Do you feel that you owe it to people around you to refrain from committing suicide?

Question

I often hear people say committing suicide is a selfish act. That the deceased person should have thought about how that would impact others. What is your opinion?

And state WHY!

Do you really feel that you owe it to your parents to keep living on in complete and utter emotional misery? This is unsettling.....

Answer 1

Good question. To some degree selfish, especially if you are a parent of a young child.
To some degree, it is selfish for others to want a person to go on in pain (physical or emotional).
In either case, it is sad that it should come to that (although I believe in a person's right to decide their fate), usually it is a matter of just not having the "resources" to deal with the pain (friends, loved ones etc...).
It is also said, the suicide is "a long term answer to a short term problem". Unfortunately, sometimes it doesn't help to know the pain is going to go away, it is just so much pain you just want it to stop now.
Suicide WILL impact others, but selfish??? maybe, but I would hope you (or anyone) would try to find a way to live though the pain until some happiness could be found. Suicide may stop your pain, but it just may start someone Else's.

Answer 2

I think it depends on the individual.

If the person in question has a partner or children, then yes, it is DEFINITELY a selfish act - whether intended that way or not.

I must say though, that having been suicidal when I was younger means I can honestly say that the selfishness side of it is not malicious.

When you're suicidal you just don't think - it's as simple as that. All you want to do is end your pain/suffering and you somehow find a way to rationalise that it's better for everyone else if you're gone.

***For anyone considering suicide, it is probably the most LIBERATING option in their life... I doubt they'd be considering it otherwise. ***

If you're loved but don't love anyone, it's easy to be selfish about it.... because without loving someone, you feel alone and suicide doesn't seem a selfish thing.

BUT if you really love *anyone* in your life, committing suicide is just... well, inhumane and cruel - to yourself and the people around you.

Answer 3

I feel that you owe it to yourself to try harder and make your life better.

If you have children you owe them a parent, love and support, emotional security and attention.

And yes, to other people to try harder to be the best person you can be. So many people suffer when someone commits suicide - family, friends, loved ones, even our pets. When I was a child, my father committed suicide. I hadn't spoken to him in a few months and I still do not understand 16 years later why he did it.

I still miss him, taken from me needlessly. He wasn't sick or old (42). After seeing and feeling how this has affected my life and others, I realize that each person in the world has an obligation to another, in many ways.People have the obligation to consider others, to support them and to give basic respect and consideration to them.

If you feel like committing suicide, please reconsider. Pick up the phone, dial 911 and ask for help. Sometimes just talking to someone can help. No problem or situation is worth ending it all or giving up. Someone cares for you and will be able to help.

Please remember that you are not alone ad that every thing you do affects other people and vice versa. Call for help if you need it.

Answer 4

Committing suicide is the most selfish thing anyone could ever do. In doing so, that person is telling everyone that their needs and feelings were more important than those of everyone else around them. They don't consider how much pain their action would cause their family and friends. It's taking the easy way out. In a way they're telling their loved ones that their relationships with them are not worth persevering through whatever it is that they're going through at that time. Unfortunately, suicide leaves family and friends left questioning whether or not they did enough, if they were partially at fault. That is no act of love toward the people someone supposedly cares about.

Answer 5

It's sad they could not be helped. Yea, sure let's trash them after they die too and call them selfish. There has to be something deep seated for them to have acted that way. Don't blame yourself but have compassion and realize they must have been feeling so wounded they didn't think they could mend. Sometimes we do have opportunities to help them and sometimes we don't. Are they selfish? Ha! Introduce me to an unselfish human - everyone acts a little selfish sometimes. I think the best thing for us to do is really try hard to treat everyone with kindness as much as possible. Hopefully, suicide rates will go down.

Hey, I hope this isn't you. Listen I don't know what your situation is but PLEASE go talk to someone, especially, if you have children. You do have to think of your child. You do owe it to your children to get better. You CAN get better. Keep on praying to God. He REALLY does care and will take you through ANY situation. I KNOW this for a fact. Trust in Him. He has alot He has to work on (take a look at how this world is becomming). Give Him a chance to work His healing in your life. Keep on asking Him every single day, every chance you get. Remember, Jesus said to keep on knocking. Ask Him to send His love to you so you can feel His love. Btw, as far as your parents go they love you too and it will hurt them. How old are you? Why do you feel like you are going through emotional pain? Email me if you need to talk. I can listen. I am really good at it.

Answer 6

Yes. If you have family, anyone, you should not do it. Your parents' last thing they ever want to see is their children's funerals. No parent wants to bury their child. If you have children of your own, they will have to grow up without you and the idea of their mom or dad taking their own life will haunt them forever and probably cause psychological problems which may lead to their downfall. If you have siblings, they want their kids to grow up with their aunt or uncle. They want you to share all of their good/bad times and create memories with them. If you have friends, they want to come to you for advice, enjoy precious time with you, have your shoulder to cry on. Besides everyone else though, you shouldn't commit suicide simply because of you. You are an important and valued human being. You may not feel that way sometimes because the world can bring us down so much, but you really are. There are people in this world who you make smile and who cherish you. There is only one life to live. Do not take it from yourself. Enjoy it to the best of your ability. No problem is worth killing yourself over. I apologize for assuming that it is you who is contemplating suicide, but just in case it is, I would like for you to know that.

Answer 7

yes, i think you should consider that. i don't want role models for my children doing that. i feel that suicide is very selfish but sometimes it is the best choice and it is that person's choice; i support the right to make that choice. however, i don't want to die because i love life, i love my life.
sometimes people commit suicide exactly to get the impact they think it will have on others - to show or punish others. in the end the dead person loses because they don't have a chance to ever control anything after they are gone.

Answer 8

i imagine that someone who commits suicide is keen to get out of a few situation that they experience won't ever replace; or flow from undesirable to worse. that's egocentric, and extremely there'll be those who're left behind questioning what might want to were so terrible that the different human being felt there changed into no incorrect thanks to cope with it. interior the destiny by ability of taking your own existence, you maximum in all probability will harm many lives round you. i do not imagine if a Christian who commits suicide receives you a cost ticket to hell regardless of the reality that. I have no longer began to have a life like clarification why might want to someone who tried suicide yet failed might want to be forgiven notwithstanding the guy who succeeded can't.

Answer 9

Yes, I would not want my children in particular to have to wonder why I didn't love them enough to get the help that I needed. I would not want them to think that they weren't important enough to me for me to think about how they would feel. Also the children of people who commit suicide tend to commit suicide at some point in their life. It's like they have learned that life isn't worth fighting for and giving up is the easiest way out. That's not some thing that I want to teach my children no matter how bad things get. I have dealt with depression for over 40+ years, I was born with a dislocated hip and I have a limp and severe arthritis that makes it necessary for me to use crutches to walk and to stand. I have had to deal with a learning disability also. I was diagnosed last week with breast cancer, I could give up it should would be easier than having to have surgery again ( this will be my eigthet) and having to deal with radiation and chemo. But I want to live to see my youngest become a psychologist and my middle daughter a teacher maybe to see a grandchild or two or just to get to Switzerland my fantasy country. No for me committing suicide would be giving up to easily and not the legacy that I would want to leave my children.

Answer 10

Not an easy question. I know of two guys who were both schizoprehnic that killed themselves and both the familys declared that although it was sad and of coarse they would rather their family member still be alive, it may not have been their choice. One of the brothers of one told me that he understood why his brother did it, that he had been waking up to a living hell every day for years.
It depends on the persons circumstances and how hopeless their situation is (I guess) and how understanding the family are. But then again.. who is to say that one persons hell is worst then anothers. You can never really know what a person is going through. Personally whenever I feel in deep **** and consider death as an option I remind myself that I have a family here who love me and that is my reason for staying around.