I haven't been alone with him in a few years. I just happened to see him today and we talked for about an hour. He held my hand and told me that he missed me and thought about me often. Before we parted ways, he kissed me. It was one of those kisses you feel from head to toe. I love him more than I've ever loved anyone before. I miss him everyday. But, it seems that everytime something starts up again with us, it doesn't work out. I know I'm going to get sucked in again. It happens everytime. It's like I have an addiction when he's involved. How do I keep from getting my heart broken again?
2007-11-14 14:35:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear Sally,
The choice is yours to be sucked in or not. It sounds as though you both have your own lives so if you can have a happy medium the hell with the rest and go for it. Sometimes people just don't have the coincidental crossing that you get to have. Get sucked in if it makes you happy? Heart broken, I don't think so. You sound like a good person and you certainly care for him. Best of luck to you both!
2007-11-14 14:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by beamer 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You keep running...away. There's a reason that it's "on again, off again," and that he's an ex. If he felt strongly about you, he'd do more than THINK about you, he'd actually do something smacking of commitment.
What you are feeling is a strong pull to what you knew and were comfortable with, added with the spark of news that comes from time apart. That's all there is to it. Don't read more into this situation that what's there. And don't put the responsibility on him...you didn't have to kiss him. You say you love him? He clearly doesn't feel the same way. Sorry, there's no point in sugarcoating it.
You keep your heart from getting broken by using your brain.
2007-11-14 22:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are definitely going to run the risk of getting your heart broken, however, you will never know if this time will be different if you don't give it a try. If you really have your heart set on this maybe try a different approach. start of slower, let him come to you. Show that you are a stronger person now that you have learned from you previous relationship with him . If he really wants you back he will try and probably wont give up very easily. talk to him, tell him how you feel and then show him that you are willing to try if he is. Then take it slow.
2007-11-14 22:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by there4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you keep your heart from having your heart broken again? You don't allow yourself to be sucked up into a relationship with this guy again, since things don't seem to work out. On again, off again love affairs aren't real & you are destined to be hurt over & over again. Think about how it feels to have a broken heart & that alone should tell you to stay clear of this man. It's not mean to be.
2007-11-14 22:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In my personal opinion you need to seriously thing about the reasons you were off again and then maybe you'll remember what made break up. ask yourself this question "why did we break up? was I really happy? am I ltting my emotions and sexually needs take over? Why was my heart broken? why did I ask how I can keep my heart from being broken again?Youare askingthe question for a reason. Sometimes you already have the answer.Think about it before you make a decision. Just becasue you want it or need it doesn't mean its good for you I wish you the best
2007-11-14 22:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy Tease-Sex With Sassy Radio 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK, let's put the hormones in the garage and go with what works here. You've been sucked in by his charms more than once. Let's cross that off the paths we choose to take now. Bad plan. Why don't you take him off your list of possibilities, and avoid kissing him? Might be a way you can gain control of your future. Can you take yourself off this track of doom? You can have an affection for someone, but you don't have to have an intimate relationship with that person. Hope this helps, sweetie.
2007-11-14 22:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by rb29440 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is not off again on again. Love is a commitment.
If he can't commit, he's called a "Dancer" String you along,
A one sided relationship is a hurtful one, you have a right to know where you stand, so ask him point blank, if he returns your love and if you have a furture, if not better to cut the cord,
then bleed on again off again for too long, move on with your life, there is some one out there ready to return the love you have to give and deserve. (voice of experience) we never for
get our first true love, but we do indeed heal! Blessings!
2007-11-14 22:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by jenny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There were few things in my life I was regret that I did not try harder enough. One of things was breaking up with my ex. My situation was like you, it had always something to stop us, we loved so hard and it did not work out. He finally decided to go back to his ex because it would be easier, but he would not be happy when he was with me. I let go of him because that's his choice. I just wish he would try harder because time changes, people changes and situation will changes. There are not too many people you will have feelings with. If you still have feelings for him and miss him everyday all these years. I think you should give it a try.
2007-11-14 22:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by msutw123 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down and make a list of all the reasons that it did not work out before. Keep that list where you will see it every day, like on the bathroom mirror or kitchen cabinet door. Reread it every day.
2007-11-14 22:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. if you get involved with him (or anyone) you are taking the risk of getting your heart broken. this is life/love.
2. if you want to make sure not to get your heart broken the only way is not to get involved.
2007-11-14 22:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by Sufi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋