follow the group, so if you and your two "backers" are accepting and nice, the others will probably follow along. Everyone wants to be accepted, all of the others do too as well as the girl in the wheelchair!

Answer 5

I think it's awesome, and so will she, that you accept her and don't judge her. She's just a normal girl but she has a problem is all and that you want to give her a chance to show you how cool she is that's great. Dont' get me wrong. Not everyone is cool and she might not be but hey just cuz she's in a chair doesn't mean you can't find out of she's cool right? IF your friends judge her that's their problem isn't it? You might make the best friend in the world and she might be really cool. Meh I don't know what i'm talking about

Answer 6

I've got a brother in a wheelchair & I have to say he prefers it when there is no fuss made about him being different.

As long as you don't make a point of pointing out her disability others may not even notice, and if they do they are unlikely to be mean. If they are mean tell them loudly that you don't appreciate it, everyone you have invited is welcome and if they don't stop it they can leave.

Remember though that your friend has been dealing with insensitive idiots most of her life & she will probably better know how to handle anyone who upsets her.

Happy birthday - I hope your party is awesome! =o)

Answer 7

I agree the world would but it will never be. That is the nature of the human race. Also if anyone judges you for invited a handicapped person to your party they dont deserve being at the party and there not even worth hanging out with in my opinion

Answer 8

I wouldn't worry about other people judging you just because you invited someone in a wheelchair. If they think you are a freak for being friends with someone with a disability then they are not worth your time.

Answer 9

And how is she any different than any other the friends you invited to your party?

Um. She is your friend. You invited your friends to your birthday party.

I see no problem here.

By the way, friends of friends might not like each other, even if they don't have disabilities. You can't help what other people think anyway.

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Answer 10

I think it was real nice of you to invite her and everyone should be accepting of her also..and yes the world should be as accepting too but unvfortunately there are people out there who think they are better than everyone.
As for things to do why not ask her what games she can play...that way she won't feel left out.....By the way Happy Birthday