You never know what could happen in the future. no matter how strong a relationship is, there's always a possibility of breaking up (no matter even if you say that you wont)
How can you get married and promise someone forever...isn't promising the here and now more important!?
2007-11-14 15:43:43 · 15 answers · asked by Miss Blue & Riley too. 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
i just read that back and it sounded weird - i do understand relationships are about planning for the future, but i dont see how you can promise someone you'll love them forever
2007-11-14 15:46:44 · update #1
Well my mum and dad were so happy together at the start, they would have felt like anyone did in their first years of marriage, then my dad became evil....they promised forever but broke it. I wouldn't expect her to stay in that relationship.....
2007-11-14 15:52:55 · update #2
promises are made to assure the other person that you will TRY to be there for them whenever they need you.
2007-11-14 15:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by Chocogal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, the reality is "til death do us part" only actually works in societies where the life span is 45 or less. It gets a lot harder when people live longer.
The fact is who you are at 20 is not who you will be at 40. People who marry the perfect partner in their twenties change over time and, typically in their thirties or forties, they suddenly realize that neither they nor their partner is who they once were. And, neither of you may be compatible at that point.
We need to change our definition of what makes a successful relationship and/or marriage to accept the reality that people do grow and change over time...in which case, it's not a failure to say that the time to end the relationship and find someone else has come. After all, marriage shouldn't be like a life sentence in prison.
I think ending a marriage is only a failure if the people end it with bitterness, hatred, and rancor. A successful marriage should end with both people accepting that end, but still fond of each other as friends. Then, everyone gets to move on and find a more compatible partner.
2007-11-15 03:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can promise forever, but you can't promise what forever will be like. Things change and maybe they'll change for the worst. However, it is the couple's responsibility to try to work it out and compromise. It's sad that a lot of people give up without even trying. It takes commitment and dedication. That being said, it's important to find the right person to promise this to (it has to be someone you're willing to sacrifice for) and it takes two people to make a promise work. One person can't do it alone.
2007-11-14 15:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Dreams♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i get what you're saying...i agree. but then again i've never had that crazy in love kinda relationship yet so i think i can't really imagine what it would be like. but like you said, even if you think you'll never break up, you can't REALLY say that you and your husband or wife will be the same people in 10 or 20 years. sometimes people change together and sometimes they change and grow apart. not that that means you shouldn't try or believe in the kind of love that makes you love someone forever, i think people should just be realistic. of course it's devastating to have a relationship, especially a marriage, end but if you have a wonderful relationship for however long, at least you get to have that. and it's beautiful while it lasts.
2007-11-14 15:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The words are meant at the time and all who make that promise really think it will mean forever because of the feelings that are felt at the time.Some are lucky to be happy together forever but it's sad that some don't make it for one reason or another,it can't always be a bed of roses, sometimes you have to work at it.Thankfully I'm one of the lucky ones up to now(42 years and fingers crossed) and we are still as happy as the day we got married.
2007-11-15 01:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If we can't look forward to a good future with someone we love , what sort of future would we have? It is totally depressing to think anything less when you are in a wholesome relationship with somebody special!
2007-11-14 15:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by greythound crazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is a vow to stay together till death comes not eternity. Keeping the vow is up to your conviction & choice year after year.
2007-11-14 15:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I also think the longer you are with someone the more attached you grow to them and thus ending in a really bad broken heart in the end...you never know what will happen!
2007-11-14 15:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by BooBell=) 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think you can love someone forever but the better question is if you can like them forever? and i think that question might be no, there are some phases where you don't like that person you chose to hang out with for ever and ever. then you have to deal with that.
2007-11-14 15:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by rebel with a cause 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're getting at. It's not possible to know you'll be with someone forever, but it's comforting to know you'll try.
2007-11-14 15:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by Milly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋