TWO questions please answer truthfully?

Question

If you were a complete and utter *** to your finace because you said mean things and he stated it would better that you didn't see him for the 10 days that you planned to visit. Because this is not the first, second, or third time you were mean to him and used your tongue to be harsh.

Oh and if you did visit him he stated to you he wouldn't see you, and he mentioned that it wasn't over you just needed to work out a couple of things,....

Would you have......

Went to see him anyway even if he said he was so angry he didn't want to see you, because of the off chance he would have changed his mind?

What would you have done????

Question : 1

Go visit your best friend who lived on a tropical island that you haven't seen for over a year and she had a new baby.

By the way I choose to see my friend who just had the baby.

2nd Question;

Even if he said it wasn't over, is it really over and is he letting me down easy?

To answer the third question. I was going to stay at his house, however he told me he wasn't going to pick me up from the airport or even see me. Being a single woman flying to the other side of the country what could I expect? With out 3,000 for a hotel, seriously for 10 days because I checked. I had to err on the side of caution.

I do love this man, however I couldn't be stranded to prove a point, to what my empty bank account and knowing no one and being 3,000 miles away from home.

I went to see my friend due to not seeing her for a year and she wouldn't have left me stranded.

Answer 1

Not the first, second or third time? You should be considerate of any decision he makes concerning your relationship. While he is making his decision as to where your relationship is heading, you should consider taking a few anger management classes. Give him his space.

Answer 2

Hi,
Wow! I don't envy your situation, because I thought mine is tough with the long distance thing. My boyfriend lives in NY. It's been real hard for me. I can't say whether you should go or not. Think about a few things I am going to say and maybe you may find a solution that will help you. Do you feel it is really your fault? If you do, how about saying I Love You and I am sorry... that may open the Door to discuss it and maybe both of you can reconcile your differences. It should be ok to agree to disagree. at least that's what my boyfriend and I say all the time, and believe me there are things that we don't agree on. We try to compromise it, and if we can't then asses the situation to see if it is really worth it or not. if it is not then we let the other have it. That is what partners in relationships do. It's called communication, and there doesn't seem to be enough going on. A couple should be allowed to have verbal discussions but as the old saying is fight fair. One thing that never should be said is starting a sentence with "You". That's a setup for a confrontation. try using "I think.... or I feel... that seems to work out. No one can take a way how you think or how you feel.
Give him some time and space and see what happens. You may have your answers then. Go with what your mind tells you and not so much your heart, because it is a long way.
Just because he said it wasn't over doesn't mean he is saying that to let you down easy. I have a similiar feeling like you have there but I get him to reassure me that he will be around. It's been 1year and and 3 months now. I can't wait til he comes back up here. It always seems like forever. I think it's a girl thing. You hang in there. I wish you luck I'm glad you went on that trip to vist your friend. I'm sure it open your eyes on a new experience.
Misty

Answer 3

To the first question, I would have gone to see him anyway. Since admittedly I was wrong, I would have given my most sincere apology (if I meant it) and asked him to see me so we could talk this thing out. I think by going to see the kid, you showed him you weren't willing to fight for the relationship. To the second question, I'm not sure. He could have tested you, to see if you would come anyway, in which you failed the test. I'm curious though, is this a long distance relationship? Are you engaged as in you are wearing a ring that he put on your finger, or are you engaged as in, soon we'll get married without a real date set in the near future (2 years or less)? If it's long distance, and it sounds as if it is, then I'd wager it's not going to work. If he told you not to come, and you didn't go, then what are you two doing? No one needs that much space to work on things. Either you are or you aren't going to get married. It doesn't sound like you really love this man or even care if you do get married. And if I, a complete stranger, am getting those vibes, imagine what he's feeling. If you want him, go get him and lock this thing down. Good luck.

Answer 4

He's basically giving you a "time out". He is trying to tell you that you need to quit being so mean and that it is affecting your relationship with him. If you keep it up, you may end up losing him. He is giving you another chance, so you should take it and decide if you want to risk losing him. If you don't, then you need to think about some changes in yourself.

Answer 5

i think he is letting you down easy and based on earlier questions if this is the same guy, he was having quite the time while you were gone and i don't think he really cares one way or the other. i think you need to kick him to the curb, just let it go because he's more trouble than it's worth.

Answer 6

He is letting you down easy and is always good to leave the door open for some sex, so if you end up in a good way he will always have that door........


good luck

Answer 7

I would party like a Rock Star!!!!!!!!!